Bare Minimum is not effort

Attention is not love, Attachment is not connection, and the Bare Minimum is not effort - Mia Mingus



Recognizing and accepting that you have been okay with the bare minimum is an absolutely shocking wake up call. And yet that recognition  shifts the power right back into your hands. If taken as feedback and impersonally it can be seen as an eye opener. As  I reflect on how I have been operating in relationships and still operating in some areas of my life I confess that  the  bare minimum and attachments had become the norm . As a recovering people pleaser and deathly afraid of being/feeling abandoned, I would accept what was given not to proverbially "rock the boat", to be chosen, to avoid conflict.

This is unsustainable, firstly when you settle, you remove authenticity from the equation - you are not being your real self - due to fear of losing out, fear of not being chosen.

Secondly, it brings about a level of resentment and envy - deep down you know you are not operating at your best, at your full potential.

Thirdly, you show people how to treat you and accepting bare minimum is what you will continue to get.

On the flip side, you may also give the bare minimum due to your feelings of resentment, show attention to others due to fear of not being chosen rather than a true authentic connection.

I love when we get feedback and willingly become curious about it, only in that way can we know how to take our power back and live from a space of authenticity.

Pay attention to what you accept and why

Pay attention to whether you are giving bare minimum effort to what you are doing and the relationships you enter into and why

 You may just realize that anything that you "lose" was never yours to begin with

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