What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless. -- Byron Katie ( another boss teacher!!) Acting normal everyday can be exhausting because it suggests that we are to live up to the requirements, expectations, the demands that somebody else set for you. And here’s the crazy part, we don’t even know who those people are! How about just being authentic?  How about just speaking your own truth and being a good listener when people share theirs?  How about letting people know what you need when you need it instead of getting mad when you don’t get it.  How about just being authentic? Showing up in the power, the beauty, the awesomeness that you are, not living down to anyone’s expectations, definitions, limitations, not trying to make ourselves better than anyone else?  Why not just be authentic? Just be YOU and share THAT with the world!  Cause trying to be normal can just be so exhausting! Just be YOU ...

I am convinced that I can change my mind and change my world - Rev Dr. Barbara King Your life is a reflection of you. Everything that is coming at you from out there is coming to show you where work is required on yourself. As you shake your head no and point at all the people you can blame for what is going on with you, you miss another divine opportunity to examine what is really on within you. Until you are willing to accept total and complete responsibility for every aspect of your life, your life will keep sending you experiences designed to get your attention. It can be difficult to acknowledge your role in the annoying little messes and great big disasters in your life. No one likes to take the blame Quite often we confuse accepting responsibility for bearing the blame. When you are the one to blame, it means you are somehow at fault - and must be punished. To avoid punishment, we look for someone else to put the blame on. In doing so we miss an opportunity for self-cor...

Being wrong is not the end of the world - Terry McMillan Have you ever been called out on your "stuff"? Most times we start getting defensive and annoyed and start making excuses and reasons, well let me say most time I would start to get defensive and annoyed and start making excuses and reasons, let me not speak on your behalf, you know what you do! And sometimes I may break out in a smirk or smile like oops, busted! When I was growing up, being wrong involved punishment, so as an adult as soon as I see it coming I go back there. Now no one taught me at the time that the world will not end if I did something wrong or made a mistake, that is wasn't that I was wrong or I was a mistake. Totally different thing! Ego tripping shifts us to the fact that we don't want to be wrong, or look bad. Learn from it and move on! It really is not the end of the world, life goes on. Yup, simple as that! Peace!

FIRST you commit to something that lights you up, pulls you forward, truly inspires you — the career, a relationship, a project (and  YOU can be that improvement project , by the way.) And then it’s so much easier to embrace the heavy lifting required. When you’re doing the hard work in the context of joy and commitment, you tend to bitch way less about doing what it takes. So! Joy first, then the sweat is a pleasure . Danielle La Porte One of my prayers on the journey is to go for the joy and not do projects or jobs only for the money. I have learnt that when I do things only for the money it makes me feel yucky, it sends a signal to the Universe that I am in fear and doubt. I can slip into the yuk pretty easily, especially now as I am working for myself!  The thing I've learnt is go hard, all in, get the lessons and adjust as you go. The choice of doing something other than for your vision, goals, health, objectives will leave one frustrated, ill and angry. Of course y...

Love wishes to be known completely understood and shared. It has no secrets; nothing that it would keep apart and hide. It walks in sunlight, open-eyed and calm, in smiling welcome and in sincerity so simple and so obvious it cannot be misunderstood.  Love has no darkened temples where mysteries are kept obscure and hidden from the sun. It does not seek for power, but for relationships . ACIM On a rainy Manchester afternoon (that actually was the norm) so maybe I ought to say on a normal Manchester afternoon, I was having a coffee with my professor. As part of my programme we had to meet once a week to discuss my progress and keep on top of my thesis. I looked forward to these chats, I take my life lessons from anywhere, you may know this by now. As we were taking she asked me if I loved working with women or loved the work I am doing on my programme. I hesitated on the second one. After the shop talk, we started talking about relationships and as academics do she wanted to ...

Wellness and the state of being healthy becomes a personal goal maintained by personal mantras and fuelled by personal beliefs. And I for one don’t have a problem with that. In fact, I may possibly prefer it, as this wellness is a self determined wellness. This is a state of being healthy that is beyond trend and fad and buzzword. This wellness is self aligning and ancestrally defining. It is the product of an implosion of internal interactions, initiating inner-standing and self centering communication. Mummy always said, if you can’t hear, then you must feel. And this is the truth. If one cannot listen to the messages of the mind, body and soul, then one will simply have to feel what it is, that is attempting to be communicated. Natalie Stewart One of my favorite ladies, Lisa, said last year that it was time for her to be healthy, and she was committed to it. Now Lisa to me was healthy, she had gained some weight but she was carrying it well! But what she sai...

Everybody wants something. And everybody wants something enough. They just aren’t aware of what it is they want, or rather, what they want “enough.” If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don’t actually want it at all.    Mark Manson Simple question What do you really want? Another simple question What do you really  really want? One more simple question What is it do you really really really want? We love comfort, or maybe it is that we prefer to avoid pain. Who likes pain? Pain hurts!  It's uncomfortable as hell! But the thing is, growing pains, yea those, they hurt. Birthing something new it hurts or involves some level of discomfort, that is just how it is, so what do we do? Avoid pa...