What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

 This time of year is an invitation to allow things to fall away Stacey Herrera  The end of September is fast approaching. I saw a meme on IG that said "September acted like they had somewhere to go and fast" I did chuckle seeing that. September for some reason felt as if it paid us a quick visit just to say hi and shake things up a bit. The last few months of the year provides an opportunity to  let go, just like the leaves of the trees fall off in preparation for new growth, new leaves, we can take a page out of nature's book and  let go to make room for the new and this goes beyond the  physical. Making room for the new includes forgiving, letting go of the need for the past to be different, surrendering to a higher power when you have done the work, releasing the control and manipulation over a situation. Making room includes questioning beliefs that no longer serve you, the ones that you are holding on to due to shame, guilt, history and fear. Making room i...

  Your reservoir of resilience is not a finite resource. - Stacey Hererra  Resilience is built in super power we human beings possess. We either forget, don't believe or take it for granted. Think about it, there are situations that you have been in that may have flattened you and you rose from it, you learnt from it, you were even blessed by it. We, like the sun and the moon, rise again and again. Its important to remember that when passing through a storm or a hurricane - the experience of life is not always linear and that is why our reservoir of resilience is not a finite  Maybe the focus ought to be on remembering that we are built with this resilience and focusing on moving forward, feeling our feelings as guides. Peace and Blessings Akosua wins the  2004 Emerging Inspirational Leader Award  Honoured at awards gala Akosua's Books Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? Now What? The Flipside What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love...

  My child, no more chasing and no more settling. You know this from your addiction recovery. The rule of love for you is: no chasing. No chasing a feeling, no chasing a person, no chasing a fantasy. No chasing the past or the future. And no more melting, melding, binding   Elizabeth Gilbert  I was taught to go after what you want. Whatever it takes, go for it, take no prisoners, take no for an answer. And yes, there were times that using this approach worked so well, I got what I wanted and felt like a million bucks. The trouble starts when that approach does not work or getting addicted to believing that I was in control. For those who are regular to this space, you would have seen that time and time again, I talk about everything being in balance, being in harmony. Being in balance means doing all that you can, putting in the work without expectation, with faith and belief. These are 5 lessons learnt about chasing without balance 1. Chasing is different to going after ...

  The more stimulation you have, the more you will feel you need. Entertainment can become its own form of prison. Mark Manson  Have you ever been sucked into scrolling on social media?  Have you had the experience of going on social media with a specific objective and there you are  hours later down a rabbit hole? This I will confess has been how my days have been going lately. Stimulated by social media at the expense of doing what I am supposed to be doing- it just never seems like enough, I go deep into the abyss and before I know it, hours have passed. Seeing Mark Manson's quote today made a lot of sense.  The more I see, the more I want, And anything out of balance will not work to our advantage. Balance and Harmony are essential for our lives to remain on course. Life has a way of reminding us when we get out of balance through our actions and the consequences of those actions.  Sometimes we just need to be still. To sit with the stillness, the bore...

  No one has to choose you, pick you, give you the opportunity…. YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE YOUR DESIRES BACK.. This is because the universe is always giving us opportunities to get to where we say we want to go .  Ifakorede When I saw this quote, I kid you not, I stopped for a moment because it screamed at me. There have been so many times that I said to myself and to others the words "I want to be chosen" or "no one chooses me"  Even saying them now I cringe because I can confess that saying it came from a place of believing that I had to prove to others that I am , I was worthy to be chosen.  Now I know - that is a load of rubbish. I wanted to be seen and chosen as a child, when I felt that I was not I found ways to be seen - over achieving being the main one or sometimes shutting down so others would ask me if I was okay As an adult it manifested itself in people pleasing - I would do any and everything to be cool, to be calm, to be liked in relationships, at work, and ...

  So many of the beliefs we hold are based on unexamined assumptions, things that were put upon us early in life before we could critically think about them or discern   Deborah L. Johnson  I love a good story, I love to hear a good story, I love to tell a good story and I love to write a good story. Stories form a huge part of how I live. I remember sitting in the living room hearing the older folks talk. The would be animated, laughing and clapping just from a good story. I would find and make so many excuses to get water, to go back into the kitchen for ice, and all sorts because, of course, they were telling stories "for grown folks" I was curious to know what made all these women so animated and happy. All that to say that some stories bring a sense of joy and togetherness and then there are some stories that we make up to "fill in the blanks", that bring stress and anxiety. There are other stories that we inherit and adopt without questioning it even if it is ...