What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Abundance comes to mind immediately when I see the word bountiful. Bountiful is a state of mind, it is a choice, a decision to believe that the Universe is abundant and bountiful providing for each and every single one of us. Bountiful lives require a decision to live that way because it is our God given right as children of The Most High! Carnival is in Trinidad and Tobago is here, it is one of my favourite times of year because of the creativity, the colour, the fun, the meeting of people that I haven't seen in a very long time It is a time that people come together in joy! I have never experienced anything like it Carnival in Trinidad and Tobago was born out of a rebellion, and has evolved into something full of joy, fun, innovation and change. People either love it or hate it! It sparks debate and controversy as well Today is the start! There will be parties, food, events, hanging out, and much joy until next Tuesday at midnight. If you don't hear from me, I...

Waiting time is a great self-love assignment. Of course the romance will fill a space in your life, and hopefully the career win is going to be fulfilling. But without those future things, you're still supreme now. You're good and beautiful today. And when you tap that self assuredness, that dignity and self worth, you're more likely to manifest what you desire for your future because you're manifesting it today. Danielle La Porte Patience is quite a challenging skill to master! It requires a level of self belief in our part minus any proof! How many of us look for proof that we are in the right path?  I know that I do! I would look for proof and sometimes there is no visible proof, just a gut feeling People would ask me questions about what I was doing, why I was doing it and self doubt sometimes set in Patience requires courage. The Courage to make decisions Patience requires vision - seeing the thing you desire in it's entirety Patience requires the a...

excessive expectations will block your fulfillment because life will never be able to meet your demands or fantasies that come from scarcity. And...holding on to expectations with desperate or demanding energy will drain the sweet fuck out of you. And then you end up too brittle and tired to magnetize anything to you — or enjoy it if you do get what you want .  Danielle La Porte “Being” ready is an action, “Feeling” ready is the result “If only I was ready.” You are, or you wouldn’t be wondering about such things. But the problem is you are looking at “ready” as a feeling, like being hungry, and you don’t find it there. “Ready” is just a decision, like eating. It comes in response to wanting food. Wanting something more. And that’s all that ready really is. Being hungry for something more. We understand hunger and eating, because we do it daily. We eat for necessity and for enjoyment, we eat with others and we eat alone; we eat to survive. Eating does not depen...

If you choose courage, you will know failure disappointment setback and vulnerability Brene Browne What does courage look like to you? When do you tap into the courage that you need? Do you even believe that you have courage? Courage, I have learnt, is showing up despite the fear It is starting the business, speaking up, writing the poem, getting the book done, asking the person out Courage shows your vulnerable side, because being vulnerable is part of being courageous The strength to show all sides, to not wear a mask That is Courage to me Peace Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here? Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal Follow Akosua on Twitter Instagram Facebook

Keeping up will run you dry. It’ll run you ragged. And there will always be someone to keep up with no matter what you’ve done, what you have, or who you are. So the only way to win the game of keeping up, is to stop keeping up entirely. Instead, create, pursue, and desire from a place that matters most to you and only you. Maxi How many times have you done something or gotten something because other people had it and said it was worth having? How many times have you gone somewhere because it was the "in" place to be? Do you ask yourself the reasons? I have learnt that if the reason is to be popular, keep up, show your worth chances are it will be a hollow or shallow experience that keeps us on the treadmill of going, doing, and acquiring. If we do something, have something, go somewhere because we want to, a soul calling, an intuitive response, the feeling is so much deeper Many times we are on auto pilot and it is easier to follow the crowd rather than deal with o...

Most of us want to get away from where we are over to something else. Something spiritual, something peaceful, something successful. People are not in the way of your path, people are your path This morning as soon as I woke up, I got a phone call, the insurance company, they wanted to know when I would pay by  due bill. It triggered me immediately - pay my bill? It comes directly out of my bank account. They told me no it is a cash payment. I was even more pissed. I asked them how did they receive the previous payment, the lady responded through the bank account, OK then so what changed? I did not change it! She started being defensive, she started putting the blame on everyone else, I started doing the same! Then it hit me: 1. I recognised what my trigger was in that moment- it brought up some fear, when the fear came up I responded in fear 2. Responding to defence with defence hardly ever produces solutions I asked the lady to put herself in my shoes I asked her if...

The fear of sacrifice and loss is one of the greatest obstacles to our spiritual progress. And as long as we think we are losing something real, we will drag our feet . ACIM One of my favourite teachers on this journey Ms Iyanla Vanzant says "You cannot lose" Metaphysically you just cannot lose! What trips us up is the feeling that we will lose something. I cannot tell you how my life shifted when I truly believed in this - I cannot lose I can learn I can change I can cry I can move I can shift but I cannot lose I cannot lose... When I approach every event, every opportunity with this knowledge I can leave out the fear, the doubt, the anxiety, the stress! I know that I can trust myself to not lose but to learn Peace Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here? Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal Follow Akosua on Twitter Instag...

Be present enough to appreciate where you are. Don’t get lost on future trips or compariso n journeys. Your life is unfolding in direct proportion to what you truly believe is possible. Want more. Dream big. Desire much. But do not forget to appreciate now . Stacey HERERA Being  fully present in the moment was a lesson that I learnt that has changed the way I approached my life in such a profound way. Being in the moment for me, is being fully present, fully invested and focused where I am. No thinking about what I have to do tomorrow, what I did not do today, what I forgot to do, what I am resisting doing and all the other random thoughts that accompany these feelings. Being in the moment also involves not comparing the experience to something that I did before, something I saw somewhere or what I believe it should be. When I am in the moment, I feel a sense of freedom, a sense of possibility and a sense of calmness. I fully experience what is happening. Making the ...

Commit To Being Loving • Set the intention to be loving each and every day. • Set the intention to stop being distant every day. • Every morning close your eyes for sixty seconds and visualize yourself displaying loving behaviors and releasing avoidant behaviours.   ⠀⠀Kyle Jones Today is Valentine's Day, I wish you all the love and fun and excitement and peace! It is always a pleasure for me to see all the happiness that these days drum up around me People are smiling, they are speaking to you on the street, if it takes a day to have this happen, why not? I can put up with the commercialism of it if it leads to a happy set of people, even if it is for one day. So my friends, happy Valentine's Day and remember to love yourself. Sharing a podcast on Self Love  - Akosua is Interviewed on the Self Care Sundays Podcast https://podtail.com/podcast/self-care-sundays/ep-112-author-and-sp Peace

The universe is the essence of duality. To be a good giver, you must be a good receiver. And to be a good lover, you must be good at being loved . Stacey Herera How are you at receiving? How are you at giving? How are you at loving? How are you at being loved? Some of us are conditioned to be the giver, we feel great when we give we feel wanted when people look to us for advice, guidance, love, and on and on and on Can you remember how great you feel when people thank you for doing something that you either really wanted to do or thought nothing of it? This is such a powerful feeling. Receiving is the flip side of giving If we cannot receive it really is more challenging to give with little intention. When I get a compliment now I save the response to thank you. No explanation, no rationale, no justification. Before I would add something to the thank you. Thank you is sufficient. It signifies that you have accepted the compliment, the gift, the intention. It ...

Louise Hay says that shoulder problems are from carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. She says shoulders “represent our ability to carry out experiences in life joyously. We make life a burden by our attitude.” Is the financial or emotional burden all on your shoulders and you feel responsible, fearful and inadequate? That wear and tear will show up in your shoulders. Think about your last injury. What was going on emotionally at home, in your job, for you at that time? East House Natural Health  My shoulder is now healing. I have been following the doctor's instructions, taking it easy and not rushing the process. Louise Hay's work has been important on my journey, her philosophies on affirmations, on healing ourselves through our thoughts and letting go of the past. During my healing process I decided to reacquaint myself with Louise's work. I came across the theory that my shoulder problems are determined by our attitude I must admit, I have been fe...

There’s accommodating and then there’s adapting to the world we live in. We all have to accommodate people around us and they do the same for us. It’s a give-and-take world we live in. But adapting to negativity within us or in our environment means deciding we can live with something negative rather than take action to initiate a positive change. Each time we adapt to something negative within us or around us, we pay a price Carolyn Myss I always remember a story from a lovely lady I met on the journey. She was very ill at the time, her attitude was always positive. I always thought, every time we spoke, that I would have loved to have spent more time with her as our talks were usually quite insightful. I knew it would be a matter of time before she transitioned. One day I worked up the courage to ask her about her condition, she said that she had some pain and discomfort but never went to the doctor to check it out, she just learned to live with pain! She learned to live with t...

At all times, we have the right and the freedom to determine what is important in our lives. We also have the freedom to focus our time, energy, and efforts on those things.  The challenge is that far too often we do not take the time to determine what is important. Then we spend a majority of our life and time doing what we think we must do, have to do, need to do . Iyanla Someone told me that they were intimidated by a friend of mine, I must admit I was a tad bit shocked. I wanted to find out more as to why someone who can be considered her contemporary would intimidate her. So I asked after saying - never let anyone intimidate you! She responded that it was the job that the person held. Oh dear me, someone's position would intimidate you, and you knew the person before they had that job? I was quite amazed! We get to chose who and what we place importance on We may choose this deliberately or unconsciously, the beauty about life is that it always gi...

Honestly, without a lot of fluffy talk, it is time for you to know and to express the fullness and the richness of how wonderful, of how special, you are. NDW We, all of us, are magnificent beings, we are born that way, believe it or not.  Our magnificence is always there, it never leaves us despite poor decisions and choices, or circumstances and setbacks. I liken it to seeds in the right soil. If the soil and the conditions are conducive the plant will grow. The fruits will bear.  There are some plants that seem to be withered, worn and ready to die, yet with some water and TLC they spring up and thrive There are some with brown leaves that really ought to be green, stalks where buds are supposed to be - with a shower of rain a difference happens The soil is important, the fertiliser is important Our friends, family, health and choices are our soil and fertiliser. With the right combination our magnificence shines through. I keep remembering that ...

Yesterday the celebration of the Bodaciousness started Six of the young ladies of the NiNa Programme had an audience with our country's first female President, up close and personal It was a bit of a surreal moment sitting with these young ladies next to the President of the country chatting away. I want to thank the Office of the President for facilitating this memorable day and wish her the best for the future. I also want to share one of the best blogs of my week - Maxi McCoy I really hate not getting what I want. And I’m the queen of letting  desire  get in the way of intuitive knowing. The amount of times I’ve known something was bad for me, but my brain decided I wanted it (for any number of reasons)…is  countless . I’ve chased after big dreams that weren’t aligned but were desired. I’ve been laser-focused on making strides that weren’t rooted in what really mattered. I’ve chased after people that sucked (and some that were great but sucked for me). I...

Go for the Joy - Iyanla Vanzant Plans are well away with the Bodacious Girl Gala. A celebration of bodaciousness which all began as an idea in my mind, it was shared with some wonderful people. The idea has morphed itself into something beautiful. The intention is to to celebrate the young ladies that I have met on the journey, the ones who have taught me about showing up, about non judgement, about compassion, about patience! The intention to highlight to others and to remember also that it takes a village. The intention is  be of service to someone in someway The intention is for the young ladies to celebrate themselves and their achievements The intention is to live our best lives The intentions is to share lessons on the Journey Come celebrate with us!

"never underestimate and be willing to invest in the power of your mind. That’s the ticket to anything and everything, because that’s what’s going to lead to your experiences. That’s what’s going to build you character. That’s what’s going to resolve your issues and challenges. That’s what’s going to transmute and change your pathology. Don’t underestimate the power of your mind and be willing to invest in the power of each and every thought that you have. ” Iyanla Vanzant I have been reading up on thought patterns, and how powerful our minds are. From a thought comes an action and from the action results the experience. It fascinated me that simply by paying attention to what I think I can make simple adjustments to shift the experiences in my life. Of course there are things that are way out of our control, but what is within our control is our response the situations, as well as, the thoughts about the situation. What do you think about money? What do you think about love...

Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness.”  ~ James Thurber Today my whole aim is to pay attention to my surroundings and what I am doing, to taste my food, to enjoy the warmth of the sunshine, to look at the flowers blooming on the porch, to smell the grass The little things are the big things. When I neglect or forget the little things big things happen to remind me to get back to them So, today I remind myself to be aware, to be grateful, to be mindful of all the little things that make life so big! My top 5 Little Things 1. Fresh Watermelon 2. The smell of newly cut grass 3. Sunrise 4. Birds around the flowers on the porch 5. Silence What are your little things? Peace Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here? Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal Follow Akosua on Twitter Instagram Facebook