Perfection is a Trap

If you feel like you don’t have it all together, trying living that instead making your life about the ever constant fixing of that. Maxie McCoy

Who said that we had to have all together- all the time?
Well who told me that anyway?
Has anyone told you that?
Especially as an adult. The expectation is as an adult, we need to have our shit sorted, to have it all together. And if we don't somehow we are relegated to the pile of immature, acting like a child and some may go as far as  to call us crazy!

I have learnt that this constant push towards fixing and perfection is a trap.
It messes with our heads, especially if it involves peddling products to "fix" us! make us more pretty, more handsome, more curvy, more shapely, more educated, more smart and on and on and on...
I have learnt that life will do whatever is required to heal you. life you, save you or get your attention. Many times that involves doing things that may be uncomfortable. Acceptance and knowing makes the process of adulting easier! 
Knowing meaning having that belief that whatever happens we will be OK,  and we will deal with it accordingly. THis may not ever look like how we planned it to be.
We simply cannot predict every step of the way or know everything!
Many times, we come from a place of the past, and how we reacted in that moment. In a new moment we go back to that place to deal, some times the new moment requires a new response, this scares us. This is where the knowing comes in.If we don't believe in the knowing we react in the same old way and guess what? We get the same old result.
We have feelings as a guide, use the guide to lead you to a new place. When we ignore or give the guide too much juice we will get lost and take a longer time to learn the lessons along the way.
Live in the flow
Live in the now
Love the life you are in
Know that whatever happens you will be guided and will be ok
Feel all the feelings
and have some fun along the Journey
Peace


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