Feel. Deal. Heal

Owning your power also means owning the responsibility for your happiness and for your healing. Yung Pueblo 



This is what I learned about owning my power that blew my mind - when I take responsibility for the feelings I feel, I have more power and choice. Rather than blaming others for how I feel which I have learnt really is giving away  the power of choice.

Yes, people hurt us, yes there are situations that are outside of our control, yes there are people out there doing crazy things. The power and choice lies in how we respond. 

It happened, now what?

Acknowledgement  -It happened, let me acknowledge that I do feel hurt, angry, upset, happy, joyful, shame guilt, what ever the feeling is. That is the first step in taking my power back.

Feel the feelings- rather than mask them, run from them, hide them, stuff them down in food, and other distractions.

Affirmation - Affirm to yourself that you will be okay no matter what.

Ask yourself - what have I learned from this?

Rev Deborah L Johnson says the formula is Feel, Deal. Heal

There can be no healing without feeling. For us to feel we have to acknowledge that we do feel a certain type of way.

Constantly pointing the finger at other people will never make your stress go away. 

According to Yung Pueblo, often, what other people do has very little to do with us and a lot to do with how they currently feel and the density of the emotional history they themselves carry.

Taking responsibility for our healing is an important step in moving forward and most importantly peace of mind

My intention is to be at peace


Akosua's Books



 IG

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

30 Things I Believe

Image
What is being of service? Looking upon another human being with kindness and compassion and not judgement is a profound act of service and though such a form of service lacks for whistles and bells, this expression of “service” comes from truly understanding the power of your soul and what it means to “look upon another with eyes of grace.” Carolyn Myss 1. I believe in sleep 2. I believe that love can cure it all  3. I believe in feeling my feelings 4. I believe that nature is my best teacher 5. I believe that friends are family minus blood lines 6. I believe that discipline and consistency combined with talent  can and will can create miracles 7. I believe in following my intuition 8. I believe that rest is part of the Journey 9. I believe in that all things are lessons that God will have us learn 10. I believe in choosing the people around you with care 11. I believe that vacations can reboot creativity  12. I believe in joy - doing what brings you joy -...
Read more

Redefinition of Lose

Rather than think about what you have to do to change a situation, consider what the situation might be doing to change you. How it might be seasoning and transforming and growing you. You are not responsible for everything and everyone. Allow that as a possibility. Jessica Dore There are some situations that are simply in your life showing you how to shift, how to be flexible, to grow, to transform. You long for change, yet you cling so to the familiar. You are so afraid of what you think you will lose. You are even afraid to lose the things you don't want. The familiar becomes your family, regardless of what it is. let's redefine "lose" I define lose as opening up to a new possibility The day I stopped saying that I lost my house, lost my marriage, lost my mind, things shifted for me The shift has to start inside How we define and relate to the circumstances in our lives transforms how we act. I started asking myself different question...
Read more

What Does Support Look Like to You?

Image
  You save yourself energy when you learn to ask people what they need, instead of assuming you know best then acting on your own impulses. Allowing people to define what support looks like gives you an ability to assess if you have the capacity to show up - Minaa B If someone asks you right now, what does support look like to you, what would be your answer? It takes self reflection , self awareness and more importantly a whole load of authenticity to answer. On the flip side, do you rush to support others without them even asking- there may be times when that is required, however many a time we assume that we know what others want and need. The times when we do assume, after a while a feeling of resentment builds because "how could they be so ungrateful?" or "why are they not seeing their need for my help?" the other classic is "they must need my help to show them because they clearly are not seeing that they need support" We continue to assume what othe...
Read more