What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Pretending is demeaning, and it makes you weak and confused, and it's also a lot of work. I don't do that kind of work anymore. untruth is always complicating, and truth — no matter what the consequences — is always strangely simplifying. )   Elizabeth Gilbert Check yourself- sometimes when you are extremely mentally tired check out if you are walking around with a mask, the mask becomes heavy. Ask yourself, what are you attempting to prove by being something or someone that you are not? There is a difference between being respectful and being fake What do you believe it is you have to lose by pretending, what is so important to you that you have to be someone else to get or keep it? to be accepted? What is it that remains so important? I wanted to be liked, I wanted to avoid conflict, I detested disappointing people and being around any raised loud voices. That was my reason Now I know Everyone cannot like me and there are ways and tools that I c...

We all know sometimes life's hates and troubles  Can make you wish you were born in another time and space  But you can bet you life times that and twice its double  That God knew exactly where he wanted you to be placed  so make sure when you say you're in it but not of it  You're not helping to make this earth a place sometimes called Hell  Change your words into truths and then change that truth into lov e  As By Stevie Wonder How do you show up in the world? How will the world be when you leave it? This is an issue I believe in strongly, making where ever I am a better place The people who came before me and paved a path for me took their responsibility very seriously. According to Maya Angelo - my crown has already been paid for These thoughts came racing back into my head over the weekend with the opening of the African American Museum in Washington DC. Where the history of a people will be told, to inform, educate and instill p...

Stuttering with your new power doesn’t make it any less real. Danielle La Porte You have done the work, in fact , you continue to do the work You have left the relationship that disnonors you and encourages bad behaviour, yours and others You have quit the blood sucking job, the one you drag yourself too daily You have booked the doctor's appointment You have started the therapy, the counselling You have started saving money and making a budget but...... You hit a wall You stumbled Hey, no problem, you stubbed your toe on the ramp, does it mean you are a loser? Hell no Does it mean that you will go back to the old habits and old behaviour? maybe not It's just a stumble, the power is still there, it never left Believe that! Lighten up will ya? Ask yourself, what does the present moment hold? And listen Peace

I allow myself to look at the anger, the fear, the resentment I may be feeling. I don't hide it; that just perpetuates the wrong-mindedness. I am willing to see my own feelings differently as well. I recognize that perhaps I am judging myself for feeling them. So, as I did with the external judgment, I do with the internal: I affirm I am willing to see it differently and ask for help. And I wait. ACIM I got to the meeting early, I sat down around the table surrounded by people who have important roles in the organisation according to their titles. I secretly sent love to everyone in the room and prayed for a good meeting and to be guided- not by the ego. The discussion was interesting, I listened intently, I see every encounter as an opportunity to learn and grow. I said my piece and there it was, someone around the table did not agree and decided to show it very passionately. I listened and honestly got so angry and judgmental. the thoughts that passed through my mi...

If we hold on to the mistake, we can’t see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can’t see what we’re capable of being Maya  Angelou Your process in your life's journey is step by step. STEP - "Success Treasures Enthusiastic Persistence" Step by step, inch by inch, moment by moment ants build an anthill. Come rain, come shine, step by step, inch by inch, moment by moment - and after a while the anthill is complete. The first step in the process of your life is creating a goal for you. What inspires you, what are you passionate about, what excites you, what touches your heart? The Next Step - is to ask yourself: Are you prepared to put in the effort and the sacrifices that require commitment to your goal? The Next Step - is to make sure you are committed to risk your all, to persist through fear, doubt, discouragement, discomfort, routine, boredom and frustration. The Next Step - is to discover if...

you must build from a place of contentment rather than from need. from a place of desire rather than obligation  or duty or fear. Iyanla It's easy to be fine and content when things are going well and swimming along nicely. It is easy to spend money and make investments when you have money and safe access to money. The challenges come when you don't have or cannot see - as they say where I am from "when you cyan't see yuh way" This is where faith and belief comes in. This is where the rubber hots the road. The ability to see a way out of no way. The Law of Polarity states  that everything that exists has an equal and exact opposite. To put it even stronger: for anything to exist, there has to be an equal and exact opposite. For example: you cannot experience sadness without having an idea about happiness. Light cannot be experienced as such if you don’t know what darkness is. To feel successful, you must have a sense of what failure is. Having become ...

Commit to small, daily actions.  They build into big ones. Everyday actions lead to the large leaps. And they help build our foundation for confidence - Maxi McCoy Today launched the NiNa Programme 6th Cycle - the programme is in it's 6th year. When I started it my intention was to use my time to give back something instead of feeling sorry for myself. Today they reminded me it was 6 years, I did not even realize that so much time had passed. We started going down memory lane and having fun with it, all the lessons we had learnt from Day one. I am pretty grateful and humbled by it all I was also asked  today about growing the programme. It reminded me of a conversation I had with a business woman when I first got into the game back in London in the early 2000's - she told me as I grow, my business will grow, when I decide that growth is essential then it will happen, when the Universe wants to push me to grow there will be growth, either way it will happen. Inside the m...