The Mechanics of Letting Go

 Allow yourself to have the feeling without resisting it, venting it, fearing it, condemning it or moralizing about it



This has been a year of learning about radical acceptance and letting go. Both concepts have been a journey of unlearning, trusting, courage and feeling all the discomfort around it.

These are the top six lessons I have learnt from Radical Acceptance and Letting Go


1. Nothing is wrong with you when other people cannot meet your needs or show up for you. Sometimes people just chose not to, cannot or don't want to based on where they are.

2. Letting go of the ones who aren't able to show up for you creates room for those who can.

3. Our ego loves to remind us that we are not in control and  that is not where we must be - we must always be in control and so when we listen we look for all type of ways to be in control. 

4. Healing involves feelings - letting them rise up and pass through us rather than suppressing it 

5. Letting go is a natural ability - we ae merely utilizing our inner nature to get freer and happier, when letting go, its not helpful to "think" about the techniques. Its simply better to do it.

6. It is also beneficial to look at some commonly held beliefs and let go of them with practice.

What is clear to me now that practising radical and letting go is an inside job, there is no looking outside of ourselves for it.


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