"People typically struggle with boundaries because they find it difficult to hurt someone else’s feelings, or they get caught up in the desire to change the other person or make them treat them the way they want to be treated. This never works."
A great buddy of mine sent me an article yesterday from Mark Manson and the quote above hit me like whadaappp!! like a slap in the face because it spoke directly to me! (Thanks B for the article!)
We can't change people! Let people be who they are and then you get to choose if you want to be around them! And while you are choosing you get to learn some awesome lessons of acceptance, patience, compassion and unconditional love - of yourself and others!
But try to change someone or have no boundaries to give them hints, ideas, options of how to treat you is setting up yourself for hurt and frustration, you cannot argue with reality, you will suffer!
So what's real? Real is what is happening right now, right in front of your face! Not the stories we make up about what is happening!
Choosing is usually a kick in the shin, it's upheaval but hey most times a change or birth involves some discomfort!
All this to say to myself! Choose!!!!!!!!!!!!