Your Life Gives You Feedback

 Your life is the feedback that lets you know what you are thinking and feeling - Iyanla Vanzant 

Hello lovies

I wanted to share a piece that I read from Lisa Olivera that resonated with me. I have felt myself emerging from something - what? I am not sure - reading this piece allowed me to not only recognise that there are others feeling a similar type of way, but it is okay to feel the feelings and go through the process.

I hope that something jumps out at you as well

Happy Reading

Not all parts of you will be ready to emerge at once. Some parts of you need to stay tucked away for awhile, cozy and waiting until it’s their time. You don’t need to rush the parts of you who aren’t there yet. The parts of you who are ready can usher the rest of you outward when the time comes… and it will come.

Being fully seen by others might bring rejection. They might leave. Your core fears might come true. Yet what resides within you is a depth of okayness that no one can take from you, whether or not they stay. You will keep growing this depth, this solid foundation of self-attachment that makes way for being your truest self with others regardless. And your fear won’t assure you there will be plenty of people who stay, but it’s true: there will be plenty of people who stay.

You can take baby steps. Small shifts. Micro moves. You can go slowly, tenderly, with the kind of care that comes natural to you. You can trust your pace. You can take in the view along the way instead of looking down in fear. You can notice the places you step out more confidently than you’re used to, the veering paths you surprise yourself by walking down, the choices you make that bring you closer to the vitality you seek. Look at you, doing it. Watch in awe.

You’re allowed to make the wrong decisions, fail, mess up, start over, get in over your head, need help, need your own depth of compassion and forgiveness while you emerge. You’re allowed to emerge and realize your emergence needed to take another direction. You’re allowed to emerge and recognize what still isn’t working. Emergence doesn’t require perfection or permanence. It just requires your willingness to keep going, to keep unfurling into your most real shape.

It isn’t all serious. You can take the process of emergence and the bigness of metamorphosis seriously without taking yourself so seriously. Keep saying “that’s what she said” to your husband; laugh when he rolls his eyes, smiling. Keep making up silly songs to try to lull your daughter back to the car. Keep reading and listening to things that don’t “help you grow”. Keep enjoying things for the sake of enjoying them. Take it all a little less seriously.

Your fear isn’t a sign something is wrong or gone awry. It’s just a reminder you’re still alive, still here. It’s just a reminder you’re doing something tricky, something new, something unknown. It’s just a reminder you’re letting yourself wade into uncertainty — the place where possibility lives.

You will be emerging into different iterations of yourself for the rest of your life. This isn’t your only shot, your one single chance to become who you really are. Your becoming is a forever process, continuously unfurling, ever-evolving, never finished. What a relief to know you don’t need to do it all now. What a relief to know there are countless more opportunities to step just one tiny step further into yourself. What a relief to let the unfolding be a forever thing. There is always more. There is always space.

Peace and Blessings