What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

  "Life is not always tidy. It’s full of unexpected twists, tangled emotions, and unforeseen hurdles. But within the chaos lies the magic—the chance to grow, adapt, and discover resilience we didn’t know we had." It’s a comforting thought, isn’t it? That a happy life is one free of problems. That if we’re good, kind, and follow the unwritten “rules” of decency, life will reward us with smooth sailing. I certainly grew up p believing this, holding tight to the notion that challenges are mere inconveniences, avoidable with enough status, power, or wealth. But life, unpredictable and untamed, doesn’t work that way. I learnt this the hard way. I, was sold on the formula: be good, be nice, and you’ll be spared heartbreak and drama. I thought that being a good person was the ultimate antidote to life’s troubles. But life, in its infinite wisdom, taught me otherwise. It taught me that experiences cannot be skipped, no matter how carefully we try to outmaneuver them. And honestly? Th...

Letting go actually decreases self-centeredness and allows love to come forward much more unconditionally and with greater strength Yung Pueblo    I  learned the true meaning of radical acceptance after what I considered the biggest betrayal of my life. It wasn’t just about the act itself—it was the shattering of trust,  and the painful realization that some things cannot be undone. For a long time, I wrestled with the why. Why did they do it? Why didn’t I see it coming? Why couldn’t they just choose differently? I exhausted myself trying to understand, to negotiate, to fix what was never mine to fix. Radical Acceptance Was the First Step Radical acceptance wasn’t passive resignation—it was the conscious decision to stop fighting reality. I had to accept: I could not change them. Their choices, their actions, their justifications—none of it was within my control. I had ignored red flags. There was no shame in admitting that; it simply meant I had trusted when I shoul...

There are some things that you just can’t buy an immediate solution for, and you simply have to accept the long journey in front of you. The aspects of life that require slow work are usually things that will bring you the greatest sense of fulfillment. Seeing your effort create new results is an incredible feeling. Yung Pueblo  In a world full of distractions and endless possibilities, the key to success often lies in one simple principle: consistency. As the quote so beautifully puts it, “It is your consistency that focuses your energy towards making your aim come true.” This is a powerful reminder that it is through consistent effort, day in and day out, that we build the foundation for achieving our dreams. But what does consistency really mean in the context of personal growth and inner work? Consistency as the Bridge to Your Vision Consistency is more than just a habit—it's the backbone of progress. Whether you're striving for a better version of yourself or chasing a sp...

  When you know of a thing, all that you know is locked in place in your mind . Mama Bello I was listening to Carolyn Myss talk about power. Her perspective was that there is so much power in humility, and humble is not being poor and not having a place. I listened to how she described a humble person and it literally brought tears to my eyes and want to live a life of humility. Call me humble because this is my standard to now live by  The most protected person in the world is also the most humble, and humility makes someone nearly impervious to the tricks of darkness. Why is that? Because a humble person desires nothing that doesn't rightfully belong to them. They are untempted by fleeting, material possessions, and their sense of worth isn't rooted in insecurity. In fact, humility and insecurity cannot coexist. A humble person has no fear of judgment and understands their own boundaries—they know what they don't want or need. They aren't dependent on external validat...

  By entering into the silence, acknowledging divine substance, affirming his faith in and oneness with it, man becomes conscious of substance .Law of Metaphysics  Every year, like clockwork, the streets of Trinidad and Tobago come alive with the pulsating rhythms of soca, the vibrant colors of costumes, and the infectious energy of Carnival. For as long as I can remember, I’ve been a part of this celebration, losing myself in the music, the laughter, and the sheer joy of it all. But this year, I decided to do something radically different. Instead of joining the revelry, I chose silence. No music, no phone, no distractions—just me and my thoughts for two whole days. What I discovered was both challenging and transformative. I’ll admit, the decision didn’t come easily. Carnival is more than just a festival; ever since I have known myself, Carnival has been a part of my life, whether it was playing mas, going to fetes, joining in the Panorama.  Two years ago I took a trip...

This is one of the most profound lessons that I have learnt from reading A Course in Miracles. My intention is to embody and remember this for the month of March and beyond Let's go! Come Journey with me.   There is a deep responsibility you owe yourself, and one you must learn to remember all the time. ²The lesson may seem hard at first, but you will learn to love it when you realize that it is true and is but a tribute to your power. You who have sought and found littleness, remember this: Every decision you make stems from what you think you are, and represents the value that you put upon yourself. Believe the little can content you, and by limiting yourself you will not be satisfied. For your function is not little, and it is only by finding your function and fulfilling it that you can escape from littleness.  Work with Akosua as your dedicated accountability partner to move forward with confidence. (Sign up Below)  Embrace Your Journey of Transformation with Akosua D...

  What happens to our sense of self when we’re only valued for what we can produce? What happens to our sense of self when our value is tied solely to what we can do, rather than who we are?  For me, it started at a young age, rewarded for doing my homework, scolded for playing too much. Having to hide to play with my imaginary friend who I named Penelope.  As I grew up homework turned into good grades, steady job, being a productive person, not being lazy - the bottom line was in the proving that I was doing and what I did could be validated, that it was good, that it brought no shame on Self and family. What seemed acceptable to the society that could be measured and valued. These are the markers of a "valuable" person in this society that we now live. When our value is reduced to a checklist of tasks, our souls begin to wither, imagination is placed on the back burner . This is the silent crisis of modern life—a crisis that erodes our self-worth, distorts our iden...