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Acceptance

Lack, limitation and restriction, whether real or imagined are all forms of suffering that can be eliminated through awareness, acceptance, acknowledgement and action - Iyanla


How many times has our thinking got us in trouble? Think about it?
There are times that we think ourselves into a sticky situation because of fear and worry

Our thoughts are so powerful, it is the precursor of things to come, it really is true, change your mind, change your life.
There are so many situtations of people who have been in situations, unbelivable situations, Nelson Mnadela in jail, as one example, where he remained focused on what he wanted rather than what he did not want. Focusing on the wants puts us in a mindset to move forward, to meet the challenges knowing that the obstacles are part of the journey.

Acceptance brings us to the realisation that our thoughts may be all over the place, at the same time, owning it is the way we can change or even transcend it.
When we deny, there can be no change…

Life is about taking what you have and turning it into something worthwhile

To teach is to demonstrate - ACIM

We can only teach that which we demonstrate. I also believe that we teach what we need to learn.
You can't always know how best the Univese will put you to use, you don't even have a clue! When we limit ourselves thinking that we know we block out so many possibilities. Some of our most harowing moments are teachable moments, are moments which happen to help you change not only yourself, but the world around you.

How many times have you heard about the worst tragedies being used by others to propel themselves into a whole other level? How many times we use what happened to us to change, to transform?

When we ask "what's the lesson here?' it transforms the situation into a useful one
When we ask "why me?" it compunds the victim mentality

So let us not decieve ourselves by thinking the people who are succesful or those who have bounced back are "lucky" or have "the right conditions", it is mainly becaus…

Only When You Are Ready

You can’t leap from hurt to clarity, or from anger to absolution. You have
to walk there, one revelatory, resentful, intentional step at a time.
Forced or feigned forgiveness can derail the healing process. When we
fake-forgive someone, the camouflaged hurt will unearth itself eventually.
And by then, it’s been festering and there’s an even bigger mess to clean
up. Seething resentment, dragging up the past, blowing a fuse because
your partner said that precise thing that clearly indicates that they haven’t
changed in the least since you last reamed them out for not changing. Danielle La Porte


Sometimes we just aren't ready! Admitting that would save us a lot of time and effort.
Rather than lie to ourselves or make excuses, it is much more productive to take the time to get ready!
Because, trust me, when we are ready, nothing stops us
Being ready starts with a decision, an intention.
Sounds simple doesn't it? Yes, it really is just that simple.
Your unwavering choice to be ready
How m…

The Power of Pause

Guilt is always disruptive - ACIM


This weekend I did absolutelt nothing, I woke up, ate, slept, read a bit and slept again. Considering the month that I have had I felt it was quite necessary to recharge and reboot. In the middle of my blissful slumber - confessions on the journey, I started feeling guilty. You know the type of feeling like " am I really wasting all this time?" and "am I really doing absolutely nothing for two entire days?" that feeling lasted for about twenty minutes! Luckily I managed to convinve myself that guilt is a wasted emotion and rest is part of the work!

Iyanla Vanzant says it best, take a pause, take a rest, stop jumping from one thing to another without pausing. Even airplanes pause before they take off on their journey so who are we?
We move from thing to thing without reflecting, recharging, rebooting because someone or society has said to us being still and resting is weak, it is better to work your tailbone off and rest when you ar…

Do One thing Each Day that Makes You Happy

“We must not be defined by what we do, but we must be what and who we are, then only happen to do what we do!” C Joy Bell

I have a poster up at my house which serves as a daily reminder, it says "Do Something Everyday Which Will Make You Happy". I figured that every day adds up, if I do one thing daily to make myself happy it can add to the quality of my life. To do that I had to get to know myself a little better. What do I like to do? What makes me happy? What brings me joy? Simple questions but somehow I paid very little attention to it whilst "living" and so now that I am very familiar with I do my level best to take my own advice

Sometimes it is the simplest things
1. Waking up at 5am to go on the roof to see the colours of the sun rise
2. Walking in the grass outside with no shoes
3. Eating a juicy piece of watermelon
4. Watching Arsenal Footbal Club play
5. Speaking to my grandma on nothing and everything
6. Curling up with a good book and a cup of tea

I kno…

Personal Boundaries

“When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.”  Brene Brown


Setting Boundaries, having boundaries, executing boundaries- one of the most challenging things for me to do!  There have been times when I find myself in situations where people have overstepped my own boundaries but guess what? I never say nothin! I've figured it out that my silence is due to
1. not wanting to cause a conflict 2. wanting to be liked 3. not wanting to look fussy or "miserable" 4. giving others a "second chance"  5. rewinding of old tapes 5. thinking I am making a big issue out of a small issue
Almost every time it reaches to a point where things get sticky and blow up! 
What is a boundary? Boundaries are the physical, emotional and mental limits we establish to protect ourselves from being manipulated, used, or violated by others.
Learning t…

Are You Paying Attention?

Intuition is a sense of knowing how to act spontaneously, without needing to know why.” Sylvia Care

Life gives us so many clues and chances, hardly ever is there  something that happens "immediately"  we always get some tyoe of signal, the question is what do you do with the signals? Do we pay attention? Do we ignore? Do we listen? Do we act on the signals?
I have learnt that paying attention to the signals is an important part of living a whole life! Ignoring them can at times be disastrous! Be it, A pain in your shoulder A nagging feeling about someone you cannot put your finger on A long lasting cough Call it intuition, call is signs whatever you call it, trust me, paying attention to it will turn out well for you 
What are some of the signs that you have been neglecting and ignoring?