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Wednesday, 24 August 2016

Authenticity is a lifestyle

Seek not outside yourself or it will fail - ACIM

Most of you have found your authenticity in your most painful moments, when you could no longer go along with the program, as it were, when you were suffocating, strangling, caving in under the weight of other people’s ideas, behaviors, or expectations for your life.

However, your connection to your authenticity need not come through a reactive response. If you would dare choose your authenticity as a lifestyle, you would not experience such trauma.
Your authenticity is with you always.
It does not need drama or trauma in order to express
Remember, drama is optional
Show up. AS YOU! Every single time!
Who vex lorse!

Follow my own Journey to Authenticity in the book “What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love”

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Tuesday, 23 August 2016

Will you be whole?

Every day in the pursuit of knowledge something is added, spirituality is the practice of unlearning and letting go 
Deborah L Johnson

We are busy searching for what we are. We are like the fish in the ocean looking for the sea, we believe  that something is missing and we look to people, places and things to tell us who we are to fill the so called void. Newsflash - that never works and when we get what we belelive will fill us up it is short lived or we spend most of our time thinking that we are going to lose it
Listen to this, our inner being is so full of integrity that it will not allow us to keep anything that we do not believe we deserve to have,
There is an inner healing that has to take place
The acquisition of more will not do the trick
The acquisition of more never makes you whole
Quite the contrary, what makes you whole is the dropping of some of the "stuff"
Wholeness is about balance
Wholeness is about putting things in it's proper perspective
Wholeness is not about getting more
Wholeness is letting go of the stuff that does not belong
You need ALL of you, not just the parts that you think other people will like, not just the part where you have things, not just the mask, ALL of you

Will you be whole?

Monday, 22 August 2016

Love wishes to be known

Love wishes to be known, completely understood and shared. It has no secrets; nothing that it would keep apart and hide. It walks in sunlight, open-eyed and calm, in smiling welcome and in sincerity so simple and so obvious it cannot be misunderstood. ACIM 

Love has no secrets
I remember my professor telling me that anything that I wish to hide has no love in it- and we were talking about  my reluctance to publish a paper. When he said it to me I stopped for a moment, I thought it was one of the best things I heard all week more than any of the lectures I had attended.
As soon as he said it, my question-o-meter started beeping
Prof, what do you mean?
Anything that you feel the need or have to hide has no love in it, think about why you do not want to publish this paper and you may see that you do not love what you are doing 
I think I can use this piece of wisdom for everything Prof
Do as you please, if you have to hide anything in your life, or in fact, anyone, then that is not love

I remembered this on a trip when one woman reminded me that I had a responsibility to shine my light no matter how uncomfortable it made me or the people around me feel - stop the dimming

How many times have we decided that hiding things and people in the name of love was a good idea?
How many times have we decided that we would stay quiet to keep the peace?
How many times have we decided to withhold rather than share?
Love wishes to be known and shared.

Love walks in sunlight and I am love!


Saturday, 20 August 2016

Love does not force

"Love does not force" Marianne Willamson

Relationships I have learnt are containers for growth. We grow exponentially when we are functioning in the world in relationships, any type of relationships, but the most learning- the PhD of learning in relationships come from what we call romantic relationships

I can say with certainty that being alone, that is, away from all manner of people, for a while is healthy but for a long time is not as healthy as I thought. he majority of my growth came and was recognized in the interaction with people and intimate relationships, including the difficult ones

Yesterday I was having a conversation, someone asked me why was I single and have I found candidate for making children with - (I immediately thought of convening a screening process when I heard the word candidate) I digress
My response was a chuckle (I use the chuckle to stall)
She then went on to talk about in her relationship her man asked her to wear certain types of clothes because that is how his woman ought to be looking
Now see the thing is, no one tells me what to wear especially when I am buying the threads- no siree
Now I was curious, about how it made her feel
She admitted she did not like it but its a small price to pay to keep the peace
I began thinking about what I do to "keep the peace" I used to do a  whole lot of self-dishonoring things and I committed to myself that it ain't happening for love nor money ever again
I began thinking about how far I have come, because yes sometimes I start on the road and then I realise hey, this is the road to hell, and instead of saying but it may have a shortcut that may lead to heaven along the way I turn the hell around - literally

I'm looking for a partner to share, the whole forcing me to wear certain type of clothes, and all that goes along with it is not cutting it for me. Love supports, builds, encourages
All the things we say are love - newsflash if involves lies, fears, hiding, excuses and forcing- it is something masquerading as love, chances are it's your fear or something in you that requires healing or growth

May I remember that
If I am thinking with love I will experience the effects of love - and love is the absence of fear
If I am thinking with fear I will experience the effects of fear

Let the screening begin

Friday, 19 August 2016

You take you wherever you go

All uncertainty comes from the belief that you are under the coercion of judgment. You do not need judgment to organise your life, and you certainly do not need it to organise yourself. In the presence of knowledge all judgment is automatically suspended, and this is the process that enables recognition to replace perception ACIM

Pulled this out of the archive - it resonated with me today, I wrote this when I was running away and had a penny dropping moment.....

You take you with you wherever you go! At times there is the tendency to believe that one can simply move into another environment and that environment itself will provide some brand new insight. However, an environment alone cannot create anything within you. You take wherever you are in consciousness with you into the new environment. If there is a shift, a change, it needs to happen within you. You don’t have to go someplace else to get the shift of awareness nor does going somewhere else guarantee that the shift will happen. The question is you and your willingness to see anew. What will it take for you to give yourself permission to see things from another view?
Sometimes it is good to move yourself physically in relationship to what is going on, in so far as this physical adjustment leads to a mental adjustment. Too often the goal is to physically move, simply to get away. However if this is the underlying incentive, nothing will, in fact, change. Wherever you are there you go, wherever you go in consciousness that is where you go!
Seeing things anew from now! Why? There has been a massive shift in my consciousness! Show up as me every single time, open mind and willing spirit, love and love and love, sometimes the loving response is NO! Release the sense of separation that was taught and honour yourself because when you do, every single thing you do will come from that place

Thursday, 18 August 2016

Authenticity is a form of prayer

Truth is the absence of illusion; illusion the absence of truth. Both cannot be together, nor perceived in the same place.ACIM

You can run away from yourself for a very long time.
You can be married to the wrong person for a very long time and pretend it is fine
You can  work at a job which is half fulfilling you
You can hide behind the square footage, big cars, fancy holidays, big screen TV's
But you cannot get away with being a fake
Life will at some point reveal itself and show you a mirror to help you see your own truth
And if you've been faking it, ignoring your truths and feelings the wake up call with be very harsh
The call may be in the form of what we call a loss - loss of relationship, loss of job, loss of whatever external thing that you value yourself by

To be authentic is the highest form of prayer

Thank you to all who came out to support last night at Dianne's for Tea - love and love alone

Wednesday, 17 August 2016

The Body is a means not an end

The body can bring you neither peace nor turmoil; neither joy nor pain. It is a means, and not an end. It has no purpose of itself, but only what is given to it. The body will seem to be whatever is the means for reaching the goal that you assign to it. Only the mind can set a purpose, and only the mind can see the means for its accomplishment, and justify its use. Peace and guilt are both conditions of the mind, to be attained. And these conditions are the home of the emotion that calls them forth, and therefore is compatible with them. ACIM

Running this morning  at 5,45 AM was a challenge, I was not only sleepy but kept things on my mind which really had no right being brought into a new day- but I choose to kept it because I believed I could fix it. Our decision was to run 4.87 miles (or 7.5k). I started off with a little kick, thinking the faster I do this the faster I get over it. At about the one mile mark I wanted to stop and go sit down somewhere - no scratch that, lie down somewhere, anywhere! the pavement looked like a king size mattress with fluff pillows

I decided to use on the lessons I learnt on the journey, your mind is a tool, it can be used for your good purpose
I started saying "come on Yak, come on!" at first I was answering, who are you fooling, just stop and walk
No, come on, come on
I was having a proper conversation, I kid you not
Then I decided to continue and even bring in the Serena scream of "Come ON" - this is a loud scream where fist pumps are mandatory
Before I realized it I was seeing the end of the run - damn this thing works!
Today, I will use my mind for a good purpose, especially when I want to stop and throw a strop!
If it can work at 545am on a run, why can't it work anywhere else?
Stay tuned

Tuesday, 16 August 2016

Our potential is limitless

I live in the faith that there is a Presence and Power greater than I am that nurtures and supports me in ways I could not even imagine. I know that this Presence is All knowing and All Power and is Always right where I am  -Marianne Willamson

There are so many demonstrations of how the Universe has our back, even when things seem to be out of control - I learnt from that even though I may not have control that things are not out of control
I have been looking at the Olympics, seeing the inspiring performances and marveling at the beauty of the human spirit.
The Olympics remind me that we are tapped into an inexhaustible supply, our capacity to express our potential has no limit. In order to express our potential, we have to grow - growth is not linear.
We need to enlarge our capacity, enlarge our vision
We have a charge to create something new, something different
When we all come together magic happens

Monday, 15 August 2016

Are you willing to no longer recognize yourself?

The only person we can change is our SELF. If we don't like someone else's choices or behaviors we don't have to be around them. We can love them and have compassion for them while we remove our investment of energy in them - back to our SELF - so we can make choices for ourselves that are in our highest and best good. Sabrina Reber

Are you willing to no longer recognize yourself? You have an idea in your mind of who you think you are – you like certain things, you act this way, you respond this way to and so on and so on. You pride yourself in this.
All of this becomes integral parts of your personality. For any of it to shift is unsettling because it redefines who you are.
When you transform you must let go of the perceptions of yourself! You are busy trying to squeeze the great, grand, magnificent, spiritual you into this lil ole box called your personality. And in clinging so insistently to your personality you squeeze out the possibility of your greatness!
You must be willing for things to come out of your mouth that you never imagined would come out of your mouth.
You must be willing to say “I am sorry” when you would have held your ground to the death, even when you know you are wrong!
You must be able to appreciate at a deeper level the people, places and things that used to just rile you up.
You must be willing to see value in circumstances and conditions that you had written off as worthless.
You must be willing to see possibilities in a blocked path and know that a way is being made out of no way!
When you are willing to no longer recognise yourself for who you used to be, a revolution will happen in your life, to the eye will look like a transformation. Peace!!!