What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

We like to justify, especially when we do crazy stuff - Iyanla Vanzant
How many of us do stuff we know is madness at the time but still do it, then we get asked about it or called out on it and justify it with some other mad reason?

Ok, I don't know about you but I have done it!
I have justified the crazy shit that I have done with some bull shit reason and excuse!

Why?
Because I wanted to be right
I did not want to look like a fool
I did not want anyone to tell me "I told you so"
I wanted to look good
I wanted to be the smart one
I wanted to show that my decisions were sound

And here's the thing with all of that, wanting and not wanting all that
it does not change what you have done nor change the lessons that you must learn in the process.

Life is like that, we make decisions that are not in the best interests for you in the moment. When we do not own it we continue to make the same mistakes and repeating the same patterns.

I have learnt to accept the reality and d…

“Nothing has happened in the past; it happened in the Now. Nothing will ever happen in the future; it will happen in the Now.” Eckart Tolle


The FiFa World Cup is here! I love football, confessions on the Journey, I am a fan, I can sit and watch football all day, from any league in the world, I know the names of footballer's, the countries that they are from and the club teams they play for. I read football stories and stay at home on weekends purely to watch football. It brings me joy!
So, the world cup of football is here, every four years the best 32 teams of the world get together and play to determine who the champion is. I have had the oportunity to go to a world cup and it exceeded all expectations!
The competition started yesterday, normally I would be ready in front of my telly, snacks in hand to watch the opening ceremony and the opening game, then I would schedule my life around the must see games. I have been doing this for as long as I know myself.
Yesterday I found my…

Standing up for yourself means so many things. But mostly, standing up for yourself means everything. It's how you'll cultivate relationships that are healthy. It's how you'll remind yourself of your own power. It's how you'll show the world to treat you. It's how you'll get paid more. It's how you'll get all of what you deserve because you know you're worthy of it all first, and reality will rise to meet your belief in yourself. Maxie


Stand for yourself, stand in yourself, stand by yourself, stand with yourself.
Practice it, Live it, Do it!

Standing for yourself requires courage, trust and self validation
Standing for yourself you may fall, 

every time you fall down
Stand up, stand up, even if you're small, even if you're small
You can stand tall

Peace

When you trust yourself, you don't feel as anxious. Decisions don't feel so hard to work through. Challenging days can happen without throwing you so off-course.  Kate Courageous


Trusting yourself is a never a bad idea! It comes with you doing some work though! Depending on your circumstances, there are times when trusting ourselves can be challenging. What I have learnt is that trusting yourself is a process and does not happen overnight but with practice and faith it happens and makes all the difference, especially in making decisions.

Trusting Ourselves is important because

1. We can trust others.

2. We can trust life and the process of life

3. We can, when we make mistakes, trust ourselves enough to make another choice knowing that all will be okay

4. We listen to our intuition 

5. We develop self confidence and self love

When I go against what I know and trust it usually blows up in my face like a bomb! I ought to know this my now!
A friend of mine asked me to assist her with some…

Missing you is not enough. Making “the biggest mistake of my life” is not enough. If a person wants a second chance, then they should have a lot of clarity around what made the first go at it not work.When growth is present there’s a greater chance at a different outcome. When there’s no growth, there’s little chance at a new ending. Vienna Pharaon

Are you a second chance type of person? Do you allow for second chances in your relationships? or do you cut people off first time they slip up?
we call my granma "thousand chance" she gives people so many chances, while everyone in the family has sworn off certain members, she keeps the door open until they actually die or stop coming around
I have some of my grandma's traits. What I have learnt is:

1. Setting boundaries and consequences for violating those boundaries are important - I ought to know what I will tolerate and others ouught to know as well as knowing what are the consequences for disrepecting them

2. Saying yes all t…

“Courage is the most important of all the virtues because without courage, you can't practice any other virtue consistently.”  Maya Angelou


Yesterday, the young ladies from the NiNa Programme participated in stilt walking, this is a long held tradition in our country that we call "Moko Jumbies". People walk on stilts as high as 6 feet tall, they dance on them and have a good ole time. Especially during our annual carnival celebration.

It takes courage and the willingness to take risks to get up on those stilts. I always marvel when I see them dancing and hopping on one foot.
Falling down is par for the course when learning the art
And so the thinking behind taking the young ladies was to build courage and for them to learn that falling is okay, it is in the staying down that can be an issue
They were all quite keen to go
We arrived and they were introduced to the stilts, they were all scared of falling, credit to them they all put on the stilts and made a right go of it
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