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Saturday, 28 May 2016

Stop Doubting

  1. If you're doing the right thing. You are.
  2. If you're lost. You're not.
  3. If you're enough. You are.
  4. If it will work out. Somehow, it always does.
  5. If you're too much. Never. Moving on.
  6. If they like you. Like yourself and they will. 
  7. If you made the right decision. All wrong ones lead us to the right ones. So, yes.
  8. If you look big in that dress. Couldn't matter less. You're beautiful.
  9. If you're standing out like a sore thumb. Hopefully. No one needs another them. 
  10. If you're being too emotional. Emotions are good. Roll with them.
  11. If you're overthinking it. Maybe. But you had to do it to know.
  12. If you'll make an ass out of yourself. Nope. Not your style.
  13. If you'll fail big time. Maybe. But you'll get back up. 
  14. If they'll tell you no. If so, you'll be on step closer to a wild yes.
  15. If you're saying the right things. Breathe and say them. The right words will come when you relax.
  16. If you'll ever hear from them again. If not, their loss.
  17. If it'll end how you want it. That which is meant for you will not pass you by.
  18. If your outfit looks OK. If you think it does, no one will give a damn.
  19. If you're out of your league. You're playing in it, so no. 
  20. If you're doing enough. Trust the process. 
  21. If you're spending time with the right people. All you need to know is if they energize you or not.
  22. If you're ever going to get to where you want to be. Yes. And be grateful for where you are right now.
  23. If you're pretty/cool/casual enough. They'll like you for you. Worry about that
  24. If you're smart enough to nail this. Yup. You've got all the tools in that shed and then some.
  25. If you deserve to be here. Always a yes. Always

Thank you Ms McCoy for the reminder

Friday, 27 May 2016

Focus on you

Consumed by what others are doing, some have forgotten to count their own successes and improve themselves Ijeoma

Focus on yourself. Focus on you being you and following your passion and heart's desire

When I was growing up, I had a ritual with my granma when I was about 7 years old. I would wait until she got home from work, we would make tea and sit on her bed and she would ask me how was my day at school, we would talk while we sip tea. I would look forward to it, I felt so grown sipping tea and chatting in her bedroom which was usually off limits.

And I would tell her about my friends who did this, and how their parents came to pick them up and they did better than me in the spelling and how I felt so hurt and sad that I was not first in the class or first to get picked up after school by a family
She would say to me and I am almost sure it was daily now in reflecting
You focus on you
You do better than you did yesterday and then the next day do better than that
You spend time on doing what you do better than you ever did
Be happy for those who are doing well
That is what I want you to do for mummy ok?
You have nothing to prove or show a soul ok?
And I would sip my tea nod my head and say hmm mummy you don't get it
She would respond, I get it and you get me, - it's bedtime!

Today, I think I do not have a competitive bone in my body except with myself, I am so not concerned with other people are doing that it appears at time as if I don't care. I do care about people however I know that my focus lies in being the best me.
When I forget that and my focus shifts I either call my "mummy" or if I cannot call her I remind myself that I have nothing to prove and nothing to lose.

Then I become realigned

Thursday, 26 May 2016

All books sold

I am dripping with gratitude
There is not one book left in the country, its sold out y'all! Now I was told that its all about taking orders, name on list and all!! What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love is officially sold out in Trinidad and Tobago! 
Times in my life I could have given up. I chose not to. I have known pain that will kill people, but so have you. So have you. Keep going.
Let us start again, this time with enough freedom & self-love. This time with enough patience, this time with enough kindness. you. & give thanks

Wednesday, 25 May 2016

Indicators of when it is not working

Indicators of when it simply is not working:
  1. You use “it sucks” in a sentence to describe any aspect of your situation.
  2. You “drag your ass” to it.
  3. Sunday night anxiety (dreading Monday.)
  4. Dismal sales (yes, the universe speaks to us through cash flow.)
  5. The bleak absence of synchronicity.
  6. Not a whole lot of thanks coming your way.
Danielle La Porte

OMG! relief when I can just admit it, and the thing what I have learnt  is that admitting when things are not working does not equate with me fixing it immediately! Nope! And that was my fear, if I admit that it doesn't work I would have to fix it and I may have doubts if I can indeed fix it,as well as admit to myself that I messed up- that's a nope as well
Admitting it means I can make another choice and recognizing the lessons.
I don't have to fix it right away either, hell I may not even know how to fix it (times like these repeat episodes of Iyanla Fix My Life come in handy!) 
Sometimes there is nothing to fix just an acknowledgement, an acceptance that another choice is required, another place is necessary.

Here's to penny dropping moments, moving on and making new choices

Tuesday, 24 May 2016

Building prisons in your mind

If you build a prison in your mind and then hold yourself hostage, please do not blame anyone. Do not blame anyone but yourself. Ijeoma

I have learnt that whatever you attach to your I am that is what you become. Simple
I heard that message being taught even by religious leaders. What does that mean?
I am sick
I am fed-up
I am happy
I am positive
You become whatever you attach your I am to
And this is not to deny how you feel, if you are ill you are ill. The challenge begins when we start giving labels to things that we have no business doing or giving credence to
Listen to yourself
What do you attach to yourself that you inherited, gave no though to and just ran with it, unconsciously
What do you attach to yourself because you have given up  taking responsibility for honoring yourself, acknowledging the truth 
I listen in awe when people start labeling themselves with diseases and ailments - with absolutely no evidence 
I listen in awe when people make excuses for bad behaviour 
I listen when people attach to their I am that they are stupid- with a grin attached
and the list goes on and on
I am unlimited
I am love
I am service
I am raising the vibes
I am getting to good
I am health 
What about those
Say it and see what you become

Monday, 23 May 2016


“grieve. so that you can be free to feel something else.” ― Nayyirah Waheed

One of my favorite lessons is  "feel my feelings." Feel them. When you bury them alive they don't die.
You bury them and they fester, they manifest in dis-ease, in anger, in fear, in lashing out and poor decisions. Feel them and let them go.
I was taught to suck it up, to be strong, to have on big girl panties. And I know this was taught to me by my grandma because she had to do that to survive, showing feelings in her day was a sign of weakness which would result in a beating, a whipping or some sort of punishment

I resisted this lesson for a very long time. Feel the feelings? Are you kidding me? I will not be able to function, I will just fix and put them aside.
And so my approach was to forget it, put it out of my mind and fix it.
Until the proverbial shit hit the fan.
Then I realized that I could not fix everything and in particular there was nothing "wrong" with me that needed fixing.
I decided to feel, and boy oh boy, it was through the fire, I felt, I burnt, I laughed, I cried, I howled, I bawled, I stayed in my PJ's for 2 days, I released
I learnt that the process was to
and the process begins with feel
not fix
not  be busy
not judge
not criticize
not complain
not hide
not blame
not eat copious amounts of chocolate
Feel it, deal with it and it will be healed. Heal it

Saturday, 21 May 2016

Expect the unexpected

change can be tough. As humans we are attached to things being our way — even the small things. Dr Christiane Northrup

I found myself saying this statement many times over the past few months " I don't like fuss, I really don't" and in paying attention I learnt that the more I talk about fuss - which I lump into unnecessary worry and movements to achieve and get to a goal or achieve a task, looking to control a situation unnecessarily and stressing out people with this perception of control. Newsflash- life is easier when you accept that there are things that will happen that you have no control over and it will not affect your efficiency, your worth, your inner self. Like for example - if people who signed up to attend a workshop do not come or call - nothing to do with you, who ever is present is supposed to be there
So yes, the more I talk about not liking fuss, I find myself more and more in a fuss fest.
And here is the lesson- talk about what you want, affirm it, because what you focus on grows.
Recognize that your thoughts matter, and takes form on some level. You cannot diminish the power of your mind- you can misuse the power of your mind
What are we using our mind for
and everything changes
expect the unexpected , and then handle it

Friday, 20 May 2016

Nothing gives meaning to what is nothing

Nothing gives meaning where no meaning is. And truth needs no defense to make it true. ACIM

This is one of my favourite lessons in the Course- truth needs no defense, whatsoever! whether we believe it or not, it is the truth, whether we make excuses or not, it remains true and added to that is when we know the truth, make excuses and attach meaning to something - nothing gives meaning where no meaning is. And so, I am reminded of this so many times it actually assists me when I am making decisions, when I am being defensive and denying the truth that is so evident.

Yesterday I had the privilege to share lessons on the journey to 40 other Charities, civil society organisations and people working to make the world better than they found it. I remembered "nothing gives meaning where no meaning is" when the point was raised that the world is in such a horrible state? Is that really true? Is it true that we are doomed? nothing can give meaning to that, at least for me. So the discussion moved to hope and is having hope enough.
The truth is, we are here with a wonderful opportunity to continue to learn, to share, to demonstrate that opportunities exist and to continue along with faith that there is meaning and method to the madness

On a totally separate note, but just wanted to share, the crew that worked together to facilitate the coming together of these organisations are an absolute gem, I felt so inspired to be a part of this team of women who showed up as themselves, authentic and in service
Giving thanks for being a part of a super crew!

Thursday, 19 May 2016

Courage is a habit

Everything I know about courage, I learned from completely messing up my life.
(And, upon realizing I’d messed up something, deciding to learn from that).

Courage isn’t something you’re born with; it’s a habit. It’s a practice that you create and cultivate over time.

Again: everything I know about courage, I learned from completely messing up my life. Kate Courageous

Today I facilitate the JB Fernandes Memorial Trust Grantee Consultation at the Hyatt Hotel from 7am, I am really grateful to be in a room with people who are doing their best to make this planet a place to live, work and be proud of, who have made their work a Ministry and is courageous enough to go to a place of uncertainty on a daily basis 
Giving thanks
Holla at ya on the other side