What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

When you are in lack, the lens through which you are looking at reality is still a conditioned, unconscious program that says,  Where is it?  If you are looking for something, you are separate from that thing because you are not feeling the emotions associated with having it. If you were feeling the emotions of love, you wouldn’t be looking for it—instead, you would feel like it has already happened . Joe Dispenza  Living in lack is a consciousness. Not withstanding that there are many people here and throughout the world that live without a regular supply of running water, food, and other basic necessities. This is a whole other conversation about how we value competition over collaboration and individuality over community.  What I am referring to is the mindset of scarcity over the one of abundance. The belief that what you desire is out of your reach, that you do not believe that all needs are always met. What I have learnt is... 1. All needs are met - they h...

  The medicine of gratitude - Danielle La Porte One of my favorite affirmations is "gratitude is the great multiplier"  When I say it I envision everything around me multiplying, the blessings and the lessons. Either way I am covered, I receive a blessing or I learn  and grow from the lessons. When I heard during a meditation - the medicine of gratitude this resonated so deeply to me. Gratitude heals. Gratitude soothes. Gratitude is a prayer. The moment that I step out of complaining, moaning and upset and just say "thank you", thank you for the blessing or the lesson, my mindset shifts. I stop resisting and start surrendering. The meditation of gratitude  came right on time for me, I started sinking into the hole of "when can we ever be "normal" again. That hole was dark and continued me down to meet other dark holes of feeling powerless and  disempowered. Focusing on gratitude I was now able to look where with different lenses with so much more pat...

  You work rather hard at sameness but you will never win that battle - Abraham Hicks I have learnt that we are all unique beings - different in many ways yet all connected and share similar stories. The moment I learnt and accepted that it became easier not just to be empathetic towards others also to stop comparing myself to others.  There are many who inspire me to raise my game, to act differently and make my life a demonstration to myself of what courage and love is. I have now realized that those who inspire me come to teach me. Rather than copy and compare, it became easier and easier to watch and learn, to be inspired. The society we live in now provides more information via social media and  the Internet. We see how others live. We search for likes, We want to be seen among the crowd. All of this  can lead to us comparing ourselves to others, wanting what others want and being the same. As Abraham Hicks said, you will never win that battle. You are...

  Love is freedom while attachment is control, all human beings walk in as a mixture of both when they enter into relationships. Yung Pueblo  I love the idea that the more self aware we are, the easier it is to let go of our attachments. On many occasions, our attachments come from a place of fear and control.  Our attachments come from a place of wanting things done in a particular way and not being very  flexible enough to see another way or surrender. According to Ying Pueblo "Attachments, our craving to have things exist in a very particular way, are the rocks that clog up the mighty flow of love. Our attachments are often molded by the hurt we have felt in the past. In this sense, attachments represent our inflexibility" Self awareness has allowed me to question and probe why I am attached to having things done or look a particular way. It allowed me to release the way things "should be done" and accept. The more self aware I became, the more accountable I...

  Personal and public crises, however, are opportunities for new possibilities. They are lessons, though often difficult, in becoming who we need to be in order to make the changes that will heal our lives. Crises are portals – should we choose to step into them – to a life beyond the one we experience now. Marianne Williamson If I am a believer that everything has a place and space, and that life is for us rather than against us, my actions must reflect this for thoughts, words and actions to align. There is a sincere belief in my heart that we are given lessons through the times and experiences within which we live. The world is going through an unprecedented time.  How are you using this portal?  How are you using this lesson? How are you reflecting on life? And this is not a denial of  what is happening. This is a facing of it in a way which reflects on who we are and what we stand for. What has been our own personal response to not just what is ha...

One of the main places people get stuck on their transformation journey is habits Lalah Delia  The research says that it takes between 30 and 40 days to form a habit and even longer to break it. Our habits adds up to how we live. We do so much on auto pilot that it becomes second nature. We do not even have to think about what we do as a habit, we just do it, effortlessly. Even when it is not in our best interest. Think of the things you do as routine, daily! Those routine things that we do subconsciously add up to the habits which form our lives. Our lives reflect our daily habits. Habits are what we do as routine, we do not even have to think twice about what we are doing. A habit is a decision, a choice.  What I have learnt is, my repeated choices and decisions become my habits. The healthy ones and the not so healthy ones. Your health - your habits help in determining them Your success - your habits help in determining them Your finances - they reflect your spending and sa...

  you know you’re growing when certain things don’t affect you the way they used to anymore. if you’ve learned to stand your ground and gained confidence in your boundaries, celebrate yourself for that. Vibrant Honey One sure way  I know that I am growing, healing and forgiving in how I respond to the situations around me. The last few weeks I have found myself paying more attention to my responses and asking myself- how am I healing, growing and forgiving in this time? My feelings have  become a guide and they are usually spot on. How I feel in the moment of response becomes a sign post of where I am in the growth and healing process. When I respond immediately in defense, in blame, in high upset with the high chance that once I am finished there is a distinct possibility that I will have to apologize or make amends, I know that there is still some healing, growth or forgiveness still to be done. When I take a pause before responding to a challenging conversation or sit...

all roads of the capitalist narrative lead to fast and busy like a good little machine. Something else is being asked of us now. I’m here for it. But it’s not that easy to halt, unravel, listen quietly and wait.  Chela Davidson A year ago, the soundtrack for my life was - "Busy and Got so Much to do"  I can safely say that the  tune has changed... Busy No Longer.  My schedule is not  jam packed . I'm not  back to back . And I'm definitely not  just trying to stay above water. But gosh do I have a lot going on. Like big life changes, really major projects, yes my friends, a lot. But I'm not that busy because  I refuse to be. Instead, I'm boundary'd. I'm creating the life that I believe that I now deserve. I'm curating empty space in my days. And what I am moving away from is to look at my schedule automatically feel anxious, stressed and like an underachiever.. I want to meet the new day where I'm at, and then act. Once upon a time not th...

  In extreme situations what do you do?   Iyanla Vanzant What would you describe as an extreme situation for you? I have learnt that an extreme situation, for me, is one which I know that I cannot fix, control, speed up or influence. The pandemic is an extreme situation. I have also learnt that extreme situations call for a different type of work. Not complaining, not whining, not fear, not following - that my friends is not work. The work is trust, faith, self belief and holding oneself accountable. When in an extreme situation, be mindful of judging, blaming, toxic spirituality and believing that you know it all. Extreme situations call for surrender whilst doing the work - faith without works is dead Extreme situations call for communion and communication with Source, with God, with the Universe Extreme situations call for minding your own business. Extreme situations call for commanding yourself in ways that are self affirming Extreme situations call for releasing shame an...

  Complaining is how adults cry   for help - Iyanla Vanzant I am getting ready for a challenge this upcoming week. It's called - "The Check Yourself Challenge"  Check yourself when you are complaining as a way to change the situation. Check yourself when your language and thoughts are self defeating, self debasing. Check yourself when you are not taking responsibility for your part in any action. Check yourself when you are not being present. Check yourself when you are blaming. Check yourself! So often we don't check ourselves, we look outside of ourselves for a scapegoat, a reason, a validation, a justification for our actions without checking ourselves first. When we check ourselves, we are able to take our power back, activate our power and make better choices. So, this week I am checking myself: Check yourself when you are not speaking up. Check yourself when you are shrinking to fit in. Check yourself when you are settling. Check yourself when are not being auth...

Somedays are like that when you are not sad but you are just quiet, when you are not angry or pissed but you just don't want to interact with anyone. You just want to sit quietly with nature and watch the sky or listen to flowing water. somedays you just want everything to slow down . Dead Poet There are days where I honor the quiet in me. There is nothing "wrong" or "off" I just feel quiet, that is it. It is also worth mentioning that many people think that my natural personality is a "quiet one" so when I feel to be quiet it goes up to a whole other level! What I have learnt is that there are some that are quite uncomfortable with this level of silence. For quite a while I felt a sense of responsibility to make others know that I was okay. I felt a responsibility to let them know that there was nothing wrong, I was not upset, and if I am out that it was no indication that I was not having a good time. It sometimes became so tiring that I would exit...

  Are you willing to grow? That’s what it says, untethered soul. Are you willing to untether yourself? Has nothing to do with life. Every one of you has just the right life that you need in order to go to God, period. Michael Singer  Many of us ask ourselves the question "What is the meaning of life?"  Some as "What is it about me that I am not able to get life right?" Others say "Life will happen when I get, achieve and have certain things or get into certain situations" What I have learnt is, starting off from a place of wrong, lack, not enough and waiting on the perfect conditions leaves us with a feeling that we are not ok. That we must do something, anything to live life right. We do not get out of life alive, everyone has to die and so the question to me has shifted to "what d I do with this time given here to live a life of joy, peace and love?" Shifting to this empowered question and knowing that I am ok starts me off on a totally differ...

  People act like balance not suppose to exist. It's completely normal to have bad days...bad weeks.. bad relationships.. duality ..learning from the hard times is what helps us appreciate the good . Turtle Breeze I am fascinated by the Law of Duality which basically says, using the old adage, that there are two sides of a coin, but there is one coin. Two extremes on the same spectrum. What particularly fascinates me about this spiritual law is the belief that right and wrong are judgments, that they are experiences and experiences are opportunities. What one learns from the experiences is what matters. According to the Soul Medic " Rather than good or bad; right or wrong, the key is to allow the experience to show you what is the direction for the highest potential of the seed of your Soul. We have all had experiences that initially proved unpleasant but they became the greatest thing that happened to us" The Law of Duality is about having an awareness of the spectrum up...

  To what degree have we bought in, consciously or unconsciously, to the messages that we’ve been bombarded with? Rha Goddess The world we live in is filled with information, data, facts and knowledge from various sources. Some of the information we receive comes from those very close to us- families passing on beliefs, traditions and rituals. Today, we have at our disposal social media and the Internet where we can, not only immediately, but constantly, have information at our fingertips. Over the last few days I have been looking at the details of the information that I have been consuming, particularly about the current Pandemic.  I have been asking myself lately am I thinking for myself? What are the messages being taken in, digested and internalized which abdicates me of the responsibility of thinking for myself? Of making informed decisions that honor me. When I started paying more attention to what information I have been  consuming. I learnt that a...

  When you get really obsessed with how “it’ll all turn out”, you’re robbing yourself of taking action...the very thing that builds your confidence . Maxi Mc Coy It's August, the Journey this month focuses on letting go. Upon self reflection, I realized that holding on was solely about certainty and having a guarantee. But is it really a guarantee? Over the  past few months I have learnt that there are very little certainties and even less guarantees in life. What are the things we hold on to because we believe that it is too late to make a change? it is too hard? it is too uncomfortable? it is too much hassle? What are you telling yourself that justifies and rationalizes you holding on? Are we holding on to thoughts, beliefs, people, situations, events because of the time we invested in it, because it brings us joy? What is beneath the holding on to situations that dishonor us? This month as I journey to letting go, I am paying attention to the thoughts th...