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Take the Next Step

So if you're at a cross roads, if you're doubting your choices, if you're confused about what's next...close your eyes or open a journal and ask her...that future self one year, five years, twenty years or beyond...ask for the help, the wisdom and the encouragement to take the step. Maxie McCoy

Have you ever been thrown in on the deep end of something, either because you wanted to solve a problem or someone decided that the reward for your good work is more work? And here is the clincher, you probably have never done any of the tasks that you have been asked or have little skills in the area.
What do you do?
How do you feel?

Confessions on the Journey- I feel scared, just a tad bit!

So what do you do?

 I feel all the feelings

I get prepared, I do the work and I go brave- full on work

What would you do?


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Remain open

I will gain more understanding when I long as I have an emotional attachment to a goal, I am attached to the fear of not achieving the goal. Iyanla Vanzant

My disappointment always comes with having a particular attachment to how something must look. I want it a certain way at a certain time
Or sometimes I want it to look like it did in the past
Or sometimes I want certain people to be involved or notice
Or sometimes I want the thing to end sooner than it has to

Attachment to the way things look and how it is supposed to be is different that setting a goal/having a vision and working it
Once the work has been done, the faith has been activiated, the self belief has been tapped into, you are on the right path. Things may show up in  ways you would never ever ever imagine.
Do not block the flow by wanting it to be one way, remain open and willing to have things on the road to where you are going look different, feel different, be different!

These past few weeks, raising fun…

Acceptance Mode

"When people show you who they are believe them the first time" Maya Angelo

Do we really lose friends? I have been pondering this question for a few days

Or do we just wait until things are so obvious that the union cannot move forward in the way that we want?

Do we really know that some people's differences are not meshing with ours in a way that would prevent a mutual union in the future?

Do we play a role in how the relationship unfolds?

I go back to Maya Angelo's quote "when people show you who they are believe them the first time" and adjust accordingly. Adjust accordingly can mean, set some boundaries, it can mean having a frank and open conversation, it can mean loving them from afar.

In the last few weeks, a couple of relationships have shifted in the way that had me asking these questions
The hardest thing was me acceoting the role in which I played in this unfolding
In one case, the person just disappeared and when I reached out, they said they we…

The Comfort Killers

In life, you're given the responsibility for yourself, and the opportunity to serve everyone else. True fulfillment and success arrives when you’ve achieved a balance between these two worlds . . .Guru Singh

I had the pleasure of having an absolutely wonderful conversation with Stacey on her podcast, we talk, stories, purpose, sharing lessons on the Journey, why are you here and who are you without the things

Take a listen, share your own lessons

Akosua Dardaine Edwards on the Stacy A Cross Show

One Whole Day

Those who plant blessings shall also harvest blessings - Gratitude Habitat

Blessings are everywhere.  

I could embrace the deep truth that, “I have everything I need.” I may not have all that I want but how much do I want? And why do I wantall "those" things? I’m not sure I’ve reflected upon that question long and hard. I wonder what I would discover about myself. I could wander into the rare air of truth – that life is but a very brief journey. Do I invest this precious gift of my life chasing after fleeting thingsor by treating each dayand each experience as a new surprise? Anything can happen. I could dwell in faith: I am blessed. Many times, I am not sure what that means but how much do I need to have to realize my blessings?

One whole day......

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The Bootstrapper's Way

When you’re no longer needing a witness; when you are no longer wanting to be 'OK' . . . this is when you’re open to the surprise of being phenomenal in ways that you’ve never imagined. you must release ‘wanting’ in order to embrace ‘having’ . . . awakening . . . it comes with confidence; it comes with simplicity, and it comes with trust and joy. In today’s world there’s an obsession with witness, and to be witnessed; there’s also a need to justify and explain each experience. This is not living . . . this is witnessing an explanation of living.  Guru Singh

I signed up to do a PhD. I believed at that time that it would elevate me into another stratosphere and people would see that I am doing relevant work. I t would make me credible because in my mind, nothing else could have come close to this credential, who would question it? I signed up after selling my car and whatever else I could have sold, I left a bit of a mess at home and made the journey to Manchester with one year'…

Check Yourself

Look out and see what is, maybe understand why it is that way but do not feel trapped by it, do not feel that it is bigger than you, we created all this drama but what you create you can uncreate Rev Deborah L Johnson

Take an honest look at your life, no judgement. What are some conditions in your life that you contributed to? I've learnt that when we start defending and justifying our decisions, there may be some drama or some guilt involved

It is almost like someone touched an open would, you cringe, or you may react, you scream, you attack, you defend.

It may seem like a simple question or remark from some one and it is either a case of all hell breaking loose or a passive aggressive stance.

Taking an honest look at my life I have realised that I contribute to some of my drama and as much as it is hard to admit, I have come to realise that when I acknowledge and accept it the power to change it lies with me
When I ignore it, or deny it, or justify it then the drama continues

Girls First

Self-Esteem – how you see and hold yourself in the face of others. Do you compare? Do you belittle? Iyanla Vanzant

Girls First Festival was lit!
The festival travelled throughout Trinidad and Tobago  over the last year, providing a safe space for young ladies between the ages of 12 and 18 to express themselves, to be empowered, to have fun!
I was extremely pleased to be a part of the line up and would love to endorse this programme wholehartedly!
To see the joy on the young ladies' faces was pure awesomeness
To see them meeting new friends
To see them being able to have fun in an environment of caring
To see the older women passing on the baton

Really wonderful
Thank you for the opportunity to share lessons on the Journey
and long may this initiative continue

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Use Your Innate Power

We were all born with a certain degree of power. The key to success is discovering this innate power and using it daily to deal with whatever challenges come our way. Les Brown

What would you say if I told you that you have an inherent ability in you to achieve anything that you set out to?
Will you believe it?
Will you go out and test this theory?
Or will you think I am talking rubbish or stark crazy?
The trick is, the only way to access this ability, or this power is to have unwavering self belief, it is to know that whatever happens you will be okay, to do everything from a place of enoughness, of authenticity. That is the only way that we can tap into this power.
We seem to have either forgetten about this power or was never told  about it. It could be that we do not believe that we can achieve what we set out to.
What trips us up is lack of discipline, lack of focus and lack of belief.
Without discipline, focus, belief and doing the work, the powers can never be fully activated.


Reality is a projection of your thoughts or the things you habitually think about.” 
― Stephen Richards

Manifestation is always a lesson that I was fascinated with
Manifestation is this case is about seeing something in my mind's eye, doing the work and then letting it go, surrendering to the process in faith, trust and patience! The surrendering part is always the most challenging
As I practice it more I get better at it and less fussed about what and when things will happen

I had a conversation with my business manager a few months ago, I wanted to talk at an annual conference which I believed fit in to my vision. I asked her if she knew anyone that we could have approached. Left it there
Come Sunday 8th July I will be speaking at this conference, it landed in my lap! They called me yesterday and asked if I would be interested in speaking at the event
I literally screamed! Manifestation at it utmost best!
I have learnt when we are impatient, and doubtful we stump the process, wh…


Energy never dies, it just transforms - Deborah L Johnson

We call it vibes! we feel the vibes when we walk into a room, we feel the vibes when we meet people. We feel the vibes in a building
And we always know when it is good vibes! Good energy
Many times we ignore it, when we ignore the bad vibes there is no opportunity to transform those vibes, many times we add to the bad vibes.

I have learnt to
1. Feel the Vibes
2. Identify it - don not over think this process
3. Transform it

Energy/Vibes are guides, they work hand in hand with intuition. Intuition always leads us in the direction that we ought to be heading it.

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Football Fever

“For after all, the best thing one can do when it is raining is let it rain.” 
― Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

I am fascinated by football - the beautiful game as Pele calls it! I can sit and watch football for hours. Me and the telly! nothing else, time will pass I will not even remember to eat until the rumblings of my stomach reminds mw that it was not fed. Every four years 32 countries from around the world come together to play the World Cup, which determines the best footballing nation on the planet.
During this time, I am front middle and center in the thick of this celebration
I have never in my adult life missed this, even when I am travelling
I rememeber in 2010 I was in New Orleans, not a football city to say the least, and the time difference for when the games were being aired was mad! I eventually had to change hotels with one with football showing on the television.
So this season, it is quite strange that I have to miss games, it is quite an adjustment.I thought that I wou…

Burn Brighter

“Shine with all you have. When someone tries to blow you out, just take their oxygen and burn brighter.” 
― Katelyn S. Bolds
My light bursts through right where I am. Often when you think of this journey, this change of life, you have some idea of what you want to get from it. There is a light calling you and you are moving into it. This is fine if it assists you in moving along your path. However the light I speak of now is not outside of you pulling you: it is at the core of your being, bursting through right where you are. There is no place to go. There is no extra journey you need to take. The power of this magnificence is right where you are. You seem to be looking for something outside of yourself to motivate you, to give you incentive, to give you permission, to give you validation. You sense the anxiousness within yourself and you want to do something, anything, just something.
Way to often you mischaracterize the unrest within you as negativity, the worry, the anxiety, the trep…

Decisions Activate Power

It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped. Tony Robbins 

Decisions have power, let me explain
If you decide that this is what I am going to do, you mind set changes, you commit to it, you find a way to take action and do what it takes
If you don't decide, it is just a "wait and see how it goes" action, things will come up and you will waver.
If you say "I will wait to see" that is not a firm committment
Not making  a decision is also deciding. The action that follows will show that you have not made a firm choice, that can be a positive or a negative.
If the decision is - I am not decising yet, the action will prove that!
If there is no decision, then by default you have not decided!

So, this is what I have learnt, decisions activate power, committment and action
no matter what the decision is
So decide
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Accept No Bad Behaviour

Do not accommodate bad behavior - - - even your own. Iyanla Vanzant

Sometimes we just got to look in the mirror and "fess up"
Sometimes we just have to take responsibility for our actions and admit that we did it, we did the rubbish!
Sometimes we just have to say I apologize.
And most times doing that is challenging. Self reflection and owning our stuff takes courage.
But, let me share what I have learnt is - this process is essential in moving forward. And the even more beautiful thing is once we own and take responsibility for our stuff we can change and shift things! When we don't it will always be a case of us putting the responsibility on others - that simply does not and cannot work
Are you not setting boundaries? Then you must accept that and set some
Are you habitually late? that's you boo!
Are you unhealthy? - own it, then decide to do something about it
Are you stressed? - own it, then do something about it
When we own our stuff we are on our way..
Be prepared to not…

What is Shining?

We are told to let our light shine, and if it does, we won't need to tell anybody it does. Lighthouses don't fire cannons to call attention to their shining - they just shine. Dwight Moody

when you show up and you shine every single time, what happens is, shining  becomes a part of you, shining becomes your norm and what is shining? shining is not hiding behind excuses shining is taking responsibility for your actions shining is doing your best in the moment – sometimes the moment may not be perfect, but it ought not to stop you from doing your best in that moment shining means being honest shining means knowing that you will make mistakes shining means feeling all your feelings shining means having self belief shining means being disciplined shining means doing the work shining means having the faith when you have done all the work shining means being courageous shining means being flexible shining means setting & respecting boundaries    
shining means using what yo…

Do you have Boundaries?

Boundaries were necessary for a successful relationship. Most relationships aborted in the boundary defining stage. Not because people demanded what they needed. But because they didn’t, then got resentful about it.    Karen Morie Moring

Boundaries, oh Boundaries! My hardest lesson on the journey! I think of myself as a naturally kind and giving person. I love to help, to support, to send light, to be around positivity. And for that reason I make the extra effort to be kind to people, to show up smiling and to mind my own business.
And with this approach I have also learnt that there are those who are not in a position to receive my kindness and smiling. This is where boundaries come in, how do I draw a line in the sand when those who do not know how to receive my kindness? How do I not take this personally? How do I not keep looking for a way to "of help"? How do I say no?
How do I have a conversation with people about these boundareis and more than that, the consequences o…

The Try Police

making a commitment means more than saying "I'll try." It means saying "I'm all in. I'm totally committed here. Even if the going gets rough. In fact, especially then." Les Brown
I've been called the "Try Police" When people tell me "I'll try" or "I'm trying" I usually say to them - it is either you are doing or not doing - there is no try Many people don't get it, some have started making a joke about it and calling me the "Try Police" I start policing them on their "try list" I have learnt that saying that I am trying can be a cop out, it denotes that you may not be all in, not toally committed. So I have changed my language I am doing or not doing. Changing my language affects how I do things, or not do things If I say "well I'm trying" it could mean at least I have started, it could mean well leave me alone, it can mean whatever happens I tried even if it was not a full …

Stand Comfortably in the Shadows

“(T)he only thing to do is to be where you are  at this moment,  sometimes looking about in the full light of consciousness, other times standing comfortably in the shadows of mystery and the unknown…. Care of The Soul

I have learnt that one of the things that contributes most to my stress is dwelling on the past and projecting the future with what if's based on fear!

Being in the present moment takes practice
Being in the present moment is not only about where you are physically it is about being present in the moment, you mind is right there.
Not thinking about what you could have done, ought to have done, should have done, going to do
Sometimes, confessions on the journey,my mind is saying
"I could be watching football right at this minute"
"Did I take the stove off?" well you know that sets it off!?! What if the house burns down to the ground? yada yada yada
"What is on my to do list for tomorrow?"
"Did I pay that bill?"
the conversations are endl…