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Saturday, 18 October 2014

I press on

We choose to grow by letting go of what’s no longer working. Sometimes this requires some mourning. Go there with your full heart and soul. Danielle La Porte

My grandma was a grandma at my age, she was a young hip lady who told her grandchildren at least the three she had at the time to call her "mummy" in public! She has always been the one running the show. She's considerably older now well into her 80's and we have always wondered how she was so strong, she plants her own food, still drives and is involved in community groups. She's ill now and its been tough for me to accept, I have been pulling out all the lessons learnt this week, so much so I sometimes cannot even go and visit her or talk on the phone!
I sat down with her this week and she asked me "How you really doing Yak?" I just looked at her, you are ill and you asking me! She said, have some principles in your life and stand on them and when you do everyone will benefit whether they agree with you or not! Use your spirituality to guide you and don't buy into and listen to any foolishness about you are full of sin and have to be guilty
I was like, why are you talking so? Talk normal, let's talk politics! We always have hours of talk about politics and that's what we spent the rest of the time doing but I know I have to make some changes and find acceptance of her being slower and less feisty than before! I press on and ask for the guidance!

Friday, 17 October 2014

It will be worth it!

Reality is never frightening. It is impossible that it could upset me. Reality brings only perfect peace. When I am upset, it is always because I have replaced reality with illusions I made up.ACIM

The key to living the truth of who you are (read: no fear, except the fear that keeps you out the way of moving trucks etc) is to unlearn what you have been taught in fear.  

Hold on, it's going to get rough for a bit...

And yes, it can take time (usually always) to unlearn.

And yes, it's may not be easy (usually not) to unlearn.

And yes, you will want to go back to what you know.

And yes, some people will have something to say about it - in protest or joining.

And yes, you will have a battle in your mind for a while as you reshuffle.

And yes, you will jump back and forth between fear (insane) and love (sane) for a time, because fear doesn't leave the building easily when asked.

And yes, you will need to discipline yourself.

And yes, you will need do the very things you fear the most (give up guilt, shame, fear itself, doubt, sabotage).

And yes, you will need to do work on you, as in change your thinking.

And yes, you will need to challenge all those beliefs and values you think are you (but they aren't, if they change, so can you).

And yes, you will need to have hard conversations - with yourself and others.

And yes, you will need to whip your ass into paying attention and staying awake (until you're up for good).

And yes, you will get upset when you don't know what the hell you believe anymore.

And yes, you will hate the process for a time.

And yes, you will have to admit exactly what life it is you want to live - no shame, no guilt, no apologies.

And yes, you will have to take massive action and believe in something bigger and greater than you.

And yes, you will have to cut out the BS, excuses and what if's.

And yes, you will need bravery and courage to find your inner bravery and courage! 
So what’s it to be peeps?
I really mean, stop being the person that goes so far with their ideas and plans, sees a hurdle and then quits


Thursday, 16 October 2014

Take a risk ..... every single day

Why you? Because there’s no one better. Why now? Because tomorrow isn’t soon enough.
— Donna Brazile

I have learnt that I grow when I take risks! When I do things that push me out of my comfort zone I consider it taking risks! I do something small daily to get me into the habit of taking risks and pushing myself! It may be as simple as a phone call to someone who may tell me NO! I do something daily to push me out of my comfort zone which is where the magic lives! I like magical living!

What do you do to push yourself? Get into the habit of doing something at least once a week, you will see how it becomes easier and easier to take steps to living the life that you really want
How many times have you said I want to do this but....  to make that leap start with the small things and drop me a line letting me know how it goes
Push yourself!

Wednesday, 15 October 2014

How do you want to feel?

Do you have a vision for your life? Can you without a doubt say how you want your life to be, how you want to feel, what qualities are important to you?
If you cannot, take some time to think about it and write it down, again- take some time to think about it and WRITE IT DOWN!
See yourself as the ideal you and move towards that every day! I think this was one of the best lessons and piece of advice I received over the past 3 years
What do you want for yourself? and I am not talking about a car, a house, a new flat screen TV! Sure you want those things and to live a comfortable life but I mean
How do you want to feel? How do you want to show up? How do you want to serve?
Do you want to be courageous, authentic, honorable, powerful?

I remembered that in a meeting yesterday and it became so easy when they asked me to do something and I said, I'm sorry this does in no way fit into the vision that I have for myself!
There was no hesitation on my part to say it and it felt pretty darn good to say it as well
Three years ago I could not say that!
So get a vision, and get it quick!

Tuesday, 14 October 2014

The treasure never does the hunting!

The ego tries to convince you that what you have seen is something you lack instead of something you already have. "In You is everything I hope to find already given me" (1:6). You are what you have been looking for. ACIM

Just when I think I have to search for something, have a situation under control or feel I am missing something so I set out a plan to strive for it an event comes along to put me back on track! I love The Course in Miracles, it is one of my favourite pieces of work, it says I am already what I have been looking for! So to me that says,. hey you, stop searching for the proverbial it! You're it! Tap into it! Tap into you! And I just exhale!

The treasure never does the hunting. Do you know you are the treasure? Yes you are! And don't you forget it!

There is nothing lacking in you! It really is just that simple! Believe that! 


Monday, 13 October 2014

I've turned pro!

"Turning pro changes how people perceive us. Those who are still fleeing from their own fears will not try to sabotage us. They will tell us we’ve changed and try to undermine our efforts at further change. They will attempt to make us feel guilty for these changes. They will try to entice us to get stoned with them or fuck off with them or waste time with them, as we’ve done in the past, and when we refuse, they will turn against us and talk us down behind our backs."

- Steven Pressfield

Everything is transient! One of my favourite teachers tell me, do not get bogged down by time and what you should be doing by when, nothing in life is linear! That's your own perceptions! She says it all the time! So things are changing every day and we get fearful because they are, we get comfortable with one thing and the fear of the unknown pushes us to believe that if it changes it will be doomsday or we may not be able to handle it! The sun sets and the moon comes up, the rain falls and the sun shines, nature always provides us with a preview of life! So people come into our lives for a time, it may five minutes, five years, fifty years! But they leave! Some leave because they transition from human life and some leave by choice! What happens is when the purpose and lesson of something and someone is over, it is time to move on! and that isn't easy for most of us! We want to hold on! But the Universe holds up a mirror, it gives you signs. You are struggling to be happy, you are getting ill, you are having rotten luck, but you hold on and hold on and hold on! It's time has come! And just like everything in life this too shall pass! It could be a job, a relationship, a situation, we hold on! 
I've been there! Holding on to relationships, jobs and people whose time has come! But the Universe is so loving, it kept giving me signs to make the change! to trust and know that on the other side of the change is magic! Is freedom! 
I've turned pro according to Steven Pressfield and that means some changes have come like a thief in the night! And guess what? I'm ready!

Get ready for your turning pro - turn pro in your life, make some changes and have faith that the magic is to come!

Saturday, 11 October 2014


I'm sharing  a story from one of my favourite teachers Danielle La Porte- enjoy!

We do it for “love,” we do it for spirituality, we do it to polish our halos. We do it because some relationship books tell us to. We do it to look good.

We become more … accepting.

You KNOW I’m all for Love. The unbridled kind. The pure, bright Love that melts it all to rapturous clarity. That. And… I want to Love with my eyes open — eyes on my self worth, eyes on my dignity, eyes on what I deserve.

So I’m way less “accepting” of… way less. If I seem less tolerant, it’s because I am. It may look “less loving” on the outside, but my love of life and all the people in my life runs deeper than ever — and I express my love more freely than I did when I used to put up with more crap than I do.

What are you “accepting” right now because it’s the ethical thing to do, or the harmonious way to go? Ethics, harmony, real love — so divine. So much goodness can go in the “healthy acceptance” category. But…What on your “tolerance list” is lifting your life up, vs. what’s weighing it down? What occasions of acceptance are expanding your being with love, vs. what’s making you quietly resentful? When do you feel freedom rush in because you’re accepting the way someone/something is, and when do you feel muffled? Love is a great complexity so it’s not always that black or white, but sometimes it is. Go there.

There’s the now legendary story of Maya Angleou’s dinner party. A guest that she had invited made a racist joke. She asked him to leave. Unacceptable.

Here’s the spiritual bottom-line: Take less shit. 

You want to be ethical and loving and harmonious? Love you and love your values of love. Revere your heart. Change the world by most excellently respecting your own ideals.

Raise your standards and the universe will meet you there. 

Friday, 10 October 2014

Find a way!

“In every community, there is work to be done. In every nation, there are wounds to heal. In every heart, there is the power to do it.” (Marianne Williamson author)

This week's NiNa Young Entrepreneur's Programme was for me, totally inspiring, the entrepreneur who came to talk to the ladies had a message of "You can do anything" based on her life story from living in a shed with nothing (well what we call nothing) to an entrepreneur!
Her beliefs were one of making a difference, being happy to have life and letting nothing pass her by. She said she would "go after it" whatever it is she wants!
Now she has her own business and gives back to other women with joy and open arms!
I am always inspired by those who find a way! She gave of her time and energy to spend with the girls with a huge smile on her face, and a willing spirit!


Thursday, 9 October 2014

Send out the signal

This is one of my favourite pieces to read by Danielle LaPorte and I read it ever so often like today when I need a reminder!

Life is looking for you. Cosmic brigades are scanning the horizon to see who is lighting up. They are looking for hungry hearts, unbridled passion, audacity, courage, RADIANCE — glimmers of sincerity and daring.
This is how it works: You need to show up to get found.

You send out homing signals to the cosmos by being your true self. 

Blurt stuff out, send the letter, wear that shirt, dance!, make the song, meditate with your eyes open, do what it takes to feel the way you most want to feel. Make a joyful noise. Jump up and down. Love out loud and say, “Life! I’m here, right over here!”
Then life can see you in the fog of repression, and heaps of unnecessary purchases, and escapism. And scanning, searching, trusting, an angel will see you trying to live your truth and that angel is going to alert the universe: “There! Over there! She’s claimed her desires! He’s doing something valiant with his creativity! They’re proud of what they want! She is asking for what she wants with her whole heart. He is speaking UP! So bright, all clear, over there!”
And then legions of helpful forces swoop in to help you make more of what you want to make.

If you tone it down, Life can’t hear you.  

If you dull your instincts, you camouflage your soul. 

Life is looking everywhere for you. 

Live out loud and send up a flare