What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

  Personal growth is not about removing all internal and external difficulties, it is about improving the way you handle them so that they no longer crush you when they appear. Yung Pueblo  Growing up, I somehow got into my head that if I was a good person, prayed and did right, I will experience zero difficulties. I believed that only bad people had bad experiences. Well how off base was I! When life happened to me I thought the sky was falling in, wasn't I a "good person" was I not doing the right things and following the formula? Then whatever the hell is going on?  What I learnt is, life is fleeting, and so are all the events associated with life. There will always be positive and negative times, experiences come to support in building our character, patience and faith. The experiences we receive in life push us to emotional maturity. Life will keep repeating the lessons until we get it. It's nothing personal..  When we are emotionally mature we are able to ...

" I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision." Maya Angelou The difference between moving towards a challenge and not has always been for me making a firm decision. The moment I make a firm decision, it  seems as if my mind, body and soul all come together to make it happen. I find the time, I find the courage, I find the discipline and commitment to persevere through the challenge and through the challenging times. The moment I remain in uncertainty and unwillingness, there is no way that I move forward with clarity.  I have learnt to wait, to not force myself, if I am not willing to make a firm decision there is no way that the goal will be achieved. There is no alignment when our thought, words and deeds are different.  When we say we want to do or want something, we believe that it is possible despite the challenges and then we take action to make it happen. The Universe works well when we are in alignment - whe...

  Healing is about feeling, not about thinking Yung Pueblo One of the best, yet toughest lessons for me has been to "feel all of your feelings". It sounded so simple at the time - simple ain't always easy. The formula for healing always start with feeling. For us to move past where we are we must ask ourselves. What Am I feeling in the moment? And have the appropriate language and courage to respond. "Okay" is not a feeling, it is not an emotion. it is a mental or emotional bypass. In other words, I don't want to/need to think about this or make myself vulnerable to it, so I will pass right by it with saying I am "ok" Normal is not a feeling. Normal is similar to okay, an opportunity to side step. Fine - our usual standard. We always seem to be fine. The quicker we start pretending to be unbothered, the quicker we start healing. I had a habit of hiding my feelings, I am not entirely certain when that began, but I am sure about when it ended. I wan...

When you keep that commitment to yourself, you’re saying: I believe in possibility. I believe in my future. I believe in myself. Joe Dispenza  Keeping commitments to self. Do you have any? Do you keep them? Do you think that commitments to yourself are important?  What I have learnt is keeping commitments to myself helps in building trust, both to myself and in the process. Keeping commitments to myself supports accountability. Keeping commitments to myself builds self confidence and self love Why? I demonstrate to myself that I am important...to me. I demonstrate to myself and to the Universe that I am worth it. It takes practice. The world we live in will tell you that your job and its deadlines are more important than keeping your commitments to self. Your responsibilities will scream at you, put me first, you can wait. It becomes easier and easier for us to break the commitments to ourselves leaving us feeling guilty and many times tired.  It takes discipline and cou...

Believing we create our own reality means we acknowledge that nothing can change in our lives until we change. Being accountable means being willing to examine what we need to change about ourselves to draw closer to the new future – the new personal reality – we envision. And then, once we’ve made a commitment to change, accountability means we honor that commitment. Joe Dispenza  Our belief of our own worth is essential as we navigate through this journey called life. How worthy do we feel? our sense and feeling of our worthiness informs many of our choices. As we move through life, we encounter situations such as fear, rejection, insecurities and broken dreams which play on how we feel about ourselves. Many of these are external events. It is crucial that we know and remember that worthiness is innate and an inside job. What is important is how we learn and respond to the events. An inside job - it starts with you, it starts inside you, knowing, believing, doing the work. What ...

  Make sure them expectations you living up to belong to you & no one else. Ebony Davis On Thursday, I drove just over two and a half hours to speak at a school event. The entire day and the experience turned out to be quite beautiful. Lessons were learnt and letting go was enhanced. I have been focusing on the art of letting go during the month of May. I define letting go as staying in consciousness. Stating centered, grounded and peaceful when faced with difficult situations or when my ego wants to prove that I am enough. Letting go is taking a pause before reacting out of anger, fear or ego. Letting go is taking responsibility for my feelings. The school asked me to speak to just over 100 young ladies between the ages oof 13 and 14 - hearing just over 100 ladies scared me. Driving for just over two and a half ours, the thought of doing that, scared me. My mind started talking to me (incessantly) "this more that I have ever spoken to before" My mind also reminded me th...

  Insecurity will manifest itself as control, which blocks the flow of real love Yung Pueblo Over the past few weeks, life has been reflecting back to me my insecurities. Life is beautiful like that, it brings to your attention what you need to focus on. Sometimes, life will take -what we would consider - drastic moves to get our attention. Sometimes, getting our attention can be uncomfortable at best. I have now learnt these attempts at getting my attention as a demonstration of how much life loves each and every one of us. All that to say that the reflections to me lately has been manifesting itself as control, blocking flow. I had to sit with myself and ask: what am I insecure about? what does it even mean? Why am I even feeling this way? The definition of insecure is uncertain or anxious about oneself, not confident in self. Note that "oneself" and "self" is an important part of the definition. Its all about you. How you feel about yourself, rather than what ...