What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

  Whatever we do, there is the undeniable fact that we will always be held accountable. Carolyn Myss I have been thinking about accountability and what it means to me, particularly because I believe that we are all connected in some way and our lives are our own to shape with the guidance of the Most High. Accountability  I have learnt is taking responsibility for my actions, it is acting with respect and integrity- first to self and then to others - accountability can be seen rather than a punishment bus as a guide, a code of conduct to ensure that I treat myself and others with honor, grace and reverance. How do I respond to situations that come up in my life - especially those that are out of my control. How do I act when I give my word? How do I show up for myself when the going gets tough, how do I show up for others when the going gets tough for them? How do I show up for difficult conversations? Accountability I have learnt is that I must recognise the value that I hold...

" There's a difference between being liked and being valued. A lot of people like you, not many value you" Adam A  Value You with... Your time Your thoughts Your money Your authenticity  Your Friendship Your relationships Your dreams Your Love of Self Value You What I learned is there is a difference between feeling a sense of value and being special. Special leans on external validation, receving accolates, looking for others to affirm you. It lead me to "performing" and in many of those performaces I was out of balance. Why? Because I was seeking everything from outside of me With value - its internal. I am valuable no matter what! As an idea born out of the mind and love of the Most High, I am vaulable, I need to only remember that in any moment and that propels me to act with love and value myself minus any outside validation What a freeing thought Value You Peace and Blessings Akosua's Books Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? Now What? The Flipside What D...

  The only constant variable in life is the unexpected Everything changes, everything. The lesson with recognizing this is has been to let go of the need to control, to grasp, to sit in the illusion of comfort and certainty. So what do we do when the change comes? Preparing for change is such an important part of the toolkit of life that without that preparation we can become stuck. What I have learnt is with acceptance, with letting go, with the knowing that change is nothing personal, navigating it becomes easier.  As the Course in Miracles says " Are you willing to see things differently" I must confess, change for me over 2023 was tough. I wanted what I wanted, I worked for it, I prayed for it, I got it so why would it no be different, why should things change, why should I change? Everything changes, I had to remind myself to be ready, be prepared by focusing on the now, being in the moment. Through acceptance, through letting go, through the practice of faith and the wi...

  Allow yourself to have the feeling without resisting it, venting it, fearing it, condemning it or moralizing about it This has been a year of learning about radical acceptance and letting go. Both concepts have been a journey of unlearning, trusting, courage and feeling all the discomfort around it. These are the top six lessons I have learnt from Radical Acceptance and Letting Go 1. Nothing is wrong with you when other people cannot meet your needs or show up for you. Sometimes people just chose not to, cannot or don't want to based on where they are. 2. Letting go of the ones who aren't able to show up for you creates room for those who can. 3. Our ego loves to remind us that we are not in control and  that is not where we must be - we must always be in control and so when we listen we look for all type of ways to be in control.  4. Healing involves feelings - letting them rise up and pass through us rather than suppressing it  5. Letting go is a natural ability ...

  May your higher nature lead, whether you are protesting, manifesting, marching, organizing, planting seeds, speaking truth, raising awareness, holding the vision, healing your heart, keeping the peace, deconstructing the old systems and building the new  that will be born - Maya Hasnaa Our higher nature is always guiding us, speaking to us, leading us. It is not intrusive, it waits and what I have learnt is that it never judges us. It speaks in whispers. When we get still, lessen the noise of busyness and other distractions we are guided.  There is nothing that we can hide from the Universe, mistakes and missteps happen, it is part of the Journey- the acknowledgement of it supports the transition to the other side. When me make excuses, justify, and rationalize them it takes a lot longer to transcend them. Guilt sets in busyness and distraction becomes the norm. Change starts within- it really is an inside job. A huge part of the living from our higher nature ...

 What are the things in your life you’re most afraid of doing that would probably be good for you? What are the possibilities in your life that make you uncomfortable? What ideas are you avoiding or emotionally rejecting? Mark Hanson  Today, I am making a commitment to do something new that scares me. This year I started by driving to the beach every week. I would not go to the beach because I was afraid of driving on the road to get there. Its a ling winding narrow road, with cliffs and drops. The views are breathtaking however I was always thinking that I may not be skilled enough to traverse those roads safely, so although I loved going to that particular beach, I would not go until someone offered to drive. I had the great fortune of being driven to the beach on request, that relationship ended and I had to ask myself - shall I wait on someone to do the things I want to do because of fear? I resolved to give it a go and here I am months later with a routine and the abilit...

  Let’s talk about this relentless pace we’re all caught up in. The never-ending to-do list, the constant race to accomplish more. It’s like we're all sprinting a marathon. But here's the thing: life isn’t just about chasing tasks or racing against time. Science backs this up – rest and play are the secret to a healthier life. Nawal Mustapha  As the 2023 calendar year winds down, I am in a reflective mood. I really want to rest and play and honor myself through that process. There are many demands on our time along with the feeling of wanting to prove ourselves/our worth to everyone, wanting to prove how strong we are and in control. These demands can push us to say yes when we really want to or must say no. This process can lead to resentment, guilt and shame. We have to practice setting up and keeping boundaries, we have to practice honoring ourselves and the process. We have to practice showing up for ourselves. According to Iyanla Vanzant," if you are at a place in yo...

  We have to figure out which areas of life we’re going to lean into and which ones we need to table or ask for help with because we can’t do it all. Certainly not by ourselves.   Needra Glover Tawwab Many of us are rewarded for working hard, for being busy, for always saying yes and being on the go. As much as we like to feel useful, helpful and have good intentions, our lives can be taken over with demands and schedules which may not translate into a healthy way of living. Our bodies respond to burnout.  Our minds respond to burnout. Our souls respond to neglect. There is no way around it As much as we "push through" there is a limit I am learning that saying yes to everything is unsustainable and can lead to resentment and anger  I am also learning that asking for help in not a sign of weakness. It can open so many other doors and lessons.  It has become a practice to say no when its rooted in people pleasing and external validation - takes self awareness It ...

  Your Greatest Offering is not always something you do; most often it is the person you become- Briana Wiest  Confessions on the Journey - Uncertainty scares the beJesus out of me. I want to know and I want to know now. I want to be told the why, how, if's and buts. I have learnt that there are many times that wanting to be sure of everything is a way that I attempt to keep myself safe. I want to be in control to ensure that things don't go out of control The biggest lesson I have learnt about control is that not only is it an illusion.  Attachment and the craving to control, which are intertwined with ego, also stand as roadblocks that each individual has to gradually undo if they want to enjoy a peaceful and fulfilling connection. There are infinite ways for the Universe to bring you want you need, what you want. There is no need to control anyone and anything. There is something in the Uncertainty that we can tap into  The Uncertainty is the price of admission t...