The Root of Self Help is Self

 The root of self-help is self, but if your help only helps you, then is it helpful? Stacey Herera


Confessions on the Journey, I think about how many self help books, courses, podcasts and seminars I have been on and sometimes wonder in some moments of challenge whether  I am living my life to reflect what I have learnt!

Seriously though, who is with me? How many times have I thought - and this is the thing right here- my thinking. I had thoughts that were less than, far far less than wholesome.

The judgements, the cynicism, the snarkiness, the anger  that rises in me, I sometimes think

OMG this is not progressive or spiritual AT ALL. 

What I can say is this, the lessons have been important, I feel so grateful for them all

1. Practice, practice, practice - every opportunity I get, I practice being kind, having hard conversations, staying grounded - practice makes masters

2. Release the self judgement - another practice! when we judge ourselves, it becomes easy and sometimes natural to judge others.

3. Reward yourself when you get it! - keeps the motivation high

4. Remember that mistakes and missteps will be made, especially if it is a new process or breaking a habit. I read somewhere that it takes 30 to 40 days to break free from habits.

5. Most importantly, love yourself through it.

Peace

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