What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Healing requires truth, until the truth comes healing will not happen.  There is no true healing without accountability and integrity. Healing is declaring that it ends right here with you. I am making the intentional effort to recognize the patterns I have been repeating that haven't been serving me. I am done letting my past experiences and the version of me birthed out of fear run the show. I get to choose, so I choose to commit to myself, I choose to do right my myself. I choose to break free from what has been keeping me from playing small, blocking blessings and repeating cycles Our healing is our responsibility. Healing is about feeling, not about thinking. Healing requires presence between you and yourself.  Attachment grows the ego and it slows down healing. Keeping yourself accountable is also part of healing Everything you are healing for yourself you are healing for someone else, too Running from discomfort and unresolved issues just fuels the need to run. Stopping. Tur

Just because that we are personally not in control, does not mean that things are out of control, there is divine order and right action - Rev Deborah Johnson  Humans love control, we love to know what is happening and when. We must know what is coming next, all the facts and insights before, during and after an even, a process, a situation. Of course, we are taught that we must be in control to grow, to lead, to avoid embarrassment. We are rewarded for knowing, for having the facts and information, when we don't know we are looked at as dumb, incomplete, unfinished, unprepared. We are punished. Knowing, in a particular situation, is important and I am not saying that flying blindly is the solution. What I am saying is that there are some situations that divine guidance, right action and intuition plays a far more critical role than the facts. There are some situations that you get the gut feeling to do something or not do something that defies all logic and throws the facts out.

  What you stop doing is as important as what you start doing, I always say. We don’t need more goals. Just less bullsh*t and toxins.   Danielle La Porte I read an article by Danielle La Porte where she shared 12 things that are on her definite NO list for what she now says NO to. I felt inspired to think about what I must absolutely stop doing now for my health, mentally and physically.  Let's start with: 1. Sugary substitute coffee's - They give me a temporary high, then the crash is hard! turns my tummy into a roller coaster. 2. Not speaking  up due to fear - says it all - Just speak up, and stop the self betrayal. 3. Making excuses for other people's bad behavior - stay in your lane 4. Procrastinating  5. Early morning meetings and events. 6. People pleasing 7. Letting people off the hook when boundaries are continually ignored 8. Stuffing your feelings into chocolate 9. Breaking promises and commitments to Self 10. Holding on to the past without forgiveness and gratitu

  “Never forget that circumstances of your life tomorrow are molded by your mental conduct of today.” Emmet Fox Everything is a process, every daily thought, every daily word, every daily action adds up to our lives. What daily decisions are you making that add up to the life that you live? Are you being kind to Self and others? Are you being honest to Self and others? Are you being unselfish to Self and others? Are you standing and living in your truth? And every day may look different, however if the intention is to live from that space, it pushes us to act accordingly, if there is a firm decision to build your life around integrity, accountability, authenticity and kindness, this will be reflected in how we show up. One day at a time, one thought at a time, one action at a time adds up to the lives we create. What are you creating today that will impact your tomorrow? Peace and Blessings Akosua's Books Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? Now What? The Flipside What Did I Learn Tod

 Impatience and impulsiveness can be linked to scarcity mindset because the parts of people that become impatient could be unconsciously feeling deprived of something or the feeling of "there isn't enough and I need it right now" is present - Purposefully Zenny   Trust the process has been an important lesson for me. The process has taught me more than patience. I have learnt to be disciplined, I learnt courage, to believe in myself, to surrender. Instant gratification is for some things - perhaps popping corn in the microwave? There are times that trusting the process is a gift. When we look at it from this perspective we are able to tap into the patience, motivation and trust required to complete the process, achieve the goal. As Lisa Olivera beautifully puts it, what a gift it is to trust the unfolding, to trust the process, to trust the aligned timing of ourselves, our work, our capacity, our desires, or hopes, our lives. What a gift it is to allow ideas, dreams, and

  One lesson that has always stayed with me is the power of adaptability. Life rarely goes as planned, but those who can adapt and grow from their experiences find success and fulfillment. Life has a way of speaking to us, giving us messages, sending us signals. With love and compassion, gives us cues and messages. When it is ignored, life begins shouting at us through our experiences. I know when I made elaborate plans and  life had something else in store for me, there was nothing that I could do to shift it. On the surface my plans looked like failure, epic failure. Now I know it was only life saying to me- no this my love, not here my love, not now my love When I resisted life's guidance and cues, I suffered even more. When I accepted them, felt the feelings and flowed with it, every single time my mind was blown Life had something just as exiting or better in the works. I now have an affirmation when I put a plan in place is "this or something better" and be prepared

 “ Change is the law of growth; and growth is the law of life.  Without change there can be no growth.  There is no greater mistake than to be afraid of change, and yet many intelligent people dread it and cling to what is customary and familiar. Welcome every change that comes into phase of your life.”  Emmet Fox (Life Is Change).  I joined a boxing class, some days its fun, when I am actually boxing I feel excited and happy. Other days its not so much fun, we do work to strengthen our core and practice the techniques, gain fitness. One particular day the non boxing part was pleasant, I was pleasantly surprised, I actually looked forward to the next session. Well, suffice to say that session was monstrous, the level of difficulty was so high, I felt frustrated and wanted the same class, same comfort, same conditions. How can I grow,  become better, evolve when things remain the same? Circumstances change all the time. In order for growth and evolution it is important that change is e

  Over givers often  think we have to take in the energy other people throw at us. To observe it, to be "held accountable" But we can observe others' and insist it stay outside of our aura Mayaam Hassnaa  It has been a practice to observe - both in my own life and in others rather than "rush in" to fix, change, repair, give suggestions, save and be seen as useful. One of the most important lessons I have learned is to let people walk their path, no judgement, no saving - only support. Support, I have also learnt, can look like listening, waiting to ask for what they need and setting boundaries.  The practice of rushing in to make myself "useful" is all about me, rather than supporting.  Observing is a process, it is a practice, it is a knowing that reflect the entire picture, it takes courage, patience and setting boundaries. Observing provides a different vantage point and depersonalizes the situation. What and where are you jumping into situations t

  You learn that the journey was never about that, anyway; it’s only ever been about strengthening yourself from the inside out. Training your mind to be more conscious of what it entertains. To act not out of compulsion or obligation, but true choice—out of self-preservation, and self-love. Briana Wiest In many of Maya Angelou's impactful messages, she extols the virtue of Courage. Courage, she says, "courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage you can't practice any other virtue consistently. You can practice any virtue erratically, but nothing consistently without courage" With this in mind, I begin July with the intention to be courageous, with an affirmation: May I bring my best self to the table in  all that I do and in my life.  May I have the courage to shine, regardless of whom that might make uncomfortable (including myself).  May I operate as a total pro and have tons of fun while I do it. May my willingness to step into the v