What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

  The universe is our mirror and until our patterns and issues get healed we will continue to run into ourselves everywhere we go. We attract relationships with certain individuals so they can show us areas in our own life that need to be healed through their actions and behaviors - Sabrina Reber Look around you, look at your life, look at your friends, look at it all.  What do you see?  Life is designed in such a way that it mirrors back to us how we live, and what we have recreated. Yes it sounds strange, simple and some may say weird. Bear with me though.  I am slowly learning about what I would call the Mirror concept. The Mirror is a reflection of what is. When we recognize and accept what is, we can move forward from a place of knowing. What is real, what is true, what needs to be looked at more closely, what needs to be cleaned up. The mirror is a powerful tool. It provides you with the opportunity to take full responsibility for what is reflected back at you. Responsibility =

  a sacred connection is on the other side of shame. weed out your garden, tend to your wounds— honor yourself - Malanda  The moment you find yourself externalizing, blaming others for what is happening in your life and not holding yourself accountable, you give away your power. Human beings love being right and being in control. I can relate - I mean, who wants to look dumb? so when we are not in tuned with taking personal responsibility and accountability we blame others, when we forget who we are, we blame others, when we are in fear we blame others. Seems an easy fix then right? Taking responsibility and accountability means tending to your wounds, it means remembering who we are, it involves acting from a place of love rather than fear. The challenge with tending to your wounds is that it takes a tremendous amount of courage, surrender and stillness. Many of us are simply not ready or willing to do surrender. The result of this being the continuation of the cycle of  blame and fea

Journey in Grace - Lalah Delia I have learnt that people we disagree  with or people who "trip us off" are our biggest teachers. What do they teach you? 1. Patience 2. Empathy 3. To leave ego out of the equation 4. The power of a pause 5. The consequences of one's actions 6. How much more growing is required 7. How much growth has taken place 8. How self aware you are 9. What habits require changing. 10. To love yourself through it all - Most importantly! Peace

  Feelings are beautiful information. Every feeling—when observed through the heart—helps us become more conscious (it’s the heart that expands consciousness, not the other way around). Feelings are a global positioning system for the soul. Danielle La Porte One of my favorite songs is by Chaka Khan and its called "Do You Love What You Feel?"  When I hear the song, I think about the lessons I learnt about how I can use my feelings as a guide, a compass of sorts rather than ignore them or constantly live in them. Feelings provide us with valuable information - as Danielle says beautiful information. That information serves us very well when we can accept that there is some value in it. For a very long time I dismissed, ignored and denied my feelings. If I was happy I thought, hmm this may be too good to be true, so let me save some. If I was annoyed, upset, angry I would convince myself that those feelings were destructive and would not serve me well So there I was stuck in th

  After you truly surrender, everything you could ever want just seems to show up . Wayne Dyer Have you ever found yourself looking for an item you lost? You retrace your steps, you clean the entire house - or turn it upside down, with the aim to finding it. You sit, you ponder, you sweat all with the aim of finding this item and nothing! And just as you decide to stop because you have accepted that it is gone, it appears! This is a reminder to me that there are times when acceptance and letting go is part of finding and receiving. I have been testing this acceptance and letting go technique as I go through daily life. This has translated to do all that you can minus worry and fret and let it go, wait with patience and go on with your daily life knowing that whatever happens you can and will deal with it. Excessive worry and making up stories adds anxiety to the process and prolongs it. Acceptance and letting go lays a foundation for trust and flexibility. It takes practice, it takes c

 Your Journey is Going to be Different than Others DJ Loaf Confessions on the Journey.  I have been missing deadlines and commitments on the Journey and the blog has been part of this. Truthfully, it has not been part of my make up to miss deadlines and commitments for many years. I kept commitments to myself to help and support building self trust and self value What I have learnt is building self trust and self value supports in trusting others. What I have also learnt is when I feel that I have let myself down, guilt and shame sets in, which can easily lead to a cycle of neglecting the commitments I have set for myself. From this place I am learning to feel all of my feelings, and in doing that I may have to take a pause, take a rest returning from that space with a renewed mindset, ready to go again. It can be tempting and sometimes easy to get caught up in the cycle of guilt, of not feeling your feelings, of slipping into victim consciousness and externalizing. What is important

  Trust Yourself enough to trust your Source/Creator/God, that no matte what happens that you will be ok - Iyanla Vanzant Continuing on the Journey to Surrender. We love to fix a problem by doing. There is always in our mind something to do, to fix, to get.  When we are in a state of surrender we must give up the need to do, fix, get. Surrender requires complete trust.  If you have trust issues, you will never be able to surrender. Peace

  November, pour warmth into spaces within me that feel unworthy. fill the room vacated by what isn’t for me with something that deserves to stay. let everything that reaches its expiration date be a reminder of how love for myself should always remain priority. quench my spirit. Billy Chapata November is the Journey to Surrender. What does surrender mean to you? In the past, surrender meant giving up, and felt weak. As I journeyed spiritually, I have learnt that surrender is so far from giving up, it is the relinquishing of control, of fear, of matters that I have no business in. Surrender takes courage as it calls you to have faith, patience and fortitude. Surrendering to the Most High, the Universe has proven to be a form of strength, a miracle of sorts. It says that I have done my part, I have followed the guidance and now I must get out of the way, trusting that all will be well. Rather than interfere, worry, stress and control, I can surrender to the process knowing that I have d