What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

  Affirmation: “I no longer betray myself for peace. I create peace by being true.” “What do I need today—and am I honoring it?” A question asked with compassion. Received with surprise. And now held with reverence. It came from someone I admire deeply—intelligent, intuitive, and kind. And it landed in me like a seed. Quiet. Potent. Ready. Since that conversation, I’ve been paying attention.  Not just to what I do—but to why I do it. Not just to how I show up—but to whether I feel whole when I do. Because here’s the truth: It’s easy to lose ourselves. To dishonor ourselves. To convince ourselves that it’s nothing. We call it sacrifice. We call it being cool, being liked, keeping the peace. We call it “not a big deal.” But it is. It’s a betrayal of Self. And betrayal, even when done quietly, spills. Into our relationships. Into our work. Into our bodies. Into our joy. I’ve done it. I’ve ignored my needs to be liked. I’ve ignored my needs to avoid conflict. I’ve ignored my needs...

 Affirmation:  I am open to receiving abundance in all its forms—seen and unseen, simple and sacred. I trust that what I need is already on its way. I’ve been sitting with the word “abundance” lately. Not just the Pinterest version with gold fonts and overflowing fruit bowls, but the real, raw, everyday kind. The kind that whispers, nudges, surprises. The kind that shows up even when the bank account is quiet and the contracts are on pause. Abundance, to me, is the flow of energy from the Universal source of life. It’s spiritual and material prosperity. It’s love and wisdom. Talents and virtues. Money and material goods. It’s whatever we need to fulfil our purpose—and it doesn’t always come dressed in dollar signs. I’ve been meditating on how abundance shows up in my life, especially now, in this season of change. And let me tell you, it’s been showing up loud and clear. Not in the ways I used to expect, but in ways that feel even more sacred. A kind word from someone who sees...

Affirmation:    I honor the signs. I release the excuses. I choose truth, even when it’s inconvenient. We heal when we stop avoiding the signs. Not just the ones that whisper discomfort, but the ones that scream danger. Not just the physical aches, but the quiet erosion of self-trust. Healing, for me, is not just about the body. It’s about how I feel about myself when no one is watching. It’s about the choices I make when I want to win more than I want to be well. There are times I’ve wanted to win so badly— to prove I’m worthy, capable, right— that I’ve justified what I knew, deep down, was misaligned. I’ve ignored the nudge. I’ve overridden my intuition. I’ve dressed up excuses as discernment. I’ve even reached for spiritual platitudes to soothe the sting: “All is well.” “I saw a sign.” “I’m on the right path.” But Life, in her infinite grace, doesn’t let me get away with that for long. She loves me too much. She nudges. She whispers. She roars. She gets my attention in any...

Affirmation: I trust myself enough to choose" I believe our souls and spirits are involved in every single choice we make. Even the unconscious ones. Even the ones made in fear. Even the ones we avoid making altogether. Choice is not just a mental exercise. It’s a spiritual transaction. A whisper from the soul. A nudge from the spirit. A portal to creation. Sometimes I make choices knowing they’re not the best ones. I choose silence to avoid conflict. I choose compliance to be liked. I choose delay to dodge discomfort. And still—my soul is present. My spirit is involved. The consequence is never just external. It reverberates through the inner landscape. When I refuse to choose, I am still choosing. And my soul knows it. My spirit feels it. There is no bypassing the sacredness of choice. When we choose in alignment—with our values, our truth, our spirit— there is a peace. Not always ease. But peace. We are always being led to that place. To the choice that honors our wholeness. To...

  Affirmation: Peace is my compass. Integrity is my path. But when does that measurement begin? Is it at the moment of the decision? Or in the process that leads to it? Or in the unfolding that follows? I’ve been walking with this question lately. Especially when I hear someone say, “I made the right decision.” Often, they’re speaking of love. Of choosing a partner. Of finding happiness. But then they add, “The process was messy.” Cheating. Betrayal. Hiding. So I ask: If the union is happy, does it make you a better human being? Is it in alignment? It’s the same with the dream job. You get it. You’re thriving. But the path there was dodgy—manipulation, omission, stepping over someone else’s truth. Is that in alignment? Beyond Judgement, Beyond Ego I’m not asking these questions to judge. I’m asking to understand. To strip away ego and performance. To sit with the soul of the choice. Because alignment, to me, is not just about outcome. It’s about process. It’s about peace. The ...

“You have to know yourself, well enough to trust yourself, well enough to be yourself and know that that’s enough.” — Onami When someone asks, Do you know yourself? what do you say? I’ve noticed that many of us respond with what we are not. “I’m not a morning person.” “I’m not into cars.” “I’m not a people person.” Or we reach for roles: “I’m a mother,” “I’m an accountant,” “I’m a wife.” Sometimes we name our struggles: “I’m anxious,” “I have anxiety,” “I’m messy.” But rarely do we answer from the inside out. Rarely do we say: I am curious. I am tender. I am resilient. I am joy. Why is that? The External Mirror It’s easy to define ourselves by what we do, who we’re with, or what we’ve survived. Careers, relationships, identities—they offer structure. They give us language. But they’re also temporary. If I am only “a wife,” what happens when the marriage ends? If I am “an entrepreneur,” who am when the business folds? I’ve learned that when I tie my sense of Self to something external,...