In this Place I Serve

Yes, you are expected to help people when you are able.
Yes, you should share resources, exchange information, support those who need support.
But when will you let go and allow people to figure it out for themselves?
If you keep doing for people what they must learn to do for themselves, they will never learn to do it
This does not honor people.
It does not honor you - One Day My Soul

How do we know when it is time to step away from a situation?
How do we know when to support from close or from afar?
How do we know when we are enabling a situation?

I have learnt we know how to navigate the situation when we have clear boundaries and accept that when or if these boundaries are crossed we can have a conversation about the consequences.
I have learnt that wanting to control everything puts us in a situation of focusing on others rather than focusing on ourselves. You see, to focus on ourselves involves courage and maybe facing some home truths that we prefer to ignore
People have their own journeys, as much as we want what's best for them, sometimes that "best" is mixed up with our own judgement and guilt and failed dreams. Sometimes that "best" is what we think is best for them without taking into consideration their own desires.
We cannot live in other people's lives, then who will live in our's?
We cannot dream other people's dream- who will dream our's
We cannot fix anyone!
We can still say no and give love and support
Life can go on if other people's choices don't mesh with our own
Peace

The Why Are You in Barbados Tour Kicks off tomorrow
Come share lessons on the Journey

Have you read any of Akosua's work?



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