My Letting Go List as I step into the new decade of 2020

the goodness in your life does not come to you from someone else. When you see this, you will be free. Neale Donald Walsh

My Letting Go List as I step into the new decade of 2020 1. The need to control the uncontrollable - focusing on my response
2. People who drain my energy - if I feel drained after being in your presence I am loving you from afar
3. Guilt for resting - I am no longer basing my worth on the amount of items in my calendar
4. Over use of social media - giving up checking my phone the moment that I wake up.
5. Poor eating habits - trust me, I an eat chocolate for breakfast, lunch and dinner  and justify that it is a fruit!
6. Codependency - depending on others for validation and happiness. I sometimes fall into the trap of waiting for others to make me feel good.

You are most powerful, most effective, when you are completely yourself.

You are most powerful, most effective, when you are completely yourself. Eckhart Tolle

Having to facilitate sessions with groups and organisations always pushes me out of my comfort zone, especially when the subject matter is either new to me or the participants are experts in the area.
For the past week I have had 4 sessions, blown out of my comfort zone.
Even with the tools and preparation, some self doubt set in. Would I make sense? How would they respond? Will they come back on the following days?
As I sat there contemplating and ruminating, I remembered the lesson of showing up, doing my best and being myself. This would be my strategy for the week.
Turns out, it worked for me.
What I did not know I said I did not, we worked it out
I felt more relaxed and I was able to be more at ease to do what I set out to do.
How many times do we want to impress at the expense of being themselves.
How many times do we follow someone else?
How many times do we silence ourselves due to fear?
How about jus…

Stay in Your Lane

the breakthrough is on the other side of the resistance you’re experiencing. Serene

Having spent a week listening to everyone either complain how everyone else should listen to them should be doing something different, should communicate better, should be committed and should be doing everything else that  they are not doing, I conclude that we humans spend too much time focusing on what others are doing. We spend a lot of time focusing on what others are doing and if its not what we think then we get upset or offended. Then we moan about how they - other people are not doing or doing.
I learnt to mind my own business and focus on not taking things personally
Am I focusing on other people?
Am I snatching away my power?
Am I giving away my power?
Am I really in my business, or in someone else's business?

When we focus on ourselves we get the opportunity to regroup, re assess and refine
If we focus on others, chances are we give away the time and energy we require to learn the relev…

What Takes You To Your Space?

The Universe is living and in constant orbit, orchestrating miracles. We must be willing to soften and receive. Glow Maven

I had to catch the first ferry to Nevis. My plan was to run up the hill, watch the sun rise, come back down to walk on the beach and then get ready to head to town to catch the ferry. Needless to say, I woke up and it was really dark outside, I did not want to chance going on the hill alone in the dark, I waited around for some light, by the time the light came all was left to do was walk on the beach- which was magnificent even if cut short. I got to the ferry with 10 minutes to spare, bought the ticket and then could not find it, they told me I had to purchase another one! I sat there thinking, make a decision soon. I looked one more time , emptied my bags and there is was tucked away in a pocket.
I was the last one on the ferry.
As I got to Nevis, they picked me up, asked me where I was staying, when I told them, the look on their faces was priceless
I was af…

Be respectful - we all have different opinions

Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on Eckhart Tolle

Last night I was facilitating a focus group. The aim being to learn the lessons from a project to introduce sea moss farming as a sustainable livelihood. At the end of the evening the main issue tabled was "Communication" I asked them what does "An Issue with Communication" mean.

It seemed like a tough question at the moment.

Communication - what is healthy communication?

healthy communication means having the courage to say what you feel, and knowing how to take care of yourself around that feeling, regardless of how your the other person responds. This is much easier said than done, and it takes a lot of practice!
There was not a situation that people in the organisation were side talking, but not talking to each other as a team. There was also a situation where the way people communicated was either out of anger and frustration or in the way they wanted to and others …

Follow the Small Wins

If You can use anything Lord, You can use me Seobia Rivers

This week I am in St Kitts and Nevis again. The activity is to conduct two focus groups and follow up on a project which focuses on the sustainable livelihoods of fisher-folk.
I am always amazed by the lessons that I learn in very simple spaces
I woke up this morning with the intention of walking to the beach seeing the sun rise doing a video to share and then getting ready for the day.
Every picture and video was lost, then I took so much time to see if I could recover it I had to rush out to get something to eat before the transport came, and whole host of other events which threw the day completely off what I had planned.
When the transport came we set off to see the progress of the programme. Seeing it immediately changed my mood, the small wins, the growth, the hope, the small things which turned out to be the big things.
Sometimes it's easy to get trapped in how something is supposed to go and supposed to be, when it does…

Dear December

life is rigged in our favor. life is rigged in our favor. in our favor, life has been rigged - Dr Krystal Jones

Dear December, giving thanks for you. Let me remember that: - rest is part of the journey - my ability to cope is a gift not a test - mistakes will be made - fun must be had - mind your own business - I must not throw away truth in favour of illusions


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