How is your Sense of Self?
Ask yourself: “What am I doing right now in order to avoid the pain or situation?” Are you on Facebook? Playing video games? Smoking again? Eating your 12th cookie in an hour?“By behaving this way, what am I avoiding?” When you find the answer, face it. Marianne Selenee
When you have an intact, healthy sense of worth you value other people. You realize that people are different. You understand that people see things and interpret things in different ways.
You do not compare yourself to them, nor do you feel the need to compete with them.
You know who you are, which means you can accept others as they are.
When you do not have a healthy or intact sense of worth, you feel the need to win every argument.You feel the need to always prove your point.
You are threatened by differences.
You need agreement with your views, values in order to feel supported and acknowledged
When you are not sure who you are is good enough, you will do your darnest to prove that you are better than someone else. Since you do not have enough of your own worth to draw upon, you will set out to destroy the worth of those who you believe are opposing you
Breathe that in for a minute