Relationship Potential



To gain you must give, not bargain. To bargain is to limit giving, and this is not God's Will. To will with God is to create like Him. God does not limit His gifts in any way. You are His gifts, and so your gifts must be like His. Your gifts to the Kingdom must be like His gifts to you. ACIM 
I love Kyle Jones's work, it resonates with me on so many levels! I wanted to share this piece with you.

 Rather your relationship lasted a couple of weeks or twenty years, breaking up leads to feeling heartbreak and rejection. At times, these feelings make you question getting involved in a relationship again. - You questioning getting involved in a relationship again is fear-based. You have relationship trauma needing healing. - Without healing relationship trauma: * you settle for lustful experiences rather than loving experiences * you get in a relationship, but keep entertaining other potential options – just in case your relationship ends * you do anything to please your partner – out of fear of them leaving you * you become possessive and control your partner – out of fear of them leaving you * you lack trust issues and make misleading assumptions when your partner doesn't text back for awhile or goes a day without speaking * you get in a relationship, but your heart remains closed — you fear letting someone else in - These aren't loving behaviors, but acts of fear.

  Relationships are meant to be vulnerable, unpredictable, and intimate. They are mediums for growth. Past relationship trauma shouldn't ruin new relationship potential for growth. - How To Heal Past Relationship Trauma: 
1. Start defining your own worth rather than depending on relationships to feel worthy. When you depend on relationships to feel worthy, you carry your past relationship experiences with you – including in your self-perception.
 2. If you are holding a grudge with any of your ex-partners, forgive them. Also, forgive yourself for believing they did something wrong.
 3. Don't leave feeling loved up to someone else. 
4. Don't get involved in a new relationship until past relationship trauma has been healed. If you get involved in a new relationship without healing, those feelings stuck inside will eventually project themselves onto your new partner; and create further trauma.

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 Unveiling: Looking into the Mirror Of Self: Residential Retreat - Trinidad and Tobago May 2017
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