Are You Settling for What is Familiar?
We often settle for what's familiar, even if it's not good for us, because it requires less effort than starting something new. And when it comes to relationships, we often stay in toxic, harmful ones far longer than we should because they're comfortable and easy. Remember comfortable and easy does not equal enjoyment and pleasure. Stacy Herrera
Building any type of relationship, even a relationship with yourself takes time, effort, courage, commitment and very importantly a pure intention of what you desire.
This process becomes more difficult when we don't know how, we lack self belief or we live in a pattern or habit.
Think about it for a second, you live a particular type of life, its become a routine, a habit to do the same things over and over, its comfortable, there is not much thinking involved. There is no rocking of the boat. Why change that? There will be moments in that life where there will be some happiness. Many of us are resigned to live that way. Stay with what you know to avoid what you don't know, cannot guarantee.
Then there may be the case where you have absolutely no clue how to build or have a healthy, harmonious and mature relationship. You have never seen one in your life!
And then the clincher for me is when we place the responsibility of our happiness, our value and worth in other people's hands. We wait for something outside of us to "make us" happy.
How can we start building healthy relationships:
1. Have a burning desire to do so
2. Set a firm intention, decide
3. Be willing to do the work
4. Let go of the need to know how it will happen, be open, be flexible
5. Pay attention to your patterns
6. Make self awareness a daily ritual.
7. Love yourself through it all
Peace
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