What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

You Must Begin Where You Are - Jack Boland If you are waiting for something to happen before you begin what you want to to, it will never happen. If you are waiting to get something before you do what you say you want to do, you willl never get started If you are a waiting for the right time, the right moment, the right person, the right circumstances, you could be waiting forever How about this, what can you do right now? Can you write a letter? Make a call? Finish a plan? Structure a goal? Can you pick a name? Paint a wall? Ask a question? Sweep a floor? Can you structure a schedule? Can you read a book? Can you stop doing all the things you do that keep you from doing the one thing you want to do? Can you pray? Can you sing? Can you dance right where you are? Whatever you can do, you better do it now Now is all you have to work with Iyanla

Listen to the first thing you hear in your gut (before your mind starts to doubt and interfere) that’s what you need to know right now. – Inner guidance I conducted an experiment. I decided to follow my intuition, my gut feeling, my first thought ONLY for an entire day Now, the question is asked, how do you know whether it is your "gut" guiding you? In my case, I would say it is a straight case of it - the choice, the decision, the movement- bringing me a state of calm and peace even if it is scary or seems illogical. It is not illegal and has only the best intentions of particulary myself So what happened in that ENTIRE day that I made this choice? I felt a twinge of fear when I decided to say something to other people which one, I would not normally say and two, seemed way off base but I said it with kindness and conviction and felt really proud of myself too! I felt a peace that passed all understanding - all Damm day I was less anxious and nervous about ...

"You Cannot use the Same Tools You Used To Survive to Thrive" - Ebonee Davis When you are in survival mode you do whatever it takes to survive - so if you are starving you may have to eat something totally out of the ordinary especially if that it is all that there is. available. It may be a case of life and death, literally. Same thing with surviving a death, a breakup, a trauma. The tools you require will be made available to you and when you are healed  or moving past the survival a different set of tools are required The challenge begins when we use our survival tools over and over in a non survival zone Newsflash - you require new tools babee! You can use them - but its like putting in a screw with a hammer  or driving with the handbrakes up - you will eventually get there but with some jerks (sometime literal ones as well) Put down the hammer, put down the handbrakes Drive that babee to the max It's time to thrive You've survived peeps! Now act like...

our lives present us with enough obvious opportunities to practice forgiveness without the need to uncover others. We can rest assured that, if any area of our lives is in need of healing, which simply means that it is a symbol upon which we have projected our unconscious guilt, that need will become apparent when we are ready to look deeper . ACIM There is a theory that when one is triggered it means that this is a place of healing. The thing has come up to be healed. So what do we do? Many of us do not recognise that the trigger is a gift therefore ignoring it or projecting it onto other people in the form of annoyance or anger or cutting them off, other times we "hide" through comfort eating, sex, drugs, alcohol, excess partying, shopping, staying at home. Some type of overcompensation happens when we do not know, realise or acknolwledge that the triggers are blessings, an indication of growth, that healing is the next step. Having said that, one of my triggers is pe...

  there is a solution to every problem.   Nothing is insoluable. Nothing. Do everything that you can to avoid the temptation of thinking that what is facing you now is insurmountable. That is simply not true. Neale Donald Walsh I am meeting with my business manager today - who by the way, is simply awesome. We speak very often but we do not meet very often, I wanted to meet today, coming down to the end of the year to brainstorm and reflect. This year has been quite a eye opening one, with lessons and triumps and new beginnings. Sometimes it is good to pause before we begin again. In fact, all times pausing is for a positive cause In my house growing up, pausing and taking a time out meant that I was lazy, that I "had nothing to do, so I would give you something to do" or it meant find something to do. Consciously breaking that pattern was a challenge at first but as with everything, a committed decision and massive action propels us forward.  Now I...

Sickness is anger taken out upon the body, so that it will suffer pain . ACIM I was doing my morning reading and this popped up, coming right after my chat with my grandma and my shoulder injury- which has been happening for months, by the way!  I had to stop in my tracks and have a chat with myself "self, what are you angry about?" "Where do I start, you got time?" Oh self, you are so cheeky! Anger trapped in your body manifests itself as sickness Emotional pain trapped in your body manifests itself as sickness The ego despises weakness, even though it makes every effort to induce it. The ego wants only what it hates. To the ego this is perfectly sensible. Believing in the power of attack, the ego wants attack. Get it out - of course in a healthy way and by far, hands down the best way to do that is the forgiveness route forgive yourself forgive the other person forgive everything, forgive every single thing it really it is that simple

“There are decades where nothing happens; and there are weeks where decades happen.” Unknown One of my favourite people to hang out with is my grandma, my first storyteller, my first love, many many firsts over the past few months seeing her unwell has been hard, my default was to disappear.  I would call her on the phone and have a conversation rather than going to see her. Her being ill threw me for a loop I missed my time around the kitchen table chatting and laughing and debating. On Sunday I saw her and her entire attitude was light, I asked her how she was doing- she said she healed herself!  Huh? She asked me if I had ever heard about the law of attraction and the power of the mind I said "shut all the doors and windows, what you sayin?" She went on to explain that she was tired of being in pain, she spoke to her legs and made some changes and now, she walks without a cane and has no pain I sat there like "what the whole hell, woman!"she w...