What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

The path of mastery is not about valuation or appreciation from the outside. 
It is about overcoming doubts and fears on the inside. When mastery is growing within you, life will happen easily, without any struggle, and victory will become a way of life. Iyanla Vanzant

I love Iyanla's definition of mastery. It is what I would call an inside job, it is resting in the knowledge that despite the doubt, the fear, the trepidation, the questions, I can rest easily knowing that all will be well even if it turns out different to what I had anticipated.

Mastery is part of the self love process, Without mastery the doubts can take you over
the work, causing you to look outside of yourself for kudos and validation.
That can lead to aiding in poor choices.

Mastery requires commitment and discipline,
Mastery requires faith
Mastery requires self belief
Peace 

Heart Fire in January

You will never know how much you are holding until you let it go. Maryam Hasnaa



Yesterday, as I was making preparations for Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self on Saturday  ( I am so excited and happy for this weekend - I digress)
As I was going through the materials, in between them was a journal from 2013 called " The Accountability Process".  In the Journal was a through detail of the vision I had for myself and how I would hold myself accountable for it.

I laughed a hearty laugh when I saw it. I pulled it out and started reading it.

What was the vision I wanted for myself?
That year was a tough year, freshly out of job, house, marriage  and just floating around in Uganda laying low, I wrote out the vision I wanted for my life. To feel free, to serve the world in a meaningful way, to share my story, to be financially comfortable.
I read it back last night. I was living my vision, plus or minus a few small details (the financial part!! - confessions on the Journey)

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the problem with knowing is that it takes away the possibility of pretending! Pearl Cleage



I am grateful for new opportunities. Iyanla Vanzant defines opportunities   as  grounds for action. It’s a state of affairs that makes something else possible. It is the falling together of things and people and circumstances.
Over the last week, there have been opportunities that have come to me, I had to take action, I saw the coming together of things, people and circumstances which seemed so effortless. I have learnt that it requires effort, that effort is usually not one of forcing and coercing. It seems like a natural flow
How many times do we force ourselves in situation and a box because we mistook a lesson for an opportunity?
How many times do we look for opportunities that dishonours us because it is the trend or the money?
 How many times do we settle?
Ask yourself, is this situation allowing me to take action, to bring together people, things and circumstances to grow!
Peace

Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others. Brene Browne
My friends, I have missed you! How have you been? I have been on a Journey to Boundaries Yes, I said it!! Over the past few days I have been on the road where I had to not only set some boundaries, but enforce them Confessions on the Journey - Its downright darn challenging for me to set and keep boundaries. I want to be a nice person, I want people to like me, I want to avoid conflict, so I ignore a lot but what I have learnt is that if I want all those things at the expense of my self respect and peace, then that's just downright plain ole crazy making behaviour And so the Universe is divinely timed to show us where we are, through sending people and situations Boundaries are invisible lines which you draw that determine the things you accept from yourself and others. Boundaries require discipline, honesty and the willingness to make some tough decisions W…

I went  for my first run of the year  and fell over bust my knee over! I couldn't even believe that the first thing that pissed me off was - sheez I cannot run for the next few days, maybe weeks!
The pain was mashing me up, I had to walk about just over 1 KM back to where I parked and all the while I was thinking the same thing - I will not be able run for a while
Then I thought - wait- get a grip girlfriend.
This fall could have been worse
I survived it without any major injuries
My glasses are still on my face
The knee is bust open and paining but I know that there is some lesson in there, not sure what it is yet
I took the day and rested (not much else could be done if walking was a problem right?)
I have become so attached to running, almost daily, now I have to accept that running will not be a part of my daily routine until I am fully healed, it is really a lesson for me not only in acceptance but in letting go and detachment
When we are attached to something there is a pos…

The ego establishes relationships only to get something. And it would keep the giver bound to itself through guilt. ACIM


Still in reflection mode as we enter 2019, yesterday's reading in ACIM threw out the line that "the ego establishes relationships only to get something" It stopped me in my tracks as I had to ask myself how many of my relationships are fuelled by the ego?
How many times have I established a link with someone to further along my own agendas rather than for a genuine reason? It's quite a sobering thought So, my assignment today is to write those down and decide- what's next? What about you? Are you willing to join me on this journey and share the lessons? Peace
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