The Sacred Pause: When Ego Wants to Run the Show

I am seen. I am significant. I do not need to perform to belong.





 Last Sunday, I found myself triggered. I was at a workshop, and something in the room made me feel... unseen. Ignored. My instinct was to do something—to retreat, to isolate, or to make myself visible in ways that didn’t feel aligned. But instead, I did something radical. I paused.

I took a sacred pause.

In that stillness, I asked myself: Why am I feeling this way?

What surfaced was fear—fear of being seen as unimportant by this group. My negative ego had slipped into the driver’s seat, whispering stories rooted in scarcity and self-doubt.

But was that story true?

No.

I realized I didn’t need validation from anyone in that setting. My worth wasn’t up for negotiation. I let it go.

And I was proud of myself.

This was one of the first times I chose the pause over the performance. I didn’t act out. I didn’t shrink or shout. I simply sat with the discomfort and looked at the bigger picture.

 Why the Sacred Pause Matters

When our negative ego runs the show, it often comes from a place of fear:

• Fear of being unseen

• Fear of being unimportant

• Fear of not being enough

But the pause gives us space to:

• Reframe the story

• Reconnect with truth

• Respond with grace

It’s not about suppressing emotion—it’s about honoring it without letting it dictate our actions.

 A Practice for the Next Time Ego Speaks Loudly

1. Notice the trigger: What stirred the discomfort?

2. Pause intentionally: Breathe. Sit. Listen.

3. Ask the deeper question: What am I afraid of?

4. Challenge the story: Is it true? Is it mine?

5. Choose your response: One rooted in truth, not fear.

Peace and Blessings

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