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Friday, 17 April 2015

Now is all I got - For Sure!

Two Truths About Time

We all have the same amount.
You cannot create more.

There are infinite ways to do thing called life. It’s miserable to try to endlessly cram things in; it’s joyful to pare back.
You actually have plenty of time, if you get clear on what you desire most. Kate Courageous

Hey peeps I’m touching base as promised. On the journey over to Georgia, I re-read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, one of my absolute favourite tools. I must have read this book about 4 times already but I felt I needed a reminder of being present in the moment and of the importance of presence. Now is all I ever have, this moment and presence is the awareness of that. How freaking awesome is that? To be reminded that each and every moment is to be savoured, each and every moment is to be present. I have been focusing on the future and neglecting  and missing the now so this was a great reminder and here is what happened with my reminder, everything just suddenly started to made a difference. The sounds I heard, the people I met and the feelings I felt, less anxiety about what will happen or what should happen in the next few days on this book tour and less mad reflection of what happened in the past.
So here I am in Hotlanta Atlanta with my gracious hosts, I’ve never met them before but it’s been a connection like family! Giving thanks! I have been more present in conversations, in looking at the beauty of my surroundings and focusing on where I am at presently
Straight onto the planning of the week’s activities over dinner! Listen, take it from me, anything is possible with faith, persistence and putting in the work! Be present today!
Thank you for being a part of my journey


Wednesday, 15 April 2015

On the train to Georgia...

Affirm, pray, focus, ommm. Danielle La Porte

The Journey takes me to Atlanta Georgia for a bit, Nyabo (Madam) - Why are you Here? is being launched in the US this week and this is where the train begins. To say I am grateful is a huge understatement- I am dripping with gratitude! I have been hearing everyday this week that something is being added to the schedule and I just say okay in awe, humility and gratitude!
The schedule is packed, two radio interviews, a Women's brunch, feature speaker at a business meeting and to end it off I go to a church to talk, on a Sunday to booth! Well who knew????

So, look out for the updates and see you soon!!


Tuesday, 14 April 2015

Choices and its Consequences

Every situation, every condition and every circumstance present in your life today is the consequence of choice you made or did not make; a thought you held and the words you have or have not spoken. A consequence is what unfolds in relationship to how you do or do not honor your intentions and commitments.

It is the result, outcome, effect, ramification and the aftermath of everything you think, feel, say and do. In many cases, you may also face a consequence for what you choose not to do. Your life today is a function of what you did or did not do yesterday. Your life tomorrow, next week, next year and for the next 3, 5 and 10years will be a reflection and a consequence of what you think, say, do and/or fail to do today. Iyanla

I saw my grandpa (Daddy) yesterday, for the first time since 2005. Daddy and I were a team! I was his first born grandchild and he never let anyone forget or told anyone who was willing to listen or not listen even, until people would come up to me randomly even and say "Your grandfather, girl the man needs to stop it about you!" 
He would pick me up from school three times a week and I would hang with him sometimes until it was time to go home, I would go to his house for Christmas holidays and spend a few days, when I moved to London and I came home to visit we would sit on his porch and talk for hours! And then boys started coming around me! Daddy did not play! He would say "Kous bring them all here before you entertain them" I would laugh and ignore him but if he sees me out and about with them there would be a stern talking too!  

I was going to get married, I called Daddy he said "Kous I never sat and asked that young man his intentions and you are getting married to him, I want to sit with the both of you" I told him not too worry Daddy I will be fine. And he was upset, he came to the wedding and then I moved away and our relationship changed, When I did go to see him with my new husband he said to him in front of me "young man you have no god or good intentions where my first born beautiful grandchild is concerned I know it and you know it" Boy oh boy I was embarrassed and vex, and my husband at the time said "Daddy needs to mind his own business" another sign I ignored! And that was it, I just let the relationship with Daddy die. 
So after that, feeling embarrassed that Daddy was right about the lack of good intentions I chose to ignore him when my marriage went bust, and just never visited him, called him, nothing! 
My mother always said to me, "please go and see your granpa he is grieving that you are not talking to him" I never answered her!

I got to the home yesterday in which Daddy is now living, as I walk in the front door I see him sitting there, looking so healthy, well dressed, handsome as ever. He sat there singing and tapping his hands on the table. He looks up at me and smiled, I bend over to kiss him and he stops me and asks " Do I know you? You don't look familiar" 

I stood there feeling so stooopid! Ok yes they told me he was sick and that is why he now lives in a home, but he looks so normal, so healthy, so like Daddy I knew who was always active.
"Daddy it's Kous"
"Kous? Oh that name sounds familiar, sit next to me let us talk"
I sat down next to him and as the tears was rolling down my cheek he said you look well I don't know you but I am glad you came, let us be happy now because you are here.

Unfinished business leaves you with power leaks, it drains your system of the power you were born with, unfinished business takes you away from the present moment, you take the unfinished business with you into the now and that is a recipe for repeating the same things over and over. Dealing with it clears the way for blessings to flow, the temporary pain or discomfort will pass but after that oh the feeling is sweet and light. Deal with it! 

It felt good to see Daddy again, I cannot go back and fix it or change it but I have now and its all good! Power leak plugged, I'm powered up!! Boom!


Monday, 13 April 2015

It just feels right

Authenticity is about returning and magnifying who you are, instead of trying to become someone who you think you should be. It’s about peeling off the false adornments and standing wholly, holy, and true. What Did I  Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love 

So my granma asks me why don't I get a "real job." I told her I found my purpose and my path, she asked me what does that mean?

It means - what I am doing feels right! It just feels right.

You know when you are on purpose and on the path when you do not have to betray yourself, Carolyn Myss (one of my favorite teachers says it well).

You are not put in a position to betray yourself
You are no longer in a position where you have to negotiate your sense of integrity, which is another act of self betrayal.
You don't have to compromise who you are!
It isn't costing you your power!
It isn't costing you your psyche!
It isn't costing you your soul!
You don't feel confused on some deep level!
You don't feel drained - you may feel tired after a day's work but not drained feeling like you are losing yourself.

It just feels right!
It feels right!

There is nothing, nothing worse than self-betrayal! And ask yourself this- what is more important that your own commitment to yourself? 


Saturday, 11 April 2015

Good Enoughness

Truth does not vacillate; it is always true ACIM (A Course in Miracles)

There are some of us who are recovered "I'm not good enough" addicts, and some of us who are still recovering. As addicts we think not good enough, feel not good enough,drink not good enough, eat not good enough and shoot ourselves up with a daily does of not good enough.

Sometimes we expend  great deal of time and energy chasing things and people that are not good enough for us. Often, to get these not good enough people, we will sleep with them, only to discover they are not worth the time and energy we spent trying to get them.

When you are a not good enough addict, you can't do the right thing because you are not good enough. However, you will beat yourself up because you are not good enough to do what you need to do.

The truth is,as long as you believe  you are not good enough, you will never feel good enough. And as long as you are not good enough, you cannot, will not, take responsibility for the truth of who you are.

Hey, just for the record, accept it, you are good enough to handle it!

Adapted from Until Today

Friday, 10 April 2015

Each moment is just what it is

“Each moment is just what it is. It might be the only moment of our life; it might be the only strawberry we’ll ever eat. We could get depressed about it, or we could finally appreciate it and delight in the preciousness of every single moment of our life.” Pema Chodron

I was sitting at my computer and as my friend says "over thinking" Really wracking my brain and retracing my steps on what missteps I made with a situation and getting more and more frustrated. 

At that moment I decided to get up and read, take a break from my own overthinking and boom Pema Chodron was my choice.  I read the quote above I was literally screaming OMG, you do it every time Universe, ok I hear ya! Lead me straight to what I needed. 

It's about the moment, everything is about the moment so why do I keep fighting to prolong the past and the moment? Just enjoy the moment and know that each one, each moment will be different. Focus on that rather than trying to recreate the moment that just passed, it is gone a new one is here that I am not only missing it by thinking about what has gone but missing its magic and beauty in attempting to manipulate it to be like the past! Wow, talk about an AhA moment! 
Moment by moment 
Moment by moment
And when the moments add up it becomes a life time.
Am I going to be present in the moment and accept it for what it is or keep looking back trying to manipulate the present?- straight case of lunacy I say! According to Byron Katie, when you argue with reality you suffer.
There are things I need to leave well enough alone, the moment is gone, recreating it is wasting time, pay attention to the present and make the most of that. Pay attention to the signs and take the good memories into the next moment.
I wish today that you enjoy, be present, learn and cherish every single moment!

Thursday, 9 April 2015

Take the limits off

We’re all scared of the new. Shy and reverent. Reverently shy. But jump. Fall in. Danielle La Porte

Dear Akosua
I know that you
You have hopes and dreams
Oh yes you do.
And you have goals, that you want to achieve.
And I hope that you,
I hope you know by now 
That you can have everything you want.
Everything you need
If you take the limits off of me.
There is no limit to, what I can do.
I'm trying to get through to you.
Say IT, without doubt
And have faith in me.

Because there's nothing
Impossible to believe

If only you would learn to put
Your trust in me.
Put all fear aside
And you will see.

Signed, and your's always God (Universe, Buddha- call me what you want)


Wednesday, 8 April 2015

What's in your soup of life?

There are three serious poisons in the soup of life - Anger, Greed and Ignorance  - Angel Kyodo Williams

Angel Kyodo Williams' work is an eye opener! She introduces what some may call some radical concepts in her work as the founder of the Transformative Institute. I have been inspired by her philosophy and teachings and have been keeping an open mind to them over the past couple of months. Her work to me resonated because she talks about transformation being an inside job! It starts with me. Living from a heart centered place rather than an ego centered one.

Today I worked with the awesome rural community group in Brasso Seco, The drive from town is roughly two hours to the first point and today a driver was appointed to take me as there was more driving to do once we got there. The driver asked me a few questions about what we were doing in the rural communities and the impact and results. Seemed a pretty simple set of questions. Then he proceeded to preach to me about the importance of the christian religion by tearing down every other one, why I need to be morally and spiritually responsible and remember that people are full of sin and evil! I started getting hot, sweat started pouring from under my arms. I said to him, fear and ignorance are two main reasons for many of the ways people act and think and at this point my view is that people are fundamentally good including you so let's try to look at a new way of viewing our fellow brothers and sisters! If we think people are fundamentally full of sin and evil and that shapes our actions then boy oh boy, that explains a lot of things that are happening in the world! I choose to give people the benefit of the doubt and I know that I know that I know that good never runs out, it may just change form


Tuesday, 7 April 2015

Do not waste your failures

 A come back is not a go back - Tim Storey

News flash! You cannot go back and fix things! You just can't! Life is always in session. Many times situations come to you as feedback, as communication as guidance as to what you might need to do, change or move. I will admit, I am a recovering "fixer"Boy oh boy, I wanted to fix things, as soon as something came up my mind would be racing how can I fix this? Many times it would involve going back! But I have learnt that I cannot go back! Forward, onward and upward. When you feel the need to fix ask yourself is this fear based? Am I ignoring the signs? What exactly do I want to fix?
Any and every successful person knows that challenges and failures come as part of the package and the decision is really how do I learn from this to take me forward
One of my best best lessons is that learning only takes place when my behavior changes! If I am still doing the same ole shit honey I haven't learnt a thing and class remains in session!

So, I have stopped my fix it mode, I look at the situation and ask what are you here to teach me? How can I use this to take me forward then I let go, trust, have faith and hope that I don't have to repeat the class! Surrender sounds like ahhhhhhhhh....