What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Do you love what you feel? Chaka Khan I often think that life is not just a collection of moments, but decisions. Decisions to leave. Decisions to stay. Decisions to hide. Decisions to shine. Decisions to wait. Decisions to try again. Trust me when I say that owning my choices has completely changed my life. I, like many of you, have been through the wringer of life school. I’ve been hurt and healed and have come back for more because of who I am on the other side. As I evolve, my choices do too. Instead of feeling sad for myself for decisions I made years ago when I was a different person, I see every choice (past or present) as a part of a whole; that is, a divine step on my staircase to my castle in the air. When it comes to our influence, taking personal responsibility for how we want to feel and then  acting as empowered creators of this   feeling  into our everyday life is a treasured gift to ourselves, our families, and our world.  We tap in...

When the river was deep I didn't falter When the mountain was high I still believed When the valley was low it didn't stop me, no no I knew you were waiting. I knew you were waiting for me Aretha Franklyn (the queen!) What's waiting for you on the other side of the mountain and the river? There was a celebration after my Biting off the Apple NYC Book Tour- this was one of  the theme songs! "I knew you were waiting for me featuring Aretha Franlyn  Waiting for me on the other side was a fulfilled dream, lovely people, support beyond measure and best best best of all, me feeling like I am enough! feeling and embracing my own awesome self! I say this today to let you know to start it, whatever "it" is! Start and learn as you go! everything is of use!  and share some of the lessons on the journey, I would love to hear from you! According to Aretha "when I think of all those disappointments, I just laugh, I just laugh" Peace! Heading off ...

Live a whole life .Work can be an important part of our lives, but we should never let it be how we define ourselves. Putting all your energy and resources into your work may feed your ego, but if you’re relationships are falling apart, your health neglected and your spiritual life ignored, you could end up sitting alone in your castle of glory.   That jewellery you like to make The painting you sit with for hours The race you like to run The tennis you like to play The thing that you will do for free, that thing, that is why Why are you here? To create To live a life that contributes to the joy that is inside of you Your joy Because when you do what brings you joy, you serve the world. You contribute to the creation of the world’s joy, you contribute to the light Your gifts are the gateway to your greatness And all of us matter, We live from a place of littleness. Do not be content with littleness Why am I really here? Wh...

until you stop apologizing for what you want and own it, it can't be yours. You'll be letting someone else run your life. And while that can seem safe and comfortable, we both know there is more in life than pleasing other people. There's more to life than making yourself small to make other people feel comfortable.  Iyanla What do you want? Is it a different job, a healthier relationship, a house on the beach, a trip around the world? to open your own business? What exactly do you want? Do you have a vision for it? Do you see it, smell it, taste it? Does it burn a fire inside you? So what are you doing to realize these dreams? Are you putting in the work or are you putting it off because of the excuses you have made? Are you heading towards it but making apologies for it because of fear and upsetting other folks? Own it, make no apologies for realizing your heart's desires! Once it is with a good intention, things line up! I am not saying it is easy street, I ...

You are not being punished; you are being prepared.    Prepared for more love. Prepared for more impact. Prepared to inspire change in others. Prepared for more awareness. Prepared for your dreams . Mastin Kipp Everything has use! Everything! One of my best ever lessons on the journey!  The ups and the downs, especially the downs! Humans love to avoid pain and enhance pleasure but somehow most of the changes in our lives come from when we encounter some sort of difficult situations, some sort of pain or trauma. Many times because we have been ignoring the signs and prefer to avoid pain or hold on! Your feelings are there for a reason, it is a sign post, it is usually a call to action to make a decision. Fear paralyses us!  And the thing about acknowledging the feelings is that they come to pass, feel it and then its gone, and the next time you are in a situation you recognize it and say hey, I know you, and you do not ignore ...

We need never fear an honest approach to life. We need only fear our own resistance to true honesty, authenticity and faith in what love can do . Marianne Williamson The Brooklyn Fan Club Luncheon hosted me at a luncheon yesterday, I must say it was one of my most fun times since promoting the book! The love was evident! The ladies, it seemed, brought extra love in the house! The event happened in one of the ladies' back garden, the food was cooked with love, the place was buzzing! I felt right at home! And the lesson is what you give out you get back! So grateful to June and Kerlean for inviting me! These ladies, having never met me, read and discussed the book and decided to invite me to their house! As the Universe works, one of the ladies was from Trinidad, my home country, and as they say the rest is history. NYC was a blast, I am getting ready to hit the road again, holla at ya on the other side! Peace!!

Preparing the heart – unplug and ask Ask –What do I need? What’s in my way? What needs to go? The biting of the big apple continues. I signed up to do a workshop called "The Gift Of Your Divine Storm" on Friday evening. True to form I didn't ask any questions I just said yes to going as it was right up my alley and being conducted by Mastin Kipp. I read a lot of his stuff and his work resonates with me as his mantra is to be self- approved and love yourself!  When I got the details, the instructions were clear, we would be Kundalani yoga and meditation and then onto the workshop! I had some reservations, yoga? for real? Before a workshop? During the day I had to be at the bank doing business stuff around my books, setting up accounts and all that fancy stuff, that took forever and I was running super late, then I remembered Eckart Tolle - make a friend with the present, don't fight it, you are late and accept that, I did and it calmed me down ...