Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting.

Everybody wants something. And everybody wants something enough. They just aren’t aware of what it is they want, or rather, what they want “enough.” If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe what you want isn’t what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don’t actually want it at all.  Mark Manson

Simple question

What do you really want?

Another simple question

What do you really  really want?

One more simple question

What is it do you really really really want?

We love comfort, or maybe it is that we prefer to avoid pain. Who likes pain? Pain hurts!  It's uncomfortable as hell! But the thing is, growing pains, yea those, they hurt.

Birthing something new it hurts or involves some level of discomfort, that is just how it is, so what do we do?

Avoid pain at all costs and settle? That is a choice as well.

Pain is also a wake up call, Iyanla says it means Pay Attention Inward Now!  so I summed it up as turn within and focus on what is going on inside before the pill popping begins!

So, on the journey, there are things that you may want, Mark Manson says the things that you want will involve some work. I concur.

Everybody wants to have great sex and an awesome relationship — but not everyone is willing to go through the tough conversations, the awkward silences, the hurt feelings and the emotional psychodrama to get there. And so they settle. They settle and wonder “What if?” for years and years and until the question morphs from “What if?” into “Was that it?” And when the lawyers go home and the alimony check is in the mail they say, “What was that for?” if not for their lowered standards and expectations 20 years prior, then what for?

Same with a great body, - but are we willing to put in the time working out, eating sensibly and taking care of our bodies and minds?

It starts though with knowing what you really want, then, and then, take action. Deciding that there will be some uncomfortable moments and being ok with that. Being ok with the awkward times and pushing through to the other side asking yourself, what are you trying to tell me?  or maybe just knowing that it is par for the course 
Be willing, be open, be flexible, decide then push through
Because it may lead to what you really, really really want.

Peace