What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Triggers are unhealed places within us which are stimulated by what's going on in our life - Iyanla Vanzant I have been learning about triggers over the past few days, what are some of the unhealed places within me that when exposed by an event or a person or an activity. The reason I felt it necessary to learn about these this is during to the time I have been spending with myself I have noticed that  more than ever I feel angry or annoyed even by the slightest thing, be it a word or something on social media.  I wanted to get to the root of this behaviour.  Triggers, I have learnt, may never go away however what helps is the ability to identify when one is being triggered and respond in a way that does not cause harm or regret. Triggers motivate you to attack yourself and others which depletes your energy, to find someone to blame. Triggers  apply guilt and guilt demands punishment. Triggers make you defensive and you will look to defend yourself and possi...

not everyone you’re ready for will be ready for you. the energy you possess, the passion you possess, the love you possess. not everyone will be ready for the light that beams and magic that spills from your chest. do not let impatience or loneliness lower your standards. Billy Chapata What do you stand for? Somehow it is usually the simple questions that stump me, I have learnt that simple is not always easy. What are the qualities that you put your faith and trust in? What makes you light up? What would you fight for or give up everything for? What you stand for helps build your character What you stand for guides you to your purpose What you stand for supports your courage muscles What you stand for guides how you live What you stand for demonstrates what you believe it with an unwavering faith, and know that whatever happens you will be ready to make the required changes or decisions in life to live for what you stand in. I stand for love, peace, equality, justice...

I am sharing a post from Maxi McCoy that really resonated with me today. Why you can  FORGET BEING ‘PRODUCTIVE’ RIGHT NOW. When the world came to a screeching halt, it taught us so much more than we expected. We've learned, painfully, the depth of our pre-existing vulnerabilities in communities that need us the most. We've remembered, the hard way, that we quite literally have nothing without our health, both individually and collectively. We have been reminded of the heroes that already existed. The people who were on the frontlines of our functioning society are the same ones on the frontlines of a global health war: our nurses, our teachers, our mothers. For those of us whose lives haven't been utterly turned upside down by loss: of loved ones, of health, or of financial stability ... we've been thrust into a situation that's uncomfortable. One that requires us to be at home with ourselves and at home with our relational realities and at home with...

THERE MUST BE A STARTING POINT at any juncture of development. You must start from where you are, not from where you want to be . - Steps to Knowledge One of my absolute favourite lessons on the Journey, a woman in Uganda told me to just start with what you have in front of you. Use what you have in your space. When she told me I got so annoyed because I was of the view that we needed so much more to start our project. A laptop, a business plan and the list went on. So if you don't start where you are with what you have how would you get to the laptop and the plan? Just start! Can't you write the business plan? Must you type it on a laptop? These things will come when you start I got it! It resonated there and then Stop waiting on the perfect moment to start something, to start anything! Be willing, be courageous, be ready! Peace Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love Nyabo (Mad...

Mindfulness -the art of being aware of what is happening in the present moment - Tich Na Haan One of the lessons I am currently learning is about being mindful. Being in the present moment when I am doing something or being around others, just being present full stop. Confessions on the Journey - My phone has become part of my body. I walk around with it, I sleep with it, I go to the bathroom with it, I run with it. The only time I don't have it with me is when I am exercising with my trainer.  With mindfulness, I realised, that when the phone is with me I am not present where I am. I want to answer the messages, to check the IG, you name it, I find an excuse to be away from where I am and in another place aka the phone. With mindfulness, being present involves giving everyone and everything my full attention until I am finished. Listen, it is harder than I thought because of old habits and conditioning. Since I have been mindful, I have realised that I enjoy being in the m...

We do indeed create our own reality but we also influence each other’s reality. Co-creation is a collective enterprise. Carolyn Myss There is an entire debate in many parts of the US about reopening for business  because the economy is suffering.  When I first heard that I was shocked, and admittedly a little angry. I interpreted it to mean that the economy's suffering is more important than human's suffering. I took it to mean that the businesses survival must come first above any person' survival. People depend on the economy and the businesses to survive, rather than we need people, healthy people, to rebuild the economy and open businesses which wil now fit our post Rona world. I really had to ground myself after seeing and putting meaning to this. There is a school of thought that humans cannot do with businesses and working. Given our history and our current reality this indeed seems the case. I was hoping that this pause due to the Rona would provide us wit...

Beliefs demand loyalty. If you try to move away from the things you believe in, they will punish you. The belief will make you feel guilty. Guilt is your punushment for abandoning what you believe Iyanla Vanzant Many of us  will go down fighting literally for what we believe. Don't get me wrong, I am not judging the choice to fight at all, I am merely making an observation. We fight for what we believe in We make it a point to stand in those beliefs. My lesson has been balance. What if those beliefs are not serving you anymore, not promoting your highest self? When we question those beliefs we feel guilty When we go against our beliefs in our actions we feel guilty. The balance is in knowing what brings you peace and what is serving your highest self. Question the beliefs when you are not at peace because usually when we are not at peace it means we must make another choice What Beliefs Are You Loyal to? Are they Punishing you? Are you at peace? Peace Have you re...