What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

A woman always knows what she needs to know. Unfortunately, her knowing is often buried beneath a thought, feeling, habit, perception, facade, situation, or the simple unwillingness to acknowledge herself, her power and, therein, her knowing.  When a woman is not willing to admit that she knows what she knows, she will attract people who are willing to support her in remaining ignorant so, that she can be used, manipulated, betrayed, dishonored, and left bleeding at the side of the road.  More important, when a woman doesn’t believe that she knows, she will create situations and circumstances to prove how dumb, helpless, dysfunctional, broken, battered, wounded, hopeless, and stupid she believes she is. Of course, this behavior is not a conscious activity. It is habitual. It is a conditioned response. It is the basis of the pain in nearly every woman’s heart. It is a function of refusing to know. Iyanla  One of favourite things to do in this world is sit aro...

Maybe you’re just kind of weird in a world that rewards “normal”. Too woo woo in a very linear, narrow-sighted culture. You’re doing all the good, metaphysical, motivational work but you feel like there’s a veil between you and what you really want to manifest, and if you get it, you don't get to keep it. Erase erase. That’s the subtle but very toxic Lie of Inadequacy telling you that you’re here and what you want is way over there, on the “right” side of it all. DLP Why are we afraid to speak our truth? to share the stories, the lessons on our journey's? I even ask myself the same question What stops us from speaking up? From making a decision? From setting boundaries? It all boils down to fear Fear of losing Losing the job, the friend, the relationship, the money, the respect Funnily enough, it happens anyway, because one cannot pretend foreever, there will come a time with you have to tell the radical truth. There will come a time when the fear will not be enou...

Begin where you are, with what you have.   When you start a workout, a trainer will tell you, "If you can't touch your toes, reach for your knees. If you can't reach your knees, go for your hips." Iyanla Today the NiNa Programme launched at a secondary (high) school making this it's 6th year in existence! Who knew? I am pants at keeping count, I don't even keep track of my own age, today Avinash, the teacher attached to the programme mentioned it in his introduction and I just had to say wow! This programme was one of my life saving tools, in the midst of a seeming life crisis. Fired, no cash, feeling totally alone (by choice, because I did not ask for help) I said, heck I have nothing to lose so why the hell not, I am starting this. It was a leap of faith, I called a few of my friends, I wanted an advisory panel, we met at an office in the South of the Island and talked about how it can be rolled out,  Started with an idea and a will, nothing else, not e...

Who you Are Matters What You Do Matters because you have a life in your hand Even you mistakes matter -Iyanla It is always good to remind ourselves that we are not as Marianne Willamson says "enlightened masters" we are on a journey and sometimes we may go off course due to a variety of reasons. That does not say that we are "bad people" or something is wrong with us, that we cannot make mistakes and recover from them We matter! We have a role in this world to be ourselves, to learn from our mistakes, to love and to love the lessons What happens is we get stuck in a holding pattern We make a mistake or a poor choice or something happens that throws us off the Course we thing we ought to be on and we freeze, we start having these negative self conversations which spirals into a feeling of not enoughness, and we all know that not enoughness will mash you up! So remember in those moments that even though you walk down the path of poor choices, mistakes, and...

You do not recognize the enormous waste of energy you expend in denying truth ACIM The truth needs no defence, it is undeniable, they say the truth hurts and perhaps it does. I want to say what hurts more is the denial of the truth and acting on illusions. The truth opens doors, it propels you forward. It is the great leveller Think of all the times you have been living a lie by denying yourself, by giving your friends stories, making them up, by not living your best life. When you finally face it the releif is so overwhelming, the relief so out does the fear! We all want to be liked, accepted and favoured, those are the reasons that we usually go through life denying our truth, denying the truth.but the old cliche applies - the truth will set you free. Whatever your truth is, live it, look at all the people who are peaceful and doing their lives in a positive way, they are living their truth, being themselves unapologetically. They are living out loud! Get over the fea...

Accept the fact that you are Divine - Iyanla The whole concept of "who are you?" is one that still fascinates me for many a reason includeing that we hardly ever contemplate it as a serious question and accept the definition of ourselves from our parents and sociaety, that knowing who we are is critical in making decisions that honor who we are and that knowing it provides a solid platform and foundation upon which to build. My story of finding out is well documented and told- I was "forced" to contemplate it in a corner in a place in Northern Uganda on the spot, with many eyes upon me. I was told that nothing moves until I know and say out loud who I was with pride and confidence- a seminal moment in the shift of my own living I sometimes forget who I am, because really remembering who I am holds me accountable and involves busting out comfort zones, unlearning patterns, questionuing norms and at times being darn uncomfortable. But all that never changees w...

If you think you’re defective or in need of fixing (which is the biggest lie of all), you will most definitely attract lovers, teachers, preachers, and politicians who want to so-called “love” you, and “fix” you, and “lead” you Danielle La Porte Have you ever asked yourself or maybe even asked others "What the hell is wrong with me? why do I continue to make the same mistakes?" We turn around and realise that we are doing the same things in the same place many times with the same people, then we get to the point where we are asking"what the hell is wrong with me?" Well my lovies, I have learnt that there is nothing wrong! Yes, catch that! there is nothing wrong, it is basically a combination of not willing to do the work and making the same choices over and over again, so here's the thing. Make another choice, get another idea and know this, when you do there is work to be done to put it in place Are you willing to do the work? Make another choice ab...