What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

"You Cannot use the Same Tools You Used To Survive to Thrive" - Ebonee Davis When you are in survival mode you do whatever it takes to survive - so if you are starving you may have to eat something totally out of the ordinary especially if that it is all that there is. available. It may be a case of life and death, literally. Same thing with surviving a death, a breakup, a trauma. The tools you require will be made available to you and when you are healed  or moving past the survival a different set of tools are required The challenge begins when we use our survival tools over and over in a non survival zone Newsflash - you require new tools babee! You can use them - but its like putting in a screw with a hammer  or driving with the handbrakes up - you will eventually get there but with some jerks (sometime literal ones as well) Put down the hammer, put down the handbrakes Drive that babee to the max It's time to thrive You've survived peeps! Now act like...

our lives present us with enough obvious opportunities to practice forgiveness without the need to uncover others. We can rest assured that, if any area of our lives is in need of healing, which simply means that it is a symbol upon which we have projected our unconscious guilt, that need will become apparent when we are ready to look deeper . ACIM There is a theory that when one is triggered it means that this is a place of healing. The thing has come up to be healed. So what do we do? Many of us do not recognise that the trigger is a gift therefore ignoring it or projecting it onto other people in the form of annoyance or anger or cutting them off, other times we "hide" through comfort eating, sex, drugs, alcohol, excess partying, shopping, staying at home. Some type of overcompensation happens when we do not know, realise or acknolwledge that the triggers are blessings, an indication of growth, that healing is the next step. Having said that, one of my triggers is pe...

  there is a solution to every problem.   Nothing is insoluable. Nothing. Do everything that you can to avoid the temptation of thinking that what is facing you now is insurmountable. That is simply not true. Neale Donald Walsh I am meeting with my business manager today - who by the way, is simply awesome. We speak very often but we do not meet very often, I wanted to meet today, coming down to the end of the year to brainstorm and reflect. This year has been quite a eye opening one, with lessons and triumps and new beginnings. Sometimes it is good to pause before we begin again. In fact, all times pausing is for a positive cause In my house growing up, pausing and taking a time out meant that I was lazy, that I "had nothing to do, so I would give you something to do" or it meant find something to do. Consciously breaking that pattern was a challenge at first but as with everything, a committed decision and massive action propels us forward.  Now I...

Sickness is anger taken out upon the body, so that it will suffer pain . ACIM I was doing my morning reading and this popped up, coming right after my chat with my grandma and my shoulder injury- which has been happening for months, by the way!  I had to stop in my tracks and have a chat with myself "self, what are you angry about?" "Where do I start, you got time?" Oh self, you are so cheeky! Anger trapped in your body manifests itself as sickness Emotional pain trapped in your body manifests itself as sickness The ego despises weakness, even though it makes every effort to induce it. The ego wants only what it hates. To the ego this is perfectly sensible. Believing in the power of attack, the ego wants attack. Get it out - of course in a healthy way and by far, hands down the best way to do that is the forgiveness route forgive yourself forgive the other person forgive everything, forgive every single thing it really it is that simple

“There are decades where nothing happens; and there are weeks where decades happen.” Unknown One of my favourite people to hang out with is my grandma, my first storyteller, my first love, many many firsts over the past few months seeing her unwell has been hard, my default was to disappear.  I would call her on the phone and have a conversation rather than going to see her. Her being ill threw me for a loop I missed my time around the kitchen table chatting and laughing and debating. On Sunday I saw her and her entire attitude was light, I asked her how she was doing- she said she healed herself!  Huh? She asked me if I had ever heard about the law of attraction and the power of the mind I said "shut all the doors and windows, what you sayin?" She went on to explain that she was tired of being in pain, she spoke to her legs and made some changes and now, she walks without a cane and has no pain I sat there like "what the whole hell, woman!"she w...

In truth, there is a small one that suffers in each of us, an angel trying to grow wings in the dark,and as this angel learns how to sing, we lose the urge to hide Mark Nepo I think it was Oprah Winfrey that I first heard with this theory - that secrets breed guilt, shame and fear. I heard it again from Ms Iyanla who talked about how secrets make us sick, unhealthy she says that "you are as sick as your secrets" and the hard thing to accept that the secret was held to protect somebody, not to hurt anyone It becomes an infection because there are lies and secrets associated with keeping the secret a secret Iyanla says - love people and rspect them enough to tell them the truth. The truth yes, the truth - will set you free Hiding can take many forms Lying Procrastinating Diminishing yourself Pretending Addictions (food, sex,drugs) Overcompensating Staying away from people Stopping the pain and hiding starts by- stopping the story, change the story, your story...

Start Where It Feels Easy - Danielle La Porte  I do the same thing every day. I get up. Drink a lot of water. Have a big chuck of watermelon, take a run.  Sometimes I meditate,Drink some green juice. Eat as healthy as I can. (bake  tho! And Anella’s bread!!)  Read something that moves me. I’m not trying to win an award for being the best vegetarian, just want to be healthy. I’m blessed to do anything I want so I decide to take the best care of my body in the same way. Holistically. Vitally. Purposefully. And have some fun with it. What is your ritual? Peace