The Sacred Pause: When Ego Wants to Run the Show

I am seen. I am significant. I do not need to perform to belong. Last Sunday, I found myself triggered. I was at a workshop, and something in the room made me feel... unseen. Ignored. My instinct was to do something—to retreat, to isolate, or to make myself visible in ways that didn’t feel aligned. But instead, I did something radical. I paused. I took a sacred pause. In that stillness, I asked myself: Why am I feeling this way? What surfaced was fear—fear of being seen as unimportant by this group. My negative ego had slipped into the driver’s seat, whispering stories rooted in scarcity and self-doubt. But was that story true? No. I realized I didn’t need validation from anyone in that setting. My worth wasn’t up for negotiation. I let it go. And I was proud of myself. This was one of the first times I chose the pause over the performance. I didn’t act out. I didn’t shrink or shout. I simply sat with the discomfort and looked at the bigger picture. Why the Sacred Pause Mat...