What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

  Create.  Create in a variety of ways. Create every day. Creativity is the speedboat that skims you across the waves of powerlessness, despair, denial, and fear. Creativity is a powerful portal into wholeness.  Hiro Boga We live in an era of endless self-help content. There are books, podcasts, retreats, and TikTok videos all preaching the same message: "Love yourself!" But here’s the hard truth—no amount of consuming self-love content will ever replace actually doing the work. Loving yourself isn’t just about affirmations in the mirror or journaling your feelings (though those can help). Real self-love is action. It’s showing up for yourself when it’s easier not to. It’s making the tough choices today so your future self thanks you. I have learnt that Self-Love Looks Like: ✔  Taking the first step —even if it’s small. The gym, the business idea, the better eating habits—none of it happens without action. ✔  Watching your self-talk —and changing it when it’s cr...

  "Life is not always tidy. It’s full of unexpected twists, tangled emotions, and unforeseen hurdles. But within the chaos lies the magic—the chance to grow, adapt, and discover resilience we didn’t know we had." It’s a comforting thought, isn’t it? That a happy life is one free of problems. That if we’re good, kind, and follow the unwritten “rules” of decency, life will reward us with smooth sailing. I certainly grew up p believing this, holding tight to the notion that challenges are mere inconveniences, avoidable with enough status, power, or wealth. But life, unpredictable and untamed, doesn’t work that way. I learnt this the hard way. I, was sold on the formula: be good, be nice, and you’ll be spared heartbreak and drama. I thought that being a good person was the ultimate antidote to life’s troubles. But life, in its infinite wisdom, taught me otherwise. It taught me that experiences cannot be skipped, no matter how carefully we try to outmaneuver them. And honestly? Th...

Letting go actually decreases self-centeredness and allows love to come forward much more unconditionally and with greater strength Yung Pueblo    I  learned the true meaning of radical acceptance after what I considered the biggest betrayal of my life. It wasn’t just about the act itself—it was the shattering of trust,  and the painful realization that some things cannot be undone. For a long time, I wrestled with the why. Why did they do it? Why didn’t I see it coming? Why couldn’t they just choose differently? I exhausted myself trying to understand, to negotiate, to fix what was never mine to fix. Radical Acceptance Was the First Step Radical acceptance wasn’t passive resignation—it was the conscious decision to stop fighting reality. I had to accept: I could not change them. Their choices, their actions, their justifications—none of it was within my control. I had ignored red flags. There was no shame in admitting that; it simply meant I had trusted when I shoul...

There are some things that you just can’t buy an immediate solution for, and you simply have to accept the long journey in front of you. The aspects of life that require slow work are usually things that will bring you the greatest sense of fulfillment. Seeing your effort create new results is an incredible feeling. Yung Pueblo  In a world full of distractions and endless possibilities, the key to success often lies in one simple principle: consistency. As the quote so beautifully puts it, “It is your consistency that focuses your energy towards making your aim come true.” This is a powerful reminder that it is through consistent effort, day in and day out, that we build the foundation for achieving our dreams. But what does consistency really mean in the context of personal growth and inner work? Consistency as the Bridge to Your Vision Consistency is more than just a habit—it's the backbone of progress. Whether you're striving for a better version of yourself or chasing a sp...

  When you know of a thing, all that you know is locked in place in your mind . Mama Bello I was listening to Carolyn Myss talk about power. Her perspective was that there is so much power in humility, and humble is not being poor and not having a place. I listened to how she described a humble person and it literally brought tears to my eyes and want to live a life of humility. Call me humble because this is my standard to now live by  The most protected person in the world is also the most humble, and humility makes someone nearly impervious to the tricks of darkness. Why is that? Because a humble person desires nothing that doesn't rightfully belong to them. They are untempted by fleeting, material possessions, and their sense of worth isn't rooted in insecurity. In fact, humility and insecurity cannot coexist. A humble person has no fear of judgment and understands their own boundaries—they know what they don't want or need. They aren't dependent on external validat...

  By entering into the silence, acknowledging divine substance, affirming his faith in and oneness with it, man becomes conscious of substance .Law of Metaphysics  Every year, like clockwork, the streets of Trinidad and Tobago come alive with the pulsating rhythms of soca, the vibrant colors of costumes, and the infectious energy of Carnival. For as long as I can remember, I’ve been a part of this celebration, losing myself in the music, the laughter, and the sheer joy of it all. But this year, I decided to do something radically different. Instead of joining the revelry, I chose silence. No music, no phone, no distractions—just me and my thoughts for two whole days. What I discovered was both challenging and transformative. I’ll admit, the decision didn’t come easily. Carnival is more than just a festival; ever since I have known myself, Carnival has been a part of my life, whether it was playing mas, going to fetes, joining in the Panorama.  Two years ago I took a trip...