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Saturday, 30 August 2014

Don't take it personal

Don't deny any feeling in the spectrum. Give yourself a break and some peace. Instead acknowledging the pain, so you can deal with it in a sane mind, when you brush it aside the ego will have a field day reminding and replaying for you all the times in the past when you were. Remind yourself that as long as you respect yourself, nobody else has the power to offend you. Dawn Barclay

"How does this not offend you?" This being said  at me yesterday, reading someone's comment to me from a post that I did on Facebook.  "It really doesn't"
 "You are really different yes!"
I made a post and someone had something pretty nasty to say about it and I looked at it said wow that is harsh, thought about it for ten minutes and said OK that person needs a dose of love
So I am telling my friend that someone told me that I was a know it all judgmental ars@@ and I laughed and blocked the person. How come you weren't upset she asked. Well the way I see it,either way people have things to say and since I decided to open myself to the whole world then I have to live with the consequences that there will be good and not so good things said about me, If I take everything personal and drink that koolaid I will go loopy! I am not saying that those things do not hurt and sometimes they do but my response is my responsibility! I take all feedback, good and not so good, and I don't take it personally! I learnt that, it wasn't automatic
I am not responsible for how anyone takes or interprets my message- ever! I am responsible for how I deliver mine, authentic and true

I  do know you run a risk?

A risk of actually being seen

A risk of critics, naysayers, belittlers, slighters, mockers, trolls and dislikers coming to watch? I'm so not writing this to scare you, the opposite.
And I am ready! I will learn from it all as if my story can empower one person I would have achieved my goal!

I am so ready
One of the best lessons I have learnt is - Do not take anything personally!
Have a great weekend peeps!

Friday, 29 August 2014

True self esteem arises from knowing

“In essence, you are neither inferior nor superior to anyone. True self-esteem and true humility arise out of that realization. In the eyes of the ego, self-esteem and humility are contradictory. In truth, they are one and the same.”
- Eckhart Tolle

This is exactly what I needed to hear today and because I love you all so much I am sharing it with you! Thank you Mastin!

I once heard that “The quality of your life is directly related to the amount of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have.”
Upon reflection and practice, I’ve come to believe this is true.

Because uncomfortable conversations involve telling the truth. And at first, the truth can be painful.
How much precious time and energy can we waste not talking about it?
A day?
A month?
A year?
A decade?
A lifetime?
Even longer perhaps.
They say that the truth will piss you off – I don’t think that’s true. I think the truth will terrify you.
A truth like – it’s time to break up.
A truth like – I want to get sober.
A truth like – it’s time for change.
A truth like – I quit.
They are scary truths. And we don’t know how to talk about them without it being drama. Why? Because we are scared to feel.
It’s easier for us to fight than it is to feel. It’s easier for us to withdrawal than it is to feel.
So we put up roadblocks and create drama – instead of sharing our truth from our heart and feeling the feelings that come with it.
Ending a relationship is not an easy conversation.
Nor is saying, I love you.
Or I quit.
Or, I want more from life.
Or, I deserve to be treated better.
But, what if having hard conversations actually was the beginning of improving your life. What if not having difficult conversations could be holding you back from really getting your life going.
What if, instead of death – freedom was on the other side of having that difficult conversation?
What would you do then?

Thursday, 28 August 2014

A big luscious life

A big, luscious life comes from small, daily actions Danielle La Porte

So, like I was telling you guys yesterday I am digging Tony Robbins' work this week big time and as I walked downtown yesterday something he said was on my mind like non stop! This is not it word for word but it goes something like, our consistent actions show up as what is happening in our world and he made reference to if you consistently eat donuts and drink soda you will be overweight, if you consistently exercise you will be fit. As I was walking I thought about it, what do I consistently do and how does it show up in my present life? Or do I even do anything consistently? that was a thought I had yesterday and to me it rang so true, if I consistently worked on my next book, I will have another book, if I consistently ate healthy and nourishing foods guess what? I will be healthy!  and it will be the same for the not so good things, if I consistently do self sabotaging actions then my life will reflect them. I love simplicity and Tony broke the thing down simply and effectively! Consistency is really the key!
Think about it today, what are you doing consistently, conscious or unconsciously that shows up as part of your life?

Wednesday, 27 August 2014

Decisions- the pathway to power

Three decisions that you make every moment of your life control your destiny.
The three decisions that control your destiny are:
1. Your decisions about what to focus on.
2. Your decisions about what things mean to you.
3. Your decisions about what to do to create the results you desire. Tony Robbins

I'm digging Tony Robbins' work this week, it is really resonating with me, its all about your decisions and how important they are and even the decisions you don't make because really not making a decision is in fact a decision!  And what is even resonated with me more is that the more conscious decisions I make is the better I get at it and failure or what is considered failure is really just feedback for the next decision!

How many times I froze because I did not want to make the "wrong" decision! Guess what? That is now a thing of the past, there is no "wrong decision" there is action and feedback!
I'm off now to make some decisions and take actions
Have an awesome day my beautiful friends

Tuesday, 26 August 2014

First Gig Confirmed - Nicolas Brooklyn here I come...

The first gig is confirmed, super excited to share the space in Brooklyn New York for the World Literacy Day in September

Here we go...
Consistency. Diligence. Discipline. Tenacity. Surrender and Peace.

Monday, 25 August 2014

Do you have any standards set?

The only real meaning something has is the meaning you give it. (Evolving Relationships)

Here's the best lesson I learnt this weekend!

If you have no standards set in your life, set some!
If you have standards, raise them and demand a higher standard OF YOURSELF!

and live by these standards

simple right?(Simplicity always marvels me, I love it when its simple, when I keep it simple and when people keep it simple!) why complicate the thing!

So I am raising my standards this week
What about you?

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Saturday, 23 August 2014

I welcome the wise to teach!

I am friend to pen
And a lover of strong women
A diamond to men
I am curious and interested like children
I welcome the wise to teach
Appreciator of my culture
Thick not just from bone dense and eat

I have a rhythm in my ways
And a practice in my seek
And yes, I do crave the rhythm of my space
With a man that rejoices in God's Grace

Jill Scott

So the day at my grandma turned out into an outing after eating and talking at the kitchen table! We went to a women's meeting in Port of Spain. It was fiery! Women all up in arms about an impending change of the laws that the Government is putting in place, she suggested that I go, come and do something for your country, come and make a difference, even a little one!
The room was full of women, young, old, slim, thick! Many had a contribution and many were passionate about what they had to say! I was surprised, this is going on here in my country? We went to work, to come up with a response, something that reflected us, something that "made sense". My grandma was shouting, writing, talking! I sat there quietly watching the scenes!
Every day, in every situation there are lessons to learn when we pay attention
The women were passionate, they want to be heard, to make a contribution to the laws for their children.
I am lover of strong women.

Friday, 22 August 2014

Going South...

“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small.  My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.” Kim McMillen

Today is one of those days, one where I just want to chill out and talk politics and history and learn lessons ad hear some home truths  from my grandma around the kitchen table so guess what? I have just made the decision to do that! Jumping in the car and heading home!

What do you do when you something, the small voice whispers to you? ( I heard somewhere that "something" is your higher voice)

I start with Yes!

Have a great weekend

Thursday, 21 August 2014


Reality is never frightening. It is impossible that it could upset me. Reality brings only perfect peace. When I am upset, it is always because I have replaced reality with illusions I made up. ACIM

I'm digging A Course in Miracles this week!  "Reality is never frightening" how awesome is that as a concept because it really is just about illusions that I have made up! Consider this, you are in a situation especially one that is not going the way you want it to go. First thing you do is start making up stories of how it should be and what it ought to be and why is it this way blah blah blah, not for one time accepting the situation as is, I said accepting I did not say like it! So accepting the situation now puts you in a position where you can respond and not react from WHAT IS! not from what you think it should be! A Course in Miracles just breaks in down on the real! Love it!!
So today I am replacing all the illusions!