Respect and trust the process of change

 Respect and trust the process of change - Tasha Bee



Think about it, what is your natural and first response to change and uncertainty? Human beings love certainty, we want to be in control, in fact we live in the illusion that we have control over many things . We want to be and feel safe, knowing what is in front of us and what comes next makes us feel safe. Because of all of this, the usual response to change is resistance.

We resist change. We resist it until life says "no more resistance, let go and let's go" Life is neutral so when something happens, it really is a situation where we must change, let go or make a different choice.

What I have learnt is when we are in the midst of change and uncertainty, and there is resistance, no trust and no  respect, we suffer. Of course, we must take into account all of our feelings and ride those waves, feel the feelings and be self aware. In the midst of it all, letting go and trusting the process is key.

What does that mean? What does that look like?

1. Pay attention to what is going on in your life - do not ignore the signs, the pain, the coincidences.

2. Tell yourself the truth - with kindness and compassion. Only when you tell yourself the truth you are able to move forward 

3. Be willing to do a new thing - just a feeling of willingness will make a difference- affirm - I am willing to do a new thing

4. Stop making excuses, finding rationales, being defensive about the situation.

5. Love yourself through it- have patience, release the judgement.

6. Do something new and small daily - a simple thing like taking a new route to work or to home will show your brain something new.

7. Practice, Practice, Practice

Peace

September we go on a Self Awareness Journey- Four Week Immersive online Workshop. Join us, spread the word.

    Sign up Now - Welcome to Self Awareness - Tools for The Journey



Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

30 Things I Believe

Image
What is being of service? Looking upon another human being with kindness and compassion and not judgement is a profound act of service and though such a form of service lacks for whistles and bells, this expression of “service” comes from truly understanding the power of your soul and what it means to “look upon another with eyes of grace.” Carolyn Myss 1. I believe in sleep 2. I believe that love can cure it all  3. I believe in feeling my feelings 4. I believe that nature is my best teacher 5. I believe that friends are family minus blood lines 6. I believe that discipline and consistency combined with talent  can and will can create miracles 7. I believe in following my intuition 8. I believe that rest is part of the Journey 9. I believe in that all things are lessons that God will have us learn 10. I believe in choosing the people around you with care 11. I believe that vacations can reboot creativity  12. I believe in joy - doing what brings you joy - and often 13
Read more

What Does Support Look Like to You?

Image
  You save yourself energy when you learn to ask people what they need, instead of assuming you know best then acting on your own impulses. Allowing people to define what support looks like gives you an ability to assess if you have the capacity to show up - Minaa B If someone asks you right now, what does support look like to you, what would be your answer? It takes self reflection , self awareness and more importantly a whole load of authenticity to answer. On the flip side, do you rush to support others without them even asking- there may be times when that is required, however many a time we assume that we know what others want and need. The times when we do assume, after a while a feeling of resentment builds because "how could they be so ungrateful?" or "why are they not seeing their need for my help?" the other classic is "they must need my help to show them because they clearly are not seeing that they need support" We continue to assume what othe
Read more

Sensible Optimism

Image
  Optimism is usually defined as a belief that things will go well. But that's incomplete. Sensible optimism is a belief that the odds are in your favor, and over time things will balance out to a good outcome even if what happens in between is filled with misery. And in fact you  know  it will be filled with misery. You can be optimistic that the long-term growth trajectory is up and to the right, but equally sure that the road between now and then is filled with landmines, and always will be. Those two things are not mutually exclusive." Who told us that all the roads on the Journey of life will be smooth and bump free? And even if you knew or remember who told you, why did you believe it given what you know? What if the blessing, what if the growth, what if the joy is found on the rocky bumpy road? What if? And if it is, we can rest easier that the bumps and rocky roads are designed with us in mind, designed for us to grow, to learn, to live a life that is filled with varie
Read more