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You Are Divine

Accept the fact that you are Divine - Iyanla

The whole concept of "who are you?" is one that still fascinates me for many a reason includeing that we hardly ever contemplate it as a serious question and accept the definition of ourselves from our parents and sociaety, that knowing who we are is critical in making decisions that honor who we are and that knowing it provides a solid platform and foundation upon which to build.

My story of finding out is well documented and told- I was "forced" to contemplate it in a corner in a place in Northern Uganda on the spot, with many eyes upon me. I was told that nothing moves until I know and say out loud who I was with pride and confidence- a seminal moment in the shift of my own living

I sometimes forget who I am, because really remembering who I am holds me accountable and involves busting out comfort zones, unlearning patterns, questionuing norms and at times being darn uncomfortable. But all that never changees who I am…

Make Another Choice

If you think you’re defective or in need of fixing (which is the biggest lie of all), you will most definitely attract lovers, teachers, preachers, and politicians who want to so-called “love” you, and “fix” you, and “lead” you Danielle La Porte
Have you ever asked yourself or maybe even asked others "What the hell is wrong with me? why do I continue to make the same mistakes?" We turn around and realise that we are doing the same things in the same place many times with the same people, then we get to the point where we are asking"what the hel is wrong with me?" Well my lovies, I have learnt that there is nothing wrong! Yes, catch that! there is nothing wrong, it is basically a combination of not willing to do the work and making the same choices over and over again, so here's the thing. Make another choice, get another idea and know this, when you do there is work to be done to put it in place Are you willing to do the work? Make another choice about the food tha…

Lighten Up

Lighten up your enlightenment.Transformation doesn't have to be deep, dark, and mysterious. If you screw up, fine—laugh at yourself, learn, and move on. Iyanla
Laugh at it, laugh at the stuation, find the humour. It ain't all that serious, really it isn't! Think about all of the seemingly embarassing moments you've had - sometimes that shit is funny! Lighten up
Fun is important as we grow, we are gonna cock up, it teaches us humilty, it imcreases our self esteem , nothing small would get us out of sync
So go ahead, laugh, have fun and know that the next time will be better Peace
Please support this project that I am involved in to assist in the training of 6 young women from South Africa 
https://www.globalgiving.org/projects/train-6-young-female-leaders-in-south-africa/

Old Me...This me

While burying negative or uncomfortable feelings can numb the pain, it also may inevitably dull your ability to experience your more positive and pleasurable feelings. You may find yourself afraid to open up in the future for fear of getting hurt. The feelings we deny aren’t limited to anger and sadness. Suppressing our happiness or excitement can be just as unhealthy. In learning how to express your intense emotions in a healthy way, you are giving yourself the freedom to fully experience the more joyful emotions that come with being alive.
The old me would leave it to fester, to bury it in the bowels far far away This me, I write it out, cry, do some exercise, talk a little more The old me would say nothing to be liked and avoid "seeming conflict" This me would say something as kindly as I can The old me may have not taken responsibility or find blame This me has decided that it's all me, I am responsible for my life The old me would not even be wrting about this  This me says…

Mirrors

You are the creator of your own reality, and so you are not in jeopardy. You do not need to control the behaviour of others in order for you to thrive. Your attention to things that you think they do keeps you from thriving is, in fact, what keeps you from thriving. It is not what they do to you; its what you do to you in fear of what you think that they will do to you Abraham.

I was having a conversation with someone I consider a friend, someone who I admire their resilience, discipline, focus and committment to making their life better despite their circumstance. I usually like chatting with my friend, as well as the odd hanging out, shooting the breeze, talking and laughing sharing ideas. 
I spoke to my friend last week and thought to myself that the response was a bit short so I asked if there was a problem, the response was that "I am at work, so cannot talk, have a good day" I accepted that and moved on noting to chat later.
I reached out to my friend over the weekend, wi…

Listen to the Whisper

Here's the thing...It's natural to feel weird and want out. And it's normal to strive for joy and joy and joy. Without realizing you are joy. Maxie Mccoy
Think about that time you knew that person for you, wasn't right. Maybe it was a lover or a good friend. You knew deep down there were some red flags. You saw them but pushed them off. All the signs, all the feelings in your bones, pointed to get out now. But you didn't. 

Then there were more clear messages. But you ignored. Until finally you're facing a giant and massive brick wall that feels like an utter crisis to get through.
Shoulda listened to the murmur in the beginning that told you something about this isn't right.

We get those messages all the time. But sometimes we're not listening. Sometimes we don't want to: because it'll require a tough conversation.
Because it'll require forgoing 'safety.'
 Because it'll require an unknown. 
Because it doesn't feel 'secure.' 

Unveiling 2017

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On the journey to self-trust, trying to prove something never works. Either you know, believe and trust that you can do a thing and you do it, or you don't believe you can do it, force yourself to work on getting it done and then sabotage it. Iyanla

Unveiling 2017 - Looking into the Mirror of Self ended yesterday. It went wildy beyond my expectations, the love, the connection, the laughter, the flow- I did not even anticipate that the outcome would be this moving
The team that put this together are some courageous, dynamic, supportive, loving and kind women, I love them all and today sit in gratitude of what they were able to do with limited resources and some of my own self doubt thrown in
The venue was fabulous, the peace and tranquility, the comfort, the scenery. 
I sit today in gratitude
Lessons on the Journey

1. Show up, as yourself
2. Be Kind, always
3. Listen 
4. Gratitude is the greatest multiplier
5. Go thru hard even when feeling the fear
6. Ask for support if you require it
7. Love…