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The Light Comes In

I think when you are entirely open and honest with yourself a door opens and the light comes in - April Green

I had a penny dropping moment this moment, you know the type where you saw "Oh!" or "Aha" or "Hmm"
I was, of course, writing in my journal this morning and it came to me - I have been anxious about everything! the flow, the relaxation, the belief has been usurped lately by doubt and anxiety and pressure - albeit on myself. I laughed out so loud when it came to me. The awareness of it all made me chuckle. How can I let doubt take over this? Why would I? I have planted the seeds and the lessons will be learnt along the way
Have you ever been so anxious for something to work, you stress over it? you dig up the seeds?
As I reflected on 2018 I realised, even the things that I planned that went differently was even so much better either in terms of lessons learnt or in terms of the events itself, the joy it brought, the love that was present
So, here we…

I DeClare

The intention to grow instantly creates space for your body to step into but, unless you let go of everything weighing you down then that space dissolves into air like a broken promise  - April Green 
I DeClare It is rare that I make resolutions
Don’t want them to haunt me in the dead of night
Each day guilted by all the things I said I would or would not do I only do what I want, when I want
With a full heart or not at all
And the rest will have to settle somewhere between my lips and my intention I don’t DeClare often But there comes a day
When I am more than dependable woman
More than what I’ve accomplished or seek to and as that day approaches
Know this: I declare to remember how to love
In the face of hurt in my heart
I will love you, that’s me
Foolishly, at times, but courageous
I vow to forgive
To ignite the soft of me and surrender to that knowledge that everything ain’t gonna grow like I grow
Aint gon’ know what I know, how I know
And that is ok
There is still love in letting go I commit to…

Knowing Who You Are is the Beginning and End of It All

whatever parts of me you are drawn to are simply those parts that are already within you - all I am giving you is the gift of awareness. April Green
Everything comes back to you. Everything It really is quite an empowering feeling to know that we have what it takes to make the required moves and changes in our lives - the trick is taking responsibility and ownership of it. We cannot outsource our power, our happiness, our well being It is between you and the Universe This is a hard concept to grasp because since we were children we were taught to depend on others for everything. This led to us neglecting our inner voice and our power. To look outside of ourselves for every.single.thing! It even became disconcerting to look within and rely on self for answers. To praise self, to honour self. Trust me my friends, this is where it all begins and ends With Self! Knowing and trusting who you are at the core of your being As we come to the close of 2018, I want to remind you of your power -…

Happy Holidays

The past does not equal the future unless you live there - Tony Robbins

Blessings to each and every one of you. I want to say a huge thank you for accompanying me on the Journey of 2018 and sharing your own lessons as well. I am truly grateful.

2018 was truly a wild ride, with it's ups and downs, highs and lows. How boring life would be without them!

The highlight of my 2018 was spending time with the young ladies of the St Jude's Home for Girls, and being part of their birthday celebrations!

What were some of your highlights?
Drop me a line, let's share lessons on the Journey

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Destination Addiction

Don’t get so caught up in the pursuit of happiness that you forget to feel happy on the way there - Gabrielle Tranor

This morning I read a piece and the focus was on "destination addiction".   It’s a term used to describe the belief that success and happiness is the destination: “Everything will be better once we’re in our new house,” “I’ll be successful when I can buy myself a new car,” “I’ll be happy when I can fit into a smaller pair of jeans.” Sound familiar?  It means there’s a feeling of dissatisfaction, unhappiness even, with your life as it is currently.  So, what I understood from reading about destination addiction is, to focus on the now, still keeping in mind your goals and objectives. Focus on where you are and you will see that not only are there many reasons to be grateful but there are many reasons to be happy. We miss the moment by looking at what is coming or what should be It's funny how we "should" and "focus on the intangible" for thin…

Universal Laws and Life

It has always been in the nature of humanity to believe mostly in the things we can see, feel, taste, hear or touch while doubting anything else that is beyond the perception of our immediate senses. However, whether you believe it or not, these Universal Laws influence our everyday lives and you cannot change that. G. Gold-Flight

Not all days are fun days, not all times are fun times, not everyone is kind and lovely, I have learnt that those things are not and never a reflection of who I am. I used to think that bad things only happen to bad people, so if I was good then only good things will happen to me!
Well, here we are! that theory busted!
Who defines what is good anyway?

What I have learnt is that there is a Universal Law of Duality. There is also a Universal Law of Polarity. Most importantly I have learnt that many of other people's choices has nothing to do with me.
Basically, The Law of Duality basically states that everything is on a continuum and has a complementary opposit…

Start From a Place of Gratitude

Why would you seek to try another road, another person or another place, when you have learned the way the lesson starts, but do not yet perceive what it is for? ACIM

Are you always seeking something bigger, something bling-er, something shinier, something more grand,something somewhere else?
When does it end?
And how do we decide the difference between  growth and discontent?
On  the journey I have learnt that it is easy to be stuck in the discontent phase, always looking for something different, bigger, and neglecting where we are It is a sure fire way to become bitter and twisted Gratitude pulls me back It says- here, right here where you are there is something to be thankful for right here, give thanks Something that simple takes me back to present and puts a smile on my face, and a totally different perspective in place That is not to say that striving for growth ought to be abandoned Oh hell no It just says that starting from a point of gratitude is much more pleasant than from a plac…

Hard Conversations are...Hard

Be willing simply to move in this direction, and do not judge how near or far you are, how easy or how difficult you think the way. Simply be willing for it to be. Be not anxious or restless if it seems to elude you; restlessness is only a delaying tactic.ACIM

Confessions on the Journey - Hard Conversations freak me out, and I know why!
As a recovering people pleaser, I want people to be pleased with me, having hard conversations means that I may bear the brunt of others not being "pleased" with me or my choices. For any peace and growth in life, we must be able to have conversations and make choices or decisions that are not at all popular.
I continue to embrace the lessons, some I get right away and some well it took me quite a while to get. 
The lessons that I have got from having hard conversations are   are: 1. to go with courage, kindness and love. Start the conversation there! 2. be willing to be wrong 3. being defensive is a no no 4. tell the whole truth, all the tim…

Making Decisions in Peace

If you make decisions based upon people's reactions or judgments then you make really boring choices. Heath Ledger

I have decided not to move, and not feel guilty about it
Have you ever made a decision and just knew that despite it not making sense? I make those when, in the end, I feel at peace.
Right now, I feel at peace with the decision and willing to deal with the consequences!

Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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Moving House & the Lessons

We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.
C. JoyBell C.

I have to move...and soon
This makes me sad
I have to pull out the lessons that I have learnt thus far and be prepared for the new ones that I know are coming
I love where I am, I really love it, it is like a dream where I am
I know it is temporary but letting go is a lesson that I am in special ED class with
One lesson comes to mind is let go and trust.I don't know what the other lessons yet are but the feeling is one of sadness.
That's it!

Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here? Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Who Are Your Teachers?

Honor the teachers that push and challenge you through time -- the ones that don’t let you "slack-off", or waste your precious moments -- but don’t mystify them. Great teachers are examples to be copied; paths to be followed . . . to be loved, and respected, but when placed on pedestals -- the equal reaction is, they’ll always fall. This damages your belief in the teachings, the teachings that pushed and challenged you to grow further and faster; to save the precious time of your life; to ultimately have the time of your life. Guru Singh

There are so many teachers around me, I have come to the conclusion that many of the people who push my buttons and piss me off are also my teachers, they have allowed me to either demonstrate how not to be and to learn patience, compassion and non judgement.

People who are comfortable speaking their truth and are courageous to do with kindness, also teach me that freedom is important. Freedom from other people's opinion.

The ones living…

A Proud Day - NiNa Graduation

The journey is never ending. There's always gonna be growth, improvement, adversity; you just gotta take it all in and do what's right, continue to grow, continue to live in the moment. Antonio Brown

Today is the graduation for the NiNa Young Entrepreneurship  an  Leadership Programme.

NiNa is a leadership and entrepreneurship programme developed for young women to embody an entrepreneurial mindset. Bishops and Trinity East Sixth Form School has been a partner for a very long time, they continue to churn out excellence on an annual basis

I am especially happy and proud to see this programme continue despite my traversing and being present to facilitate this. Mrs Patricia Toby has been a God send, she has been committed to NiNa. Avinash, a teacher at the school has been supportive from the first day I introduced the idea to him. I have so much respect and gratitude for them both, they didn't know me but wanted to join up and assist.
2019 is around the corner I see the progr…

Give Yourself Permission

“Don't aim for perfection. Aim for 'better than yesterday'.” 
― Izey Victoria Odiase

I am announcing today, plainly & openly, right here, right now that I, Akosua Dardaine Edwards, have given myself permission to
- not kill myself to be perfect.
- to not always feel I need to have all the answers.
- to not feel guilty for not having all the answers.
- to mess up & recover minus the guilt.
- to always show up as me - every single time.
- to know that there are consequences for each choice & be prepared to live with the consequences of my choice even if its unpopular.
- to love & serve despite it all.
I also give myself permission to be my awesomely flawed self & remember that I am enough

Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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Who Are You Becoming?

Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming. John Wooden

We know when things are about to change
We know when we are forcing something
We know when it is time to leave
We know when it is time to arrive
We know when it is time to make another choice
We know!
What happens quite a bit is most times we don't follow the knowing because it takes us into an unfamiliar place, the unknown, the "I don't know" space.
Most times we listen to the noise, rather than that still soft voice
Life has a way of showing us where we are
We carry on as normal and more times than not, shit hits the fan
We get fired, laid off, downsized, restructured
The relationship comes to an end
The car stalls
The health stalls
we do all sorts of magic to keep the job, car, house, relationship, the things and nothing works
Because it is time, time for you to have self belief, patience, faith, trust, cou…

Confusion and It's Fix

I wanted to share with you a blog from Maxie McCoy which truly resonated with me, I hope that you enjoy it Peace

"Confusion is typically born from one party not being clear, and one party not asking for the clarity.  In an effort to remain comfortable, we choose not to be direct. But in that lack of clarity is confusion. And confusion keeps us on the hook. Confusion becomes a murky pool of questions. Confusion leads to painful blind siding they didn't see coming. Confusion harvests all kinds of pain and resentment that could have been avoided by just being clear. Being direct. And saying the things that are hard to say. I've caused confusion. And I've tolerated it. I've committed to things in person that I had no intention of following through on. I've held my real feelings close because I didn't want to hurt their feelings on the spot. I've hoped it would all just go away instead of having to own my responsibility in it, out loud. I've ignored po…

Back Home

The way we experience the world around us is a direct reflection of the world within us. Gabrielle Bernstein

Coming home after a trip is usually a bitter sweet moment for me.Being away from the daily routine gives me an opportunity to reflect. Reflection can bring up moments that can be tough to accept particularly when we know that there are better choices that we can make, that there can be more discipline and consistency in our lives, less judgement, less fear.

Looking into the mirror of self is critical for growth, and sometimes that can be uncomfortable because your dress can be stuck in your drawers and you had no clue. I have learnt that everything starts within, everything starts with a decision to do, to move, to love.
Every business
Every dream
Every great love affair
Every movement

And so, when I reflect I get to see that I have been avoiding decisions, out of fear
How would I...... insert as required
How would my bills?
How would without him/her?
How w…

Travel Chronicles

When you face struggles with an attitude of openness—open to the painful feelings and emotions you have—you find out that it’s not comfortable, but you can still be fine and you can still step forward.  Openness means you don’t instantly decide that you know this is only going to be a horrible experience—it means you admit that you don’t really know what the next step will be like, and you’d like to understand the whole truth of the matter.  It’s a learning stance, instead of one that assumes the worst. Marc Chernoff

I left South Africa on Thursday, my first stop was Dubai, 8 hours away, the lines to check in for Dubai were crazy until people started getting annoyed and shouting because of the chaos, I pulled out a book to keep my focus. In the end I thought about the lady who started shouting, how many of us benefit from the rabble rouses, she demanded some order in the way they were checking in the passengers. People were not joining any lines, they were generally just pushing and s…