Acting from a space of Negative Ego prolongs suffering

To have more power in your life you must surrender to what you cannot change, and fully alchemize that which you can. Face the pain that is making you feel powerless, and surrender to what is out of your control. Black Moon Book 

I have heard and shared about the power of surrender, the power of letting go, the power of facing and sitting in your pain many times and understood the logic and importance of living a life where this is practiced. What I have learnt over this year is the challenge of integrating this into life's experiences. When we want control, when we want to win, when we want to be right, when we operate from a space of ego, the practice of surrender and letting go is a tough nut to crack. I can fully attest to this that operating from the place of ego is a sure fire way of prolonging suffering. 

Surrender and letting go is not for the weak. It requires a level of courage to face what is, to not make excuses, to not deny what is. In relationships, the choice of surrender is a vulnerable choice. Vulnerability demonstrates the highest level of courage. To open up our hearts and minds not knowing what will happen is scary but this is where the magic happens.

As the legend, Luther Vandross sings "I just don't want to be a fool ever again" - I have now reframed this favorite song of mine to "I just don't want to be up in my ego acting a fool ever again" - What a difference a new perspective makes.

 Sitting with your pain allows you to regain your power, it is not lazy or meaningless in the slightest. The sooner you slow down and understand your pain, the quicker you can move from trying to control everything around you, to actually addressing what your true fear is.

When we understand our personal power, we know the importance of surrender and letting go.

Peace and Blessings

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