Who Are Your People?


 if they are not growing you, pushing and elevating you, feeding you (and, vice versa) what purpose are they/you really serving? Nah! J. Leon

Who are the people in your circle?
Who are your people?
Who are the ones that keep it real with you?
The ones that call you out?
The ones that let you know that you are being a jerk- all with love
The ones that celebrate your wins and mourn your losses?
Do you know who your people are?
Do you even care?
Listen to your body when you are around your "people"
How do you feel? do you honour the feelings, listen to them? Let them guide you?
This requires awareness, courage, honesty, vulnerability and work.
You have to do the work!
There are people who are around us because of time, history, and comfort. This works well when they are the ones who are around you who are honest, authentic and fanning your flames. If they do not, then its a drain on your own soul.
There is fall out to choosing the people in your life intentionally. People may take it personally, you may have to grieve the ending of somethings but its all part of the lessons on the journey.
I have been blessed to have a circle of people around me who "keeps it real", they call me out, they celebrate the wins and support the journey. I do my best to do the same for them.
Some people will fall out of your life and it will hurt, you may not even know why, they may never tell you. Trust in that and seek the lessons.
It took work building my circle! It took being present on the Journey and I am so much better for it. I am still learning to let go of some of the people who in fact let me go, and learning to deal with my own feelings of guilt in letting others go.
My friend in South Africa, bless her, greets me every time - "Hello My People" because we are each other's people!
Who are your People?
Peace
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