What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Good, bad, okay are not feelings. Disappointed, terrified, anxious are feeling s. Iyanla Vanzant When someone asks me "How Are You?" I usually say I am good, or well. Thinking about it now, itis a mindless or route reaction. It most times does not represent how I am or what I am feeling at that particular point in time. Coming to think about it, I have resisted stating how I feel for a number of reasons: 1. Fear - of letting people know how I really feel to avoid judgement and questions 2. People Pleasing - to let one feel that I have it all together  3. Not wanting to answer hard questions 4. Denial  5. Not paying attention to how I feel 6. Not knowing how to describe the feelings 7. Not wanting to be negative The lessons this week have been learning and becoming aware of how I feel  so that I can be aware of the feelings. I don't have to do anything immediately about them, just the awareness allows me to be in a space where I know. Once I know then I can a...

Be very patient with yourself. Sometimes you can feel like you’re missing out and want to rush things which can hinder your creativity. Trust your timing. Take a moment to get clear about your vision and take it one day at a time. Soon you’ll look back and be grateful for it all. Idhil Ahmed Patience is more than waiting your turn for something to happen or arrive, a huge part of patience is trust and how you wait. I have learnt that how I wait plays a massive part in the process of both manifestation of desires and getting to a particular point. If I wait anxious and with self doubt, it negates the process. The thought, word and deed has to be in alignment. If I wait with ingratitude, the result is reflected in the result. Patience involves trust, faith, gratitude and willingness to let go of how I think it should look. How does patience look to you? Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Lov...

Answers don’t finish the question, often times they are the negative of the very question itself. But it takes relinquishing control, and releasing our obsession with more, and giving up our preference for thinking about future/past over present to accept that. When we can let go of all of that, we’ll see that if we can ask the question, oftentimes we’re staring directly at a version of the answer. It depends on if we’re willing to look there Maxi McCoy Of course we want to do better, be better, have more, dig deeper. We know that there is more to life, sometimes we don't know how to access that so called "more" except by doing more, asking the questions and pressing on. That formula has worked for many. They kept on doing and more kept coming  What is the more? And how is the more making you feel? If its more full of stress, more resentment, more tiring situations then that is something to look at. There must be some sort of balance. Ask the question- why th...

Take counsel. No longer hide your rarity in the dark. Bring it forth. Show the world. Strive not to walk as your brother walks, nor talk as your leader talks, nor labor as do the mediocre. Never do as another. Never imitate. For how do you know that you may not imitate evil; and he who imitates evil always goes beyond the example set, while he who imitates what is good always falls short. Imitate no one. Be yourself. Show your rarity to the world and they will shower you with gold. This then is the second law. Proclaim your rarity . God Manifesto If we only believed how unique we are, many of the challenges we face in life would be so much easier. If we only believed how much of a miracle it is that we were chosen to be born, many of the challenges we face in life would be so much easier. If we only believed how much of a blessings we are, many of the challenges we face in life would be so much easier. If we only believed! If we only knew how much power we have in us, we wou...

When you are truly self-aware of your true value, you won’t be defensive . Iyanla What happens when someone touches a nerve, you know, when someone says something that you react to because it either pissed you off or it raises up something in you, do you get defensive? Do you even notice that you are being defensive? When you become aware and conscious, you notice when you are reacting in a defensive manner If you are not fully aware, the response is usually to project and blame others, it hardly ever is our fault. The standard response is to find a fault with everything outside of us. Awareness opens our eyes and keeps us in check. It allows you to step back and focus on the lesson rather than on anything else or take it personally. When I start taking things personally, I have to stop, to take notice, to ask myself what and why am I being defensive and reacting in this way. As soon as I do this, my response to the situation changes. I learn! I learn! I learn! ...

Be Ye Transformed by the Renewing of our Mind  Transformation is a journey, you do not arrive to a final state of transformed by taking a particular route to a place called "transform" Apart from it being a process, it is a mind set. It is a willingess to do and see things differently. The willingness to be in a totally different place both mentally and physically takes courage, it takes discipline, it takes self love. When we are changing, when we are transforming there will be people around us who will not understand what is happening, who will feel scared by your decisions, they may feel left out. The noise will come, the naysayers will raise their voices, the resistance will be high Transformation involves determination to fool proof the distractions. "Who Do You Think You Are?" "Why are you doig that?" "That's not what is done around here" "Remember when you did that and what happened?" "How can you leave me?...

Rather than think about what you have to do to change a situation, consider what the situation might be doing to change you. How it might be seasoning and transforming and growing you. You are not responsible for everything and everyone. Allow that as a possibility. Jessica Dore There are some situations that are simply in your life showing you how to shift, how to be flexible, to grow, to transform. You long for change, yet you cling so to the familiar. You are so afraid of what you think you will lose. You are even afraid to lose the things you don't want. The familiar becomes your family, regardless of what it is. let's redefine "lose" I define lose as opening up to a new possibility The day I stopped saying that I lost my house, lost my marriage, lost my mind, things shifted for me The shift has to start inside How we define and relate to the circumstances in our lives transforms how we act. I started asking myself different question...