Find the courage to ask questions
Be Impeccable With Your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Don't Take Anything Personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
Don't Make Assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always Do Your Best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
By Don Miguel Ruiz from his best-selling book The Four Agreements
I had a moment today! Yea I have those! And I give permission to myself to have them and not beat up about it or judge it! Anyways, I was in a discussion with someone with a different point of view that mine. And I had a moment! You know sometimes I see myself regressing into my six year old self and pouting wanting my own way! So as I was falling into the past, my old six year old self I remembered Don Miguel Ruiz four agreements! I am not even sure how it entered my consciousness but it saved my friend from dealing with a six year old tantrums! What great advice, don’t take things personally and have the courage to ask before you make assumptions! Well let me tell you, the courage rose up from somewhere and I was asking questions like there was no tomorrow!! And just like magic, I was present in the moment and the situation was resolved, well for me it was I didn't take the comments or position they took personally and I asked about all the assumptions that I had (boy oh boy that was tough!!!)
What are you taking personally that pissed you off and affects your relationships?