What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

 If you serious about growth, be serious about accountability - Inner Practioner Now What?  Now that I have learnt some valuable lessons - some the hard way. Now that we are living in a pandemic. Now that I know who I am. Now that I have the tools and more importantly the courage to love myself. Now that I am accepting the truth rather than making up stories about how and what it should be Now that I know better Now that I am listening to my intuition more Now that I have the tools to love myself Now that I am loving myself Now what? Now What is the name of the 4th book that has been birthed through me. I am excited to share the stories Trust me, the lessons continue, the fears, doubts, mistakes, missteps but now, I can spot them earlier or deal with them with less resistance, I can pull out the tools and apply the lessons Its actually quite a Journey - never boring! I invite you to join me on the Journey and Ask Yourself  Now what? Drops in March 2021 Pre Orders begin on December 1st

 The Holy Spirit will respond to your slightest invitatio n ACIM What type of questions do you ask yourself? There is a thought that asking why may be one of the most debilitating questions to ask because asking why can lead to further questions rather than leading you to a solution. There is also a view that when we ask empowering questions, we get empowering responses and the flip side of that is when we ask debilitating questions, we get similar type of answers. Empowering Questions 1. What can I learn from this? 2. What am I learning from this? 3. How can I make better choices? 4.What can I do better next time? Debilitating Questions 1. Why me? 2. Why is this happening to me? 3. Why are they like that? Be careful what you ask for now takes on a whole different meaning. Peace  Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here? Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal Follow Akosua on

  When you find yourself experiencing the same problems over and over again, it may be because you’re so expert at coping with this type of situation that you don’t realize  you are coping . The Urban Monk Feedback can sometimes come and smack you in the face especially when we ignore the nudges and subtle messages that usually come before the smack. The nudges and subtle messages come wrapped in ease and sometimes silence. When we are overly busy and distracted we can miss it. We can ignore it, we can justify it with externals. When the smack comes, there is simply no denying, you either pay attention or face the consequences. Life has a way of reflecting to us what we need to pay attention to. It reflects to us through what happens in our lives, how we respond to the things that happen in our lives.  I have learnt that when we start defending our habits, when we start focusing on the externals, when we are simply hanging on to a position because of fear, there is no way to take respo

  Every good ancestor that we know of lived through their own times such as these (actually, much worse), and yet they kept moving forward .  Layla Saad I started growing a garden outside of the flat in which I now live. I live within a compound which include other flats and townhouses. The garden became a problem because  the committee decided that the it broke the rules as to what common areas must look like and was quite ugly. Common areas should be pretty and preferably lawn grass. The garden  includes sweet potatoes, lemon grass, corn, pawpaw's, pumpkin and kale. Within a small area close to the car garage. When I was told of the confusion that this garden caused, immediately I felt a combination of anger, fear and  helplessness. How dare they call it ugly and want to destroy it? To hear that the garden was breaking the rules, ugly and will or must be dug up, I felt livid and a tad but hurt. I refused to do anything, including dig it up or cease and desist. Days passed. This m

  There's a responsibility in being human, and a greater responsibility when being a conscious compassionate one.  Guru Singh We have a responsibility to ourselves, to each other, to the community to, to the world to be decent human beings. The responsibility grows when we have put in the work on ourselves, when we have been provided the tools, the gifts, the platforms, and we use it to make the world a better place. Even when we do not recognize the responsibility or deny them, it is there reminding us to show up. That responsibility to live well, to love well, to demonstrate well. The main responsibility is to yourself . Someone says that they didn't ask to be a role model. I think that sometimes our gifts push us to a space where others look at how we live. It may not be fair, it may seem burdensome, however it is many times our own path. With power comes responsibility.  How many of us fall in to the trap of judgement, feeling superior, a hands off approach and denial? This

  This year was scripted to help us wake up . Pyramid Realm Someone asked me to describe my 2020 in a sentence. I thought about it for a minute - ok , for more than a minute. This is my sentence, I would absolutely love it if you can share with me your own sentence. 2020 has been an incredibly transforming, challenging, revealing and undeniable year. Peace Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here? Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal Follow Akosua on Twitter Instagram Facebook

  What You Resist Persists What Are Your Forms of Resistance?  Resistance, I define, as the action one takes to avoid doing the thing that you know that you must do due to fear.  Fear can manifest in many forms Fear of Failure Fear of Success Losing Something or Someone Dealing with Difficult People and Situations. Anxiety Feeling Overwhelmed  Resistance looks like 1. Procrastination 2. Self Sabotage 3. Starting Arguments 4. Denial  5. Avoidance 7. Withdrawal 8. Being Late 9. Hiding through eating, not eating, shopping, numbing self 10. Making up stories Resistance can take place when there is a change ahead, when there is a task that is new, when there is a lack of control Change is a challenge, its new, it takes the willingness to be uncomfortable and make mistakes, to fall down, Failure, mistakes and falling down is not usually rewarded by society and so we avoid it Resistance can be asking us what really matters to you, do you really trust yourself? When the resistance comes up, ge

  One of the most damaging aspects of being betrayed is that you question your ability to make good choices.  When you see what you were scared of, you neutralize the fear, and when you do that, you can regain some trust in yourself. Danielle La Porte Is your motivation to act coming from a place of fear or love? What drives you to make a decision? Joy? Pressure? External Validation or Pressure? Do you even know? Having been "burned" a few times, I can tell you without a shadow of a doubt that some of my decisions come flavored with fear and doubt, especially if  I ignore my feelings rather than feel them. Especially if I have old tapes from the past running through my head replaying what has happened in the past. If I make up stories, the decision has the tendency to be delayed until its near perfect What I have learnt is, being "burned", becomes easier to navigate when we can be honest with ourselves, when we can be honest about the role we played, when we can fe

  As you know, hanging onto intense emotional energy over time doesn't do a body good . Dr. Claretha Yeager 4 WAYS TO RELEASE TRAPPED EMOTIONS IN THE BODY JOURNALING WITHOUT A FILTER Before your day begins or it ends, let it ALL go. And be honest with yourself.  BREATHWORK Breath of Fire, 4-7-8 breathing, or Wimhof...there are many ways to breath with intention. Breath is one of the most powerful ways to move stuck energy and emotions through the body. MOVEMENT Whether it be yoga, dancing, hiking, or running, moving the body is helpful to clear the mind. SPEAKING OUT TRUTHFULLY Allow more of your true self to be heard. Be courageous in sharing yourself honestly.   Peace Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here? Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal Follow Akosua on Twitter Instagram Facebook

 Levelling up is living your truth, and taking responsibility for curating the life that you want and know that you deserve Levelling up is allowing your light to shine, no matter what.  Levelling up is having faith in yourself in uncertain moments. Levelling up is showing up as you. I have had some lessons in the level up, here are my top fifteen 1. Make a  firm and conscious decision - indecisiveness stops levelling up. To not decide is to live by default. Making a conscious decisions literally transports you to the next level. 2. Own Your Stuff - take responsibility for your actions, the moment that you start blaming, rationalizing, justifying why you do or not do, then you have given up your power. Giving your power impedes levelling up. 3. Surround Yourself with Your Tribe - who are the people around you? Who are you sharing your vison with? Levelling up requires a safe space, a tribe that will love you and yet still hold you accountable, a group that respects you, your differen

  Burnout exists because we've made rest a reward rather than a right - The Last MindBender  Rest is a part of the Journey. Somewhere along the path, many of us were taught that resting was a weakness, that taking time off showed laziness. So we worked and worked and worked or we felt guilty for stopping to take a break. There are people that I personally know who boasts of not taking or being on a holiday in many years, they boast and speak about it like a badge of honour.  There are those who believe that they cannot afford to stop working, their value is tied up in it. If they are seen as not working, they will be deemed unworthy or unproductive. Imagine, we now live from a space where working and earing money to pay bills is not only the most important activity in our lives and we are rewarded and celebrated for it. It's all about the grind, the hustle, the bag, cash monay! We celebrate the person who will work long hard hours at the expense of their health, they are reward

“ Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.” ~   Carl Bard The time is drawing near for the release of  my book "Now What?"  Even though this is the third time around, I still feel butterflies and nerves. I still feel an excitement. Even more now with the way the world has shifted into a pandemic.  Writing this story this time around brought me so much growth. I had so many other things going on in my life, whereas with the other books I was far away from distractions and comfort zones. I had to focus on being present despite the distractions, it takes determination to fool proof the distractions. I can safely say that the experience of writing during the mandatory stay at home period allowed me to reflect on where I have been and helped me make decisions as to where I am going.  Self Reflection with an open mind works wonders, trust me! It allowed me to see who is in my tribe, the people who are true, open

  The essence of boundaries is differentiating what  we  want from what others want  from  us . John Amodeo There will be times when what we want will blend in with what others want. There will be times when what we want will not be the same as what others want. When we have differing values and needs, there will be some disagreement and even some conflict. This is where boundaries come in. Boundaries tell us and others where we begin and end. Boundaries tell us what we are comfortable with and what we are not. To know what our boundaries are, we have to know who we are. Boundaries are difficult for many people because it can reflect a difference of opinions and values, we may be scared to lose them. If we live from the space of fear of loss and avoidance of conflict, we may end up doing what we don't want to do and going against our values. We may end up not setting any boundaries at all. Clearly stating your needs and desires is an important part in gaining self-respect. When the

  Allowing   for today to happen,  Accepting  that this day may not turn out as  planned,  Accommodating  for what is, and not what I may  want,  When I am grounded in  Allowing, Accepting and  Accommodating , I invite Sufficiency of what is  rather than scarcity of what is not. Seven Stone Leadership I have noticed that when I set a rigid to-do list on any particular day and things come up and I have to shift them, I start feeling anxious and annoyed. It is as if changing these plans or re arranging the list is a bother, an upheaval, a form of non achievement. I decided then, instead of writing a to do list daily I would set an intention and give the day to the Universe. Giving the day to the Universe, I ask for guidance on what is to come. I have noticed that "giving the day away" makes me less anxious and edgy. I have been practicing the giving away. This is not to say that I neglect the commitments that I have, the difference is I am more open to  change when it happens.

  Stop Thinking And start  feeling . Thought processes, as you have become familiar with them, are not needed here. Instead, begin to pay attention to the feelings in your body. Pay close attention to your chest and stomach areas. When people talk about “gut feelings,” they are referring to intuition. It creates very real feelings in your body. When you start to notice them, you can begin to listen to what they have to say. Leaders Edge Noise Drowns It Out....gentle reminder to self. The small voice within is your guide, it gives you specific, tailor made divine guidance & works particularly well when we ask, it works even better when we get still, when we pause. It never shouts, sometimes it whispers, you will miss it if you are too "busy", if you are drowning it out with excessive "noise". "Noise" can be self judgement, drinking too much alcohol. working too much, condoning toxic relationships,not taking responsibility for your actions, too much TV &

 There are so many ways to go backwards, but only one way forward . Danielle La Porte Give yourself some credit, give yourself a high five. Why? Eight months into a global pandemic that threw the world into a tail spin, you are still here - you deserve to say well done to self, to appreciate this. Give yourself some credit for waking up daily and doing what you need to do, if you are doing what you want to do, give yourself an even bigger pat on the back. Give yourself a break, this has been an intense year. Many literally have not made it.  Give thanks for the opportunities, the lessons and the blessings. Celebrate the difficult conversation that you had that you usually avoid.  Give yourself credit for having the courage to do that new thing that you kept procrastinating with. Congratulate yourself for speaking up even when your voice was trembling.  Many times we forget to celebrate ourselves, to give ourselves credit when we are so focused on achieving a particular goal, when we ha