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Saturday, 30 April 2016

NiNa Graduation Day

Give, unrestrained. Assume nothing Danielle La Porte

NiNa Graduation happened yesterday, I smiled so much my jaws are paining!
I played very little part in the planning of the graduation I showed up and assumed nothing
NiNa is a program that I started at a point in my life where I thought it was all over, I decided after reading something somewhere that in order to forget about your own issues, get involved in doing something positive for someone else, I also had this dream for a while but had no clue on how to make it happen
The Universe said yes as soon as I did and the programme started in my old high school as an after school programme and now in it's 5th year it has grown from strength to strength 

The participants this year were exceptional, every year they are quite good, this year however, these young ladies were so so willing, open minded and extremely ambitious. it showed up in their presentations and yesterday at the graduation! We had a fabulous time I am grateful to them for teaching me to show up open minded, willing, courageous and ambitios


Friday, 29 April 2016


What Did I Learn Today?
There's no better feeling than doing what you say -Accomplishment
And I suppose that starts by saying what you mean
And meaning what you articulate
And believing in what you think
And thinking about what you dream
and action, doing it
Today, I smiled a whole lot, and what has me still smiling maybe even more than reading at the Bocas Lit Festival is meeting Kesha James today at the YWCA and presenting two books to her.

I never met Kesha James, she came to an event I spoke at and the head of the YWCA contacted me over Facebook saying that Kesha was quite moved by the talk and started making forward movement to taking responsibilty for her goals and vision for the first time. She asked me if I can come by and drop off the books to Kesha. I had a full day at Bocas Lit so I told her that I will really make a big effort but cannot promise as I am not sure when I would be finished. I finished early and called the YWCA, and headed over to deliver the books. It really made my day. Pride,humility, love came forth and I am grateful.

Bocas Lit  Fest, the literary festival held annually in Trinidad and Tobago, is one of the Caribbean's largest literary festival with authors from across the globe, was a wonderful experience for me, the energy in the space, the authors speaking and sharing, the vibes- I was an absolute smiley face all day
From talks on Calypso to travel, to civil rights you name it!
The festival ends on Sunday 1st May and I plan to be a spectator over the weekend - take in the vibes

NiNa Graduation is on today!! 


Thursday, 28 April 2016

This is how self-trust breaks down.

 You get stuck in thinking about what you should feel rather than acknowledging what you actually do feel. You are left with needs that do not go away and that you are unable to fulfill. This leads you to believe that you are not safe in the world, that you make bad choices, that you cannot have what you desire and that your best efforts will never be good enoughIyanla

OMG  how many times have I told myself no I don't feel that I should be feeling "this" - does anyone know what I am talking about?
Your feeling is up in your face shouting at you, sometimes slapping you but you push it away and convince yourself that you should be feeling something else
The feeling is buried alive, it doesn't go away, it manifests itself in so many other ways including affecting your health
This I know for sure
Feel the feelings
The discomfort is temporary
Not feeling the feelings will not change the reality of what happened, it will not change the past what it will do is have you acknowledge and accept the situation and deal with it
and that is the first step of healing
A Course in Miracles says "Truth does not struggle against ignorance, and love does not attack fear" the truth just is, it cannot be altered and needs no defence
And so the feelings you feel builds self trust, it lets you know that whatever happens you can handle it
you can deal with it and come out on the other side reminding you that there is nothing to fear, the discomfort is growing pains
Feel the feelings

Wednesday, 27 April 2016

Top Fifteen Lessons This Month

Dreams don't happen because you're busy. They happen because you're intentional. Because you've made space to move the right things forward- Maxie McCoy

It's been a month of lessons, my friend told me last night that when I talk of lessons it is usually challenges, not joy, and yea traditionally when I reflect that is true what she said about how I speak of the challenges. 

Life happens, it just does, this month has been one of the months where the challenges came in like a tide, the beauty is the tide goes back out after washing things away and this is and was the case so I wanted to share my top fifteen lessons for this month

  1. Overthinking can be a form of fearful avoidance. Few people have "eureka" moments by strenuously over analysing.
  2. Stop waiting for life to begin or change. Do it now.
  3. We all want instant results. But only the Lotto, Disney and The X Factor promise that. Amazing things take time.
  4. We are all scared. It's not only you.
  5. Resilience is the key to reaching your goals and pretty much everything really.
  6. Quite often our biggest pain is all about other people not being how we want them to be.
  7. Worrying never helps 
  8. If you want change in your life you have to DO something differently
  9. Always treasure anyone who has helped you or made you feel good about yourself. They're precious.
  10. Perfectionism is a form of hiding from blame. Maybe even shame
  11. We are all creative beings.
  12. It's OK to not have the foggiest. Keep taking the steps.
  13. The unknown and uncertainty have to become your homies. It's all we have.
  14. Shyness and under confidence are not part of your DNA. You can change this
  15. Seek silence. Find answers

Tuesday, 26 April 2016

Be observant

When we find ourselves offended by the choices of others we are not in alignment with the diversity of creation, nor are we in alignment with the highest good of our own free will choices. This is called ego projection - where we criticize the behaviors of others because we are not being observant of the behaviors within our SELF.  Sabrina Reber

Pay attention when you are criticizing. Pay attention to when you are constantly doing it. Pay attention

That is a lesson I learnt on my journey - constant complaining and criticizing meant that my life was trying to communicate with me - to pay attention to ME! catch that - my life was calling me to pay attention to ME, what I was doing, what I was not doing, what I was accepting, the bad behavior I was condoning, the things I was not saying, the complaining about other people was a way to project outward my own dissatisfaction and fear.
And so I pay attention to what I say and how I say it
Sometimes I slip up but practice helps
and I get to see and know when I required to pay attention to ME!
Ain't life sweet?
Giving us signs everytime

Monday, 25 April 2016


Show up for where you’ve been led.  be consistent. Happiness isn’t for dabblers Gabby Bernstein

I am a fan of consistency- my definition of which is quite simple - do something every day in the direction of a clear vision, however small. Now that requires two main ingredients, a vision and belief in the vision - clarity.

What do you want?
What do you really really want?
Is it clearly defined?
You don't even have to know how you will achieve it, all that is required to move is the belief  and that being consistent in your actions will propel you towards it.

When I was in University I decided that no matter how small I would do something everyday to get me to my vision of having a degree from this institution, whatever it was. Everyday. I believed and I moved
Some days I may do 15 minutes but I did something. It was a decision. A very conscious decision.
And so, I was reminded of consistency this weekend, have I been consistent in my actions, hell am I even clear on what the vision is?  Old lessons being brought to the fore here. And I remain grateful to the Universe for the reminders. Life is so for us that it gives us messages and reminders - once we pay attention we become aware that the Universe is saying something to us.
Get clear
Be consistent
Trust the process
 and find somewhere in there to rest and celebrate the victories


Saturday, 23 April 2016


Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others. We can't base our own worthiness on others' approval (and this is coming from someone who spent years trying to please everyone!). Only when we believe, deep down, that we are enough can we say "Enough!"  Brene Brown

How do you set boundaries? Do you have boundaries? Do you know what boundaries are? How can I set boundaries? These are questions that surfaced in my pool yesterday

Why? I believe it did because of my deep desire to keep the peace, people please, and avoid confrontation. This week working with a team showed me that I must choose courage over comfort and set some boundaries for myself - and that involves me knowing without a shadow of a doubt what I want, what is okay for me and knowing that whatever the outcome of letting people know this I will be okay
Pretty sobering thoughts right there
Onwards to setting boundaries....

Friday, 22 April 2016

They showed up

Personal Power - it is the source of influence and authority in every aspect of your life and your ability to exercise that influence consistently and constructively - Iyanla Vanzant

Today at the NiNa  -  a young women entrepreneurship programme that I developed and work with in schools - I sat listening to the 15 young ladies present their business models to a panel of three judges (who by the way rocked today thank you so much to Helen Tonia and Tisha) I felt so happy, contented and full of joy
You see, the journey to here was one that started with 15 young ladies who did not even contemplate that they would find, present and enjoy this moment- and here we were, six weeks later full of confidence- those ladies SHOWED UP! they showed up- magical things happen when we show up
And even if none of them ever go into business I pray that they remember the day that they showed up proud, ready and open!

Thursday, 21 April 2016

Push beyond what you know

Take a risk and push yourself beyond what you know - Iyanla Vanzant

How boring would life be if I knew everything? If there were no new discoveries on my journey?
I love learning new things, going to new places, I feel a real sense of joy when I have a penny dropping moment or someone shows me a new way of doing something or I read something for the first time. Curiosity won't kill this cat!

Sometimes however, the new thing is uncomfortable and seemingly risky, it brings up things stored inside that have been buried consciously or unconsciously. This is where we choose to push back and stay in the familiar comfortable place even if it is not contributing to our growth development or evolution. Just because it is familiar.
Today I was having a conversation with a friend - my perspective was ok what's going on, I believe I am doing the "right" thing so why am I feeling stuck and confused? why is there push back? And she said to me - "you have your way of handling situations, you choose to take what some will call the highroad - is that working for ya here?"
"why don't you try a new way? do a new thing?"
OMG! she was right!
Time to do a new thing - because you know I am one who believes in there is no try, it is do or don't
Do a new thing, take a risk, push yourself beyond what you know and then push some more
It's like exercising, or running a race- you won't know if you can until you do it, there is no amount of reading or Googling or simulation or talking about it that will substitute for actually doing it
And so I learnt a new thing today, life remains exciting