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Saturday, 28 February 2015

Clarity, focus and consistent action!

Without Asking, You Will Receive No Answer. Abraham and Esther Hicks

A very important teacher of mine asked me " What do you want? What is it you really want?"

I said " I want to be happy"

"OK and what does that mean"

" You don't know what happiness means?"

" Do you?"

I had my usual smile on my face but thinking , where is she taking this?

" I do"

"So tell me, what does happiness look like?"

" Like happiness"

" If you don't know what you want then how will you know when you get it?"

" I will just know"

"Hmm, listen to me, be specific, know what you want, how it will feel, how you will feel. the whole evasiveness is a pack of fear running around"

"I'm telling you this, clarity, focus and CONSISTENT action"

I went away and thought about it all day! Clarity! I don't need to know the how, just be clear, then move in the direction. Hmmmm
What is it that I really want? Get clear, get focused and take action.
There are risks involved, like stopping bad habits, losing a few people, coming out of your comfort zone, but to get what I really want? Hey that is worth it!


Friday, 27 February 2015

Commitment Declaration

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. I learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets: ‘Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it./ Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.’ Begin it now.”

~W.H. Murray

Guess what I did today? I created a commitment declaration to myself and committed to doing things to allow my personal power to shine through!  It's simpler than it sounds, personal power means using the God given abilities and power to live my best life. 
What is a commitment declaration? Well you know I am a fan of simplicity so its really me sitting and writing a few lines to say "Self, you commit to doing these five tasks and lovingly encouraging myself to do them" But here's the clincher, at the end of the day, literally, If I did not honor the commitments I ask myself explain what was more important than honoring the commitment that I  made to myself? That to me is a wake up call! What could ever ever ever be more important than honoring a commitment I made to myself? What is more important than honoring myself? There is nothing right at this present moment more important than honoring myself and the commitments to myself! 

Let me start small with commitments to myself and I know that the small things will become the big things, practice makes perfect.
What is more important then honoring the commitments I have made to myself? 
How does it make me feel to know that I have allowed myself to believe that something or someone is more important than honoring myself?
Catch this- when you honor yourself, every single thing you do comes from that place!
Sometimes I need a big fat reminder! I now consider myself reminded!!

Thursday, 26 February 2015

How does free look on you?

Freedom is a state of mind.  It is the outgrowth of our willingness to make conscious choices of our own free will and to live through the consequences of our choices without blame, shame, or guilt.  Freedom is a sign of self-awareness.  When you are aware of what it takes to maintain your mental, emotional, and physical well-being and you make conscious choices toward that goal, you are exercising your freedom.Freedom is the recognition of the truth. Inner Visions Worldwide

It's always a wake up call when a friend gives you it "On the real" it's even better when its honest and from the heart.
The conversation or exchange sometimes gives you the permission to be free. I'm not saying that we need permission to be free but that it somehow jolts you or gently prods you into the realization that "hey, I'm free, why do I act like I'm in a cage or a box or in fear?"

Okay, confessions on the journey, I have been holding back, for real, I take two steps forward and one step back, in the grips of fear! And for what??? Because I'm afraid that someone feels differently about me that they felt before, mind you, this may or may not be true but in my mind it is looming around my psyche like a bad case of toe jam!

For what? For feeling that I may be making wrong decisions in my life and work! It's great to get reminded that we all have choice and free will, two of the best things the Universe blessed us with.

What does freedom look like to you?
What is freedom to you?

If freedom could talk to you what would it say?
How would freedom talk? What would it wear?

I asked myself and wrote this in my journal today-

"Freedom to me, is the ability to live life on my own terms, to work for myself, be my own boss, to live in my vision and realize my vision, learning and sharing the lessons every step of the way, to travel the world, to not make excuses and apologies for my choices especially when they are made with love and good intentions, to not take anything personally, to let people be who they are and make a choice whether I want to be in their space or not. To be myself, to show up as myself every single time with the partner I would eventually end up with and accept them as they are.

My freedom would walk tall, with confidence. It would say to me "Akosua who some call Yaki, act like you know who you are, like you know you are the bomb, so fresh and so clean, like you know your power and you know that you were born into a world of lavish infinite abundance that you can tap into at anytime especially when you change your thinking. My freedom would say, it's your story, you write it, then play the lead role.
My freedom wears jeans, shorts, comfortable clothes and slippers"

My freedom is right here, right now
And for this I am so grateful!

And with that I am making some bold ass freedom moves starting now!

Look out for my new book "Nyabo(Madam) - Why Are You Here? out soon..... Chapter 7 "How does Free Look On You"

Wednesday, 25 February 2015


What's real is real no matter what I do. The sun doesn't go out when I cover my eyes. ACIM

Fellas/Guys/ Men remain a mystery to me. I feel like a super hero with anything else,bring it on, I'm all in but with guys this is where my I have learnt lessons are still repeating many of the classes. I absolutely thank them for it, I've turned it into a feeling of gratitude! Although I must say that many times I am tempted to remain in my cave to avoid the lessons but You cannot teach what you have not learned, and what you teach you strengthen in yourself because you are sharing it. Every lesson you teach you are learning.

 I also wish to say out loud though:


1. A good woman is your biggest cheerleader and fan! Supporting you to the end and back and then some! Even if it sounds as if we are nagging you or being hard on you, it is all in the name of love and ultimately to be the one who stands with you as you move to your highest high! We want you to be the bestest and coolest you. Women dig when you are achieving your dreams. According to Danielle La Porte a woman would go the distance for you to be your full self. We are calling you to it, catch that!

2. We love it when you are decisive, when you know what you want and declare it! The not knowing is a no no! Turn off, frustrating. Just make up your mind even if we don't agree with you, it is comforting to know that you can! and you can make a decision when it counts. Oh and the mixed signals - yeah those! That's pretty confusing.

3. Deal with  ex girlfriends and friends with benefits before you commit! Its less messy and complicated.

4. Be real! - like, not fake! We can sense it from the get go. The thing called intuition that we posses zeros in on that like a laser beam! Stop that, just deal on the real!

5. Listen, be present, in the moment - the moment is all that counts.

6. Most women will wonder if they’re going to sleep with you or marry you within 24 hours of meeting you. (More like 24 minutes.) Don’t let it scare you, it's just a thing we do.

7.Talk to me, break it down, spell it out, spell it out for me - no reading of minds, reading between the lines, let's rap like buddies, all open.

8. I will entice your mind, all the time! In the morning, in the evening, when the doves cry! (borrowed that from ma girl Jill)

9. We know what a King is supposed to be. Come like the joker and we're pissed off or we're out looking for the King that we believe will complement our Queen self.

10. Stay Relevant!- with everything! 


Tuesday, 24 February 2015

You're chasing the feeling

An attachment is something we have a strong emotional connection to that has nothing to do with our survival or even our truth. We may think releasing this attachment will destroy us....but will it really? Releasing our attachments may create change, but it can not destroy us, nothing can! We are Eternal Spirit.

Our attachments are always based on fear. We stay attached to a job, a belief system, a relationship, a city, behavioral patterns, addictions or negative mental thought processes ~ that no longer serves us ~ because we are afraid of the unknown, the what if's... and we don't want to step out of our comfort zones. Sabrina Reber

What do you want and why?  How do you want to feel?
Why do you want the relationship?
Why do you want the house?
Why do you want the money and the job?
Why do you want to date that guy or girl?
Why do you want those designer clothes?
Why do you want that holiday trip?
Why do you want that piece of chocolate?
Why do you want to be seen at this event?

 99.9% of the time it is because we want to feel a certain way.

So how do you want to feel?
Start there! Set the goals and intentions from that space, that feeling!

I want to feel courage, freedom, joy, content and love! That's where I'm starting from starting right now! Which means, some things are surely going to change in my life and I'm down for that! No fear! Bring it on!


Monday, 23 February 2015

Stay Relevant

learning is invisible and what has been learned can be recognized only by its results. (ACIM)  I Absolutely love the Course in Miracles!!!

 "Stay Relevant" - What a small statement with a whole lot of weight! Someone, a friend that I appreciate immensely, mentioned this to me on Thursday.
 I thought hmmm "stay relevant"  this can be applied to all relationships, work, personal, career, you name it! It can be applied to companies as well. Powerful indeed.
I appreciated this piece of advice and resonated with me. Many companies have gone out of business because they did not stay relevant. The CD Walkman, the VCR, the mainframe computer and I can go on, were no longer relevant and are now resigned to the irrelevant dustbin!
What about relationships? Are you remaining relevant in your relationships?

So, how do I stay relevant? I believe authenticity and a sense of purpose plays a huge role in this. the urban way might say it like "What you for?"  or " Who you be?" What do you stand for and why are you doing it? What is the intention behind it? Is it love or fear?

That's my thoughts on it for now, to be continued.....


Saturday, 21 February 2015

Boundaries emerge from within

“Boundaries emerge from deep within. They are connected to letting go of guilt and shame, and to changing our beliefs about what we deserve. As our thinking about this becomes clearer, so will our boundaries. Boundaries are also connected to a Higher Timing than our own. We’ll set a limit when we’re ready, and not a moment before. So will others. There’s something magical about reaching that point of becoming ready to set a limit. We know we mean what we say; others take us seriously too. Things change, not because we’re controlling others, but because we’ve changed.” Melody Beatie

I was telling a friend this week that there are many many times that I feel unstoppable, like I can do anything, feel the fear and jump in! On those days the Universe tests me in many ways like in December when I had to climb up some rocks to get to a destination in El Salvador. There was no other way! And I said hey, let's do this! I'm all in. There are other times when I have to speak to a crowd and its the same I say wow, I am here I'm awesome let's roll baby girl!

And then here I am, like a bowl of jello with relationships, any kind of relationship, work, romantic, friendships. Building them and letting them go! The lion turns into a pussycat! I must admit that I have gotten much better with the tools and lessons learnt over the past couple of years. But last night after my mini panic I realized that it's all good as the interactions we have with the other person evoke the responses within us that require healing, the healing takes place when we chose a new response. The interactions indicate that I am in the process of healing! I know that there are certain things about myself I need to know and acknowledge. As soon as I realized that I gave thanks! I am in the right place

Friday, 20 February 2015

Almost there is a dangerous place to be

You will never fully be who you are or express your truth unless you can love yourself and accept yourself unconditionally. Most of us come from cultures and societies that do not promote, or even support, self-love and we often feel judged if we love ourselves, value ourselves or put ourselves first. Anita Morjani

My desire for the rest of my life starting in 2015 is to use the power downloaded into my being as a force to serve! What does that mean? To tap into my personal power which comprises of physical, mental, emotional, spiritual parts of me which contributes to the highest version of me that I can share with the world. I have been disciplined and resolute in my conviction for the past 45 days and what I learnt is that things will come up to test you when you are on the path, when you are "almost there"  Iyanla Vanzant sums it up nicely she says "Almost There Is A Dangerous Place To Be." 
At the beginning of the journey, you lose nothing by changing your mind and delaying the journey. You have put nothing in so you lose nothing. When you are half way there, you may choose that the rest of the journey is not important and by going back, you lose no more than you have gained. When, however, you are almost there, and things start to break down, get hard and look bleak, turning back is a mighty temptation. You cannot see the finish line but you can no longer see where you have come from. When you are almost there, those who did not want you to go call for you to come back and, you are tempted to listen. When you are almost there, things that do not want to be change will erect roadblocks and obstacles so that they get to stay the same. When you are almost there you begin to get tired, to doubt and to feel the frustration of having put in so much but have received less than you thought you would. When you are almost there you begin to wonder if the trip was worth it. The enemy within you you gets riled up and begins to challenge you. When you are almost there, the energies of darkness whose job it is to keep you from the light will bite your butt, nip at your heels, dangle prizes and temptations before you, present real and imagined dangers in an attempt to force you to turn back. For this reason, when you are almost there, more than half way there, you must dig deep, put the pedal to the floor, rev up the power and KEEP IT MOVING! You are almost there

Thursday, 19 February 2015

Are you trippin?

Do not jump to conclusions, you may be wrong! Iyanla Vanzant

Trippin'! Do you know what trippin' is?  The urban dictionary  defines it as "When someone is overreacting or getting all bent out of shape over something small."  

I have been trippin' over the past few days and working myself up! It hasn't been pretty! So here's the deal, there is no fear, none! The things that we work ourselves up over are part of the journey, a message, a passing cloud. We hold on to it and terrorize ourselves for no good reason! 

A very powerful affirmation is "So what?" and really, so what? Half of the things we trip over aren't real and the other half is to make you pay attention to what is!

So according to Jill Scott "Let me stop all this trippin..... and listen"