Keeping it Real

 Keeping it Real - Not being fake or influenced. Being true to yourself and your values, but more importantly, being true to innate values that all people acknowledge as respectable. Not frontin, or inhibiting yourself or pretending to be something your not; but also not following dominant values that should not be acceptable. The Urban Dictionary 

Growing up, my friends and I would play a game called "When Keeping it Real Goes Wrong"  We would enact these skits where we would show up real saying what is on our mind, no hold bards and pretend that what we said goes wrong with sound effects and consequences. We would laugh our faces off. 

Fast forward to the present , I am  now well aware that keeping it real can only go wrong in our heads. We tell ourselves the stories of doom and gloom, what could go wrong, how we can prove the other person wrong or justify our actions. Keeping it real, according to the definition above,  keeps us on the path to living an authentic life. Living an authentic life is where our power resides.

Have you ever had to do something challenging like have an uncomfortable conversation or end a relationship and you rehearse in your head what will and must happen leading to you making up elaborate stories in your head?  I have done this many times and every time, the story is more dramatic and more difficult that the reality when I actually work up the courage to finally do it.

Why not tell ourselves a different story if we want to make up stories as we approach these uncomfortable situations?

Be aware of the stories that you tell yourself. As Byron Katie says ask yourself  are the stories you make up true, is it really true? And are they sending you into an imaginary worry or panic?

Keeping it real may be challenging at times  however it is nothing in comparison to keeping it unreal!

Peace

Download Free Workbook - From Intentions to Actions