What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Love introduces the highest possible frequency into the equation, and so when it is present, it is transformative. Like a door cracking to expose a stream of light into an otherwise dark room, once love is present, fear begins to dissolve. If you need change, you need love, because the love itself will change whatever needs to be softened, lightened, and realigned. Briana Wiest  Many times our mind tells us that where we are  is safe only because its familiar, many times its time to move- we settle. Being present means coming to make decisions with a balance of where we are now using memories  Unfamiliar feels unsafe - but how many times is it not unsafe?  Sometimes we have to take the risk, take the stories out of our mind, transcend the space where we feel limited Start small, its a process One small act at a time to signal to ourself  that we are open to moving beyond where we are rather than settle because of fear. Peace and Blessings Akosua's Books Nyabo (...

  Isn’t it strange that it’s so often easier to contemplate what’s “wrong” with us than what’s right with us? Elizabeth Gilbert  What If? What if all your sad and “bad” experiences are for your greatest evolution? What if those experiences are a portal to something, to somewhere? What if you look at the experience as a bitter medicine you must have to heal you, even though you detest the taste and the after taste left on your tongue. What if you are overthinking this entire thing? What if the Most High is present in all of this and got you? What if you remember that everything is temporary and many times we don’t have control on how all experiences end? What if the experience is a type of manure that can help in the growing of beautiful flowers? What if this experience was a method of opening you up to new ways of being, to forgive Self, to learn Self? What if this is to remind you to love yourself and stop offering yourself up to be used? What if, you Got this? Akosua's Books...

            Develop and Build Good Character – work on yourself, to put in yourself the character traits necessary for a good society. - Mama Bello    Dear Self I apologize to you for all the times that I did not give you grace. I apologize for not listening to the still small voice that you use to guide me when I am unsure or when I am in danger. I apologize to you for giving my all to others  even when I have nothing to give and thinking it was love. I apologize to you for not setting boundaries, for saying Yes when I wanted to, needed to say NO. I apologize to you for doing more and more for others when they have shown me that they are giving less and less - or even when they have asked me to stop doing - thinking it was making sacrifices for the relationship to last and grow. I apologize for blaming you when all you needed was for me to stop, accept and surrender. I apologize to you for staying to long, for allowing you to be u...

  When you start to recognize that the person you have been waiting for is actually present… in all her glorious imperfection, with all her beautiful broken parts… you can stop  waiting.   Start from exactly where you are -- and remember that you are worthy of all goodness, gentleness, and grace . Dr. Robin Smith We need a community - that is a given. A community of individuals with a common purpose, a common goal, and of course most importantly love and a sense of resilience.  At the same time, to be a useful part of the community, we must ensure that we remember and know who we are. This may sound simple " remember and know who we are" however, I have learnt that simple is not always easy. Remembering and knowing who you are involves: 1. Believing that the Divine lives in you - However you call it, the Higher power is a breath, a call, a request away. 2. Believing that you have what it takes in you to travel through this journey called life - The Divine lives ...

  "Evolving involves elimination." Erykah Badu If it is one thing I have learnt from observing nature is when the seasons change, some things are left behind. When the leaves fall off, when the waves crash to the shore - things change and so it is with our lives. When the seasons change, when we evolve, there are things that we can no longer carry, tolerate, accept, fix, make better, rationalize. The challenge happens when it is time to change and evolve and there is resistance. The resistance  to evolution causes undue hurt, pain, suffering and stress. A shift in perspective for me has been just like nature, I am evolving, things will fall off, things will shift, things will change and guess what? I will be ok There will be a new dawn, a new sun, a new moon, rain, sun, rainbows - Flow with it. Trust the process. Feel the feelings, be still and know. Its been quite a journey because of course, I want what I want when I want it and fixing is what I have been told is part of ...

  Trying to stay the same is painful and trying to mold everything the way you desire is impossible. Yung Pueblo What is the difference between resisting change and keeping a routine? That has been my question during meditation this week. Confessions on the Journey - change scares the be Jesus out of me for so many reasons - many of which are stories that I have made up.  I feel safe when things remain the same, when I know what to expect, what is coming- this is the story that I tell myself. Knowing makes me feel safe. For a long time I have been associating change with feeling abandoned, being abandoned and a lack of safety  therein lies the challenge. Routine I have learnt is the creation  and maintenance of habits, those habits become how you live - I basically have the same morning routine . I wake up at 5am, meditate. Drink a lot of water. Have a big chuck of watermelon, take a run. Drink some green juice. Eat as healthy as I can. (bake  tho! & A...

  The blessing is that things change. The tragedy is that things change. As our pal, Pema, says:  Things come together and things fall apart .  Chela Davidson Walking on the beach today - a Saturday ritual that started in 2023 as a way of healing and grounding myself during the last year - I was thinking about change. One year ago I was literally scared to drive on the road that led to the beach. It is a narrow, long and windy road with cliffs on one side and  dense forest on the other. The two lanes seem so close together and people are either in a hurry, impatient or know the roads so well that they overtake on the narrow road and even around corners. For me to go to that particular beach,  I would wait for someone  who was going on the odd Sunday and tag along, the challenge with that  approach was it would usually be a one off and I would miss the sunrise- which is spectacular to see on one of the cliffs leading towards the beach and on the beach i...

Being lost feels scary sometimes, but only from unfamiliar places can we truly let ourselves step into new ways of being. Lost is a doorway, a portal. - Lisa Olivera  Is there ever a wrong turn? Or is it a re-route?  Is there ever a wrong route? Or it it a different path? On a Sunday I would walk in the forest, there is a marked trail which leads to the river - it is a beautiful path. I know it like the back of my hand. One Sunday while not paying attention I made a "wrong" turn which led to the most beautiful path and river. Initially, I panicked because I was alone in the woods, I did not know where I was going, it was getting late and the list went on. After the initial panic I started paying attention to where I was and realized not only the beauty of the place but that I could navigate the surroundings enough to find my way back to the main trail.  Was it really a wrong turn? Like life, we make decisions and mistakes which may seem wrong at the time, however when we...

  Transformation happens when you learn from your pain, and turn it into your power. Iyanla Vanzant  What I have learnt is that events that happen in life are not personal. They become intimate when we go through them ,however its not a case of if I do good, nothing bad will happen to me or life is out to keep me down.  Events in life happen,  and we have what it takes within us to deal with them, we have the power to feel, deal and heal ourselves. It sounds simple enough - but simple is not always easy. Who amongst us has escaped loss, betrayal, love, sadness, joy? Who has not had to deal with death, grief, happiness? Life provides us with the tools, the examples, the inspiration in so many ways. Look around you? Your own habits and patterns reflect back to you the life you live- sometimes they show you that you are on the path and sometimes it reflects that you are not- you need a shift. Nature teaches us lessons about resilience, changing seasons, imperfections th...

  Transformation requires the courage to allow things to fall apart. The most difficult step in growth is often feeling like you’re taking a step backwards. Winning looks like learning to lose. Rainer Wilde  Every thought is a tool.  Every thought is a prayer.  The first time I heard this, I became curious. It resonated with me because it highlighted how important the thoughts we focus on are. Tools and Prayers - both so  important for transformation, building our dreams, resilience, life! Both tools and prayers start within - there is nothing external we need to go looking into. There are so many definitions of prayer, I confess I see prayer as an earnest wish, a request for help, an expression of thanks, or all of the above.  As we enter the month of May let us use our thoughts to express thanks, as tools of creation and/or a call for support when we need it. I'm ready May Let's do this Peace and Blessings Akosua's Books Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? N...