What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

In order to truly forgive, each of us must process through the full range of lessons, feelings and emotions associated with the traumatic events in our lives. Blind forgiveness is the easy way out and is usually the route most people prefer. Blind forgiveness is denial and avoidance. It helps people brush things under the rug without ever getting to the root cause of the problem. Unfortunately, this leads to a pattern of recreation in the future because it was never properly addressed. You cannot change a problem with the same state of consciousness that created the problem. Sabrina Reber For a very long time I believed that forgiveness was about letting the other person off the hook. I never wanted to forgive anyone, I would simply put it out of my mind. As far as I was concerned, the person did not exist and what happened never happened.  That, my dear friends, does not work. Ignoring and pretending is a sure fire way of bringing the lesson back over and over again. Sabrina ...

there are some habits, people, practices, and choices that I simply don’t have  any  time for anymore. And I don’t have time for them because they create cycles of energy that stress me out. And most importantly, they’re not pushing me to heal, to grow, or to get better. So done. Done with dirty playing fields. Done with letting images, messages, and molds tell us what to do . Maxie McCoy Have you ever had one of those moments when you just get it? When the light bulb switches on and you say "Oh I get it!!" (sometimes loudly and in libraries and bank halls) This hit me during this week. There are just some things that I must, absolutely must, spending time on: 1.  Convincing others - that my way is the right way, that they ought to be doing "so and so" and to mind their own business - done with that. I don't know it all, I don't know their full story only what they have told me and want me to know and let me mind my own business so when others are ...

To be detached from the outcome of a result means that you have learnt to trust . The Law of Detachment What is the difference between detachment and complacency. Detachment involves a high level of trust, a type of knowing that whatever happens it's all good! It means you have done the work, you have done all that is required. And you know that! You also know that even if the outcome is not to your liking it is still all good! Complacency is a form of fear! Fear that it will not work, or turn out as it ought to be That you are not in control, or out of control!  When you know the difference, it is a guide! Peace Have you read Akosua' Books? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love Nyabo(Madam) Why Are You Here?

Truth time? I (still) think that it's intimidating to ASK . Like you and so many other people, I at least momentarily worry about being a bother or asking for a favor that I can’t return (after all, these authors have nothing to “get” in return from a noob author like myself). But I’d like to convince you, somehow, to start asking for help , in the name of things that matter to you. You might hear a “no.” You will totally survive . And with time, and enough asking, some pretty amazing things might happen. Kate Courageous  Confessions on the Journey. Asking for help has been a challenge for me. Asking for anything, period. I somehow had this perception that asking for help meant that I didn't have my shit together, that I was weak and disorganised. Strong women help not ask for help! Oh how much on left field I was!  I have learnt that receiving is part of the equation, in order to be a good giver one has to be a good receiver. I have learnt that we are on thi...

Feels so good, when you're doing all the things that you want to do Get the best out of life, treat yourself to something new It's a really good thing to say That I won't change my life, my life's just fine Mary J Blige I was having a conversation with a very dear friend of mine last night, normal convo between friends about the day and how things were going.She said I have a random unrelated question "how do you know when it is time to give up on a dream and go get a normal life or job?" "Dude, who gives up on a dream and live a normal happy life though?" "Well it seems as if things are not working out" "Seems is the best word you said in that sentence" "If you want to give up on your dream then perhaps it is not your dream to begin with" "What about family pressure and societal contructs, do they influence one's dream?" "If you want it to yes" I started to reflect on my own dreams ...

We are suppose to learn from our negative emotions. Get to the root of the issue and transmute the energy into discernment and action. What do you need to do? If we ignore our negative emotions by suppressing them deep into our subconscious minds or we continue to feed them with negative mind chatter, blame and victim consciousness - we will create our own personal hells on Earth, our own states of hell consciousness, and then we will attempt to drag everyone down with us. Negative emotions are alarm bells. They are warning signs for us to generate change. Wake up and be conscious of your own negative emotions and work with them to gain wisdom. Then you can tap into a higher level of discernment where you can utilize the strength of your inner will to release any attachments that may no longer serve your highest good . -Sabrina A combination of suppressing  our negative emotions and not being conscious of our thoughts is really not a very good idea! I'm just sayin...

Our thoughts literally create an energy frequency around us magnetizing those things we spend energy thinking about into a self-fulfilling prophecy Sabrina Reber Self-Awareness is the first step towards not only knowing one self. Self -Awareness is a critical part of transformation. Self Awareness comes when you are conscious of your thoughts. Thoughts create things. That is to say, what you are thinking most about becomes a reality. You don't have to believe this or even understand this, it is a Universal Law Think of Gravity, you know what goes up, must come down.  You don't need to understand it nor agree with it. So when we are unaware of your thoughts, look at what shows up in your life. That is quite sobering. You must take responsibility. There is no one and nothing to blame. It is only to give you feedback to move, to leave, to grow, to transform, to stay, to change, to take responsibility and most important of all, to be grateful So what have I learnt? Pay a...

Comparison to others is an act of self sabotage - Iyanla Vanzant Confessions on the journey. I have been angry for a few weeks and it seems to be getting worse. Why? Comparing myself to others. Yes I have been doing that. I have been seeing a few peers doing their thing on their journey. Some doing great things, some doing wonderful and marvelous things and I was becoming angry and at times jealous. I have learnt that jealousy happens when you want what you believe other people have and it also happens when you are not happy with your present situation so rather than take the time to do the work, that time is taken up being angry and comparing yourself to others. I have also learnt that it is a normal feeling however our responsibility - ability to respond- is the difference in taking it positively or not. So I have decided to use it for a good and get off my bum! To work, have faith, believe and push to realise the dream and most importantly to let go after I have done all th...

Healing does not come from anyone else. You must accept guidance from within. The guidance must be what you want, or it will be meaningless to you. ACIM I now believe that we are responsible for our own lives  and I have now received this as a blessing.              Responsible - making the choice to respond, having the ability to respond.   If we all have the choice and ability then we can all make the change.  That is how I have broken it down to keep it simple. I totally get and love  simple. Of course things will happen that we have absolutely no control over but what a blessing  it is to have the choice and ability to respond to the situation. Healing does not come from anyone else, - you must accept guidance from within - you and the Universe in tandem. Healing here does not refer to only sickness,  it can be a guidance on moving to a new place, getting into a business, a new job...

“One of the greatest challenges in creating a joyful, peaceful and abundant life is taking responsibility for what you do and how you do it. As long as you can blame someone else, be angry with someone else, point a finger at someone else, you are not taking responsibility for your life.” —Iyanla Vanzant It takes a Goliath of a spirit to claim the responsibility for one's irresponsible behaviours. Most choose to defend self, explain self, with a desire to be more desirable based on justification. Reasons. Excuse. This is a personal statement. Directly from me to you. Something has guided me to the possibility that sharing this message today may be of some semblance of use, to somebody. You see, putting self aside leads to backups, backups lead to blockages, & blockages lead to most of the challenges that we face regarding our health (mental, spiritual and physical). There is a clinical difference between putting something aside & letting something go. So today...

Light always serves a purpose, it directs ships to safe harbour, it illuminates our path, it can lead the way, it purifies, it exposes hidden dangers, promotes clear vision and if legend is to be believed it even repels, vampires, goblins and foul fiends that try to daunt the spirit. Paula Mae-Weeks, President of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago The 6th President of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago was sworn in yesterday. The 1st woman President of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago was sworn in yesterday. The 1st woman President of the country I am blessed to call home. I was here to witness it and even more blessed to have the opportunity to attend with my grandmother and mother, we saw history in the making. The event raised in me all manner of pride! My pride levels were all sort of high! A woman who earned this on merit. Confident in her approach and real in her delivery, everything that I know is required for a light bringer, a warrior of light! And her speech, s...

LAZINESS : Many would say, “Oh I am not lazy, I am very busy.” And yes, that may be true….many of us are very busy doing everything we can to avoid the inner darkness within that we need to transform so we can claim our LIGHT. We are busy doing what the ego wants us to do, or even what other people want us to do – but we are LAZY when it comes to our spiritual practices, the disillusionment of our egos and the awakening of our divine consciousness. Raising Your Consciousness What are we busy doing? Or maybe what are we being lazy about? I asked myself that question today and got still to listen for the answer. I am busy avoiding my feelings. Yes I am. I excuse it away with talk such as "I am good" or "God's will be done" or "When it's time" or "It's not my fault" or "This is not for me" All of which are hog wash really, they are lazy excuses to not deal with the issues or to procrastinate dealing.  What happens with ...

It is unloving to ask people to do anything that they have demonstrated to you that they are unwilling or cannot do - Iyanla Love yourself enough to know when it is time to leave - leave a job, leave a relationship, leave a situation. Love yourself enough to take action when you know action must be taken Love yourself enough not to eat the foods you know are unhealthy to your system on a regular basis Love yourself enough to not fill up your system with substances which numb you to what is the reality that you must face Love yourself enough to say NO Love yourself enough to say YES Love yourself ebough to know that you do not always have to be "right" Love yourself enough to treat your body with reverence and care - it is where you live while you are here on this plane Love yourself enough to get enough rest Love yourself enough to follow your intuition Love yourself enough to speak up Love yourself enough to not compare yourself to anyone else- you are divinel...

Making more money isn’t about some whiz/bang/boom strategy du jour.It’s about feeling safe in your self, feeling safe in your choices and knowing that no matter what… you got this and you won’t die.Going live on Facebook won’t’ kill you.Figuring out the “tech” won’t kill you.Making an offer won’t kill you.Heck, even getting rejected won’t kill you.But… staying the same… not changing… that is slowly killing your purpose and your soul . Mastin Kipp Mastin Kipp has a theory that blocking one's own financial improvement is linked to unhealed emotional trauma. I was digging this theory, it resonated with me in some way because it is linked to fear, not wanting to do something new for fear of hurt, rejection, uncertainty and perceived imbalance. Your nervous system does not want you to do anything new! Doing new things scare the crap out of me! Especially when it involves attracting crowds to events that I am responsible for. Luckily I have a group of sisters who "have my ...

If what you are thinking, saying or doing in response to any person or experience is not bringing you peace, CHANGE YOUR MIND! If your mind is flooded with memories and thoughts of a pain-filled past or a not-so-promising future, CHANGE YOUR MIND! You can do it, just like that! When you change your mind, the things you've been thinking about, worrying about, crying over, running from, will look completely different. It may not be that anything in the actual picture changes, however, your changed mind will alter the way you see it. Iyanla It always happens, always! I have been having a particular thought all week.  I am a firm believer in what manifests itself in my reality is only a reflection of what is in my consciousness. Outer reflects inner.  I truly believe that because we have free will,we can make our choices and there are consequences for each and every choice. So much so that we can change our minds when things are not working in our best interests. When we cha...

Where would you have me go? What would you have me do? What would you have me say? And to whom? –A Course in Miracles I was speaking with a dear friend, she was pretty excited about sharing what she was doing at the moment. The talk we were having shifted to purpose, she said now, she is clear about what her purpose is and was able to articulate it clearly and directly. She then asked me what was my purpose. I told her my purpose is how God/Universe decides to use me everyday until I am no longer here. She asked me if I am sure about that and of I can have more than one purpose. I arrived at this decision of what my purpose is through surrender, not surrender meaning giving up, surrender meaning totally trusting the Universe to guide me. I wanted to be an accountant, there was nothing else in my mind that I wanted to be. I did all the qualifications and graduated as an accountant. I wanted to be a Chief Financial Officer and worked hard to become one. I was fired and it ...

Without exception, when the moment of THIS NEEDS TO CHANGE, NOW , has arrived, all of us have felt side-swiped by that moment. It’s not convenient. It’s a moment that acts as both our albatross and our lighthouse, in equal measure. Kate Courageous  The time to change, the time for change,  the time for a shift happens for me when I am going through discomfort. When things in my life seem t be ging haywire. I don't usually know how this change  will manifest itself in reality and I have stopped wondering because usually when it manifests it blows my mind, because it is a gazillion times better than what I thought it would be. Sometimes it is hard, as humans we like comfort, we love certainty, we want assurance that all is well. In a transition period those are not guranteed...at all. But it doesn't always have to be hard, when we let go, it becomes easier. Letting go does not mean giving up or settling, it means trusting the process, doing the wrk and trusting your in...

We live in such an intentional universe. Everything that shows up is right on time and just what you need, and that includes the uncomfortable shit.  Stacy Herera Yesterday the International Women's Day celebrations  continued in the Mt. Dor Community, a small community in the East of Trinidad and Tobago. One woman who wanted to make a contributuion to the IWD Celebrations, decided to bring the women of the community together, I was humbled to be invited, I was happy that someone wanted to have an event in the community to celebrate women. As I drove up the hill, I asked a man on the road for the directions to the community center, the man gave me the directions and he said to me  "ask if you can park in the school it will be safer" Hmm I thought this will be interesting. I did not park in the school. I parked on the road, walked down the hill to the center as I l walked in women were cooking in the kitchen and the food was smelling soooo good!  I walked in t...

You have an abundance of friends on this journey, but every one of you feels somewhat alone . . . a common thread connects you to each other in your own ways . . . the connection increases with belief. Guru Singh Today I am going to see the movie Black Panther, I am taking some young ladies from the St Jude's Home for Girls. Some of my friends assisted me in making this happen and I really want to thank them for supporting me and these ventures that I dream up! The ability to show someone a different approach cannot be discounted, this is not to say that one way is the best way. The point I am making is that differences can be honoured and dealt with in a mature an sensible way. Also, seeing a different way of being also exposes us to new cultures, new aproaches, inspiration and sometimes answers to questions. I know I cannot solve all the issues that the young ladies from the St Jude's Home for Girls are faced with, I accept that. My intention really is to provide th...

Happy International Day lovlies! I am so happy that there is a day to celebrate our fabulousness Annual Nudge and Gentle Reminder for IWD's To me and my fellow sisters: 1. You are a prayer in the most holy mouth. The space between clasped hands. A landscape so picturesque at any angle, you are a reminder that magic exists. 2. Oh, they will stop and stare, you most divine creature with unapologetic skin and fearless features. LEARN to take a compliment. Settle into being the center of things. 3. When you fall in love, let it be with a person who asks nothing of you. Your existence should be enough. If they do not kiss you urgently and often, find someone who understands that lips in the presence of love should ignite passion. 4. Keep a few great friends. When they tell you harsh truths, learn to listen for the love. Growth is necessary and annoying at times but look and you will always find the silver lining. 5. Buy the perfect shade of red lipstick. It, like the p...