What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

What Mask(s) Do I wear?  At home. . .   At work. . . In family relationships. . . In intimate relationships. . . In the world. . . Iyanla Vanzant  I was listening to one of my favourite truth tellers Iyanla Vanzant, she was talking about masks. What masks do we wear and why.  I thought it was in interesting question. Wearing a mask says that I don't want my real face to be seen. My true self to be seen, I want to show the world something else. The question is why Why would I not want to show people who I am to protect myself? If I want to protect myself it must feel that I am not protected. Why else do I feel to wear a mask, to put up a wall a wall that will not penetrate to hurt me Avoidance! There is in our minds benefits of wearing a mask.  We feel it helps us. Having listened to Iyanla, self reflection says to me that looking at the masks I wear and why is important in the life that I am living. What am I scared of?...

In order to love who you are, you can’t hate the experiences that shaped you - Andrea Dykstra One of the best lessons that I have learnt is that for everything and every experience we are either teaching or learning. The faster we get clear on which one is happening, the easier it becomes to navigate through this life of ours. Acknowledgement and acceptance are two extremely important factors which help us gain that clarity. As Iyanla Vanzant says "we have to call a thing a thing" so if we call a pig a bird and feed it bird food, the pig may either die or lose weight, it will not become a bird. And so we have to face all the parts of us in moving forward, we not like it, we may not love it, facing it does not mean that we must. It is part of the ingredients that make us who we are, the flavour, the juice. The whole cannot be whole until everything is involved. Your experiences is not who you are. Your thoughts are not who you are. They play a part in determining h...

What I have discovered is that some people unwittingly fight to retain ownership of the very limitations that  cause their suffering. Iyanla Vanzant I know that I am in resistance when I am fighting to be right. When I am in defence mode. When I am making justifications, reasons and excuses. When I am not open to hearing a different point of view. When I am getting hot around the ears, I start sucking my teeth, I know that I am in resistance mode. When I know it is the truth.I get defensive. I don't want to be wrong. Who wants to be wrong? But no matter how much we get annoyed, deflect and blame, we have to take responsibility for our lives, we are the ones to make the change I have started with being open to listening, then I move on to really being conscious of the thoughts that I entertain. What we think determines how we act and how we feel Being a slave to my thoughts - the negative ones are a set up for a life filled with repeating of old patterns. We really do h...

Love’s frequency is powerful. Every soul that I’ve connected with has came into my life unforced, through natural vibrations. The gravitational pull between two souls on love’s frequency is unmatched. Doesn’t matter the distance or location, those souls will connect. Boi McCoy I give thanks for all the people who joined me on the journey at some point in my life. There are some who have gone on to their own path. I give thanks for them as well. The struggle that came out of them leaving my life was me wanting to hang on to the relationship, the friendship, the past as it always was. The lesson was - do not water dead things! If the love is there it matters not when the relationship changes, there will be no forcing, only flowing. Distance and time will not stop the flow It has been a lesson that I have taken quite a while to learn Love never runs out, it just changes form. Peace Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Lucia https://www.crcaconference.com/ Have you...

The only thing I ever really know is that all is well . Melissa Infinity Very often, we define ourselves by what we want or dream of.  Yet when our lives shape us differently we often think we have failed, that we are settling for less, because we weren’t good enough to become or have what we wanted.  Certainly, as we experience our limitations this sometimes feels true, yet even through our limitations we evolve rather than fail do not be afraid of evolution, it is th e revolution of you The truth is what we want or dream of doesn’t always last. It tends to serve its purpose in our evolution & then fades away, losing its relevance at that point in time on our journey & we do enormous damage to ourselves by insisting on carrying on what has in fact died I was fired as the Chief Financial Officer of a company & because being an accountant defined me as I worked damm hard at becoming a young & successful one, I literally lost my...

Your friends either go through this inner transformation with you or drift out of your life. Some relationships dissolve, others deepen. Eckart Tolle I was having a conversation with a colleague yesterday about her weekend and a party she attended, which ended off with her saying that she had no friends to call anymore at short notice who will go partying with her. Her statement got me to thinking. Who would I call to go with me to a party at short notice or at all? I came to realise that I have different people in my life for different times and reasons and when I attempt to force them into different boxes it causes me stress. My party hearty friends - I love them to bits, I see them during Carnival time where we party like there is no tomorrow. When that time is over we go back to our lives and countries until Carnival rolls around again. Not to say that we don't keep in touch during the year but we know Carnival is our time. My running buddies, I see them for the weekly...

Self-love shifts your awareness. It’s bigger than what’s on the outside. Your attention must go inward, and you’ll have to ask yourself tough questions. Along the way, as you uncover self-truths, you’ll run into parts of yourself that you’ve tried to escape, parts of you that you’ve long warred with. Some days will be harder than others, and it will get ugly before you find beauty in the process. It will be uncomfortable, but you will grow . Kestrel Ambrose I always go back to love, self love. Confessions on the Journey, the last few days has been challenging. Situations not going as I expected or planned, sent me into a small spiral of doubt and the questioning of self. Self Love saved me from heading directly into the rabbit hole Not the one where I go to the spa, get a massage, do my hair and pedicure. Though all very nice and I love doing those. The internal type where I pull out the affirmations, I sit in the discomfort and ask some questions, the one where I decide, wher...

Self Care is taking your power back - Lalah Delia What do you want to make happen? What is your it? What do you have to do to make it happen? What is occupying your mind on a daily basis?  What is the most important thing on your mind? Is it positive or destructive? These are some questions, if we answer honestly and authentically ought to have us thinking and acting. So again I ask what are you willing to do to make it happen? Willingness is an expression of being ready, eager or prepared to do something. So are you willing? Making it happen starts with a consciousness of willingness. Once you are prepared to just be willing, you can take action.  If anyone asks me what can I do to make it happen, I always say “Do something!” There is always, always always something you can do You can help your neighbour You can feed somebody You can talk to somebody Do something wherever you are Each and everyone of us has a responsibility and tha...

Someone hurting you should not be an excuse to hurt them back to make yourself feel better or superior, but instead learn to place a boundary that it’s not okay to do what was done to you, you are not anyone’s dumpster or feelings caretaker unless you agree to be and help with. Trey Wings Boundaries are essential for a peaceful and self-directed life. There must be some sort of assessment of self which leads to knowing what is acceptable to you. What makes you comfortable. What makes you thrive. What gives you that level of self respect. Boundaries is not about shutting others out and putting up a wall or fence around you, it is about having the knowledge of self and the courage to let others know what is okay with you. If we have little or no knowledge of self, if we have little or no self respect it will be very difficult to set boundaries. Challenges with that include excessive people pleasing, putting others first to the detriment of your health and well being. Saying no w...

Today’s a good day to ask yourself, why do I do the things I repeatedly do? Is this an old habit I picked up? Am I consciously choosing this? Is it because everyone else does it? Am I being a follower? Am I being intentional with my behaviours ? Am I mind controlled? Maryam Hasnaa Asking yourself questions can be a guide to a conscious life. So many of our actions are so much based on habit. The saying goes that it takes 30 days to form a habit and a lifetime to break it, depending on their consciousness. Ask yourself why honestly, and see what you come up with. Peace Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Lucia https://www.crcaconference.com/ Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here? Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal Follow Akosua on Twitter Instagram Faceb ook

What you call “luck” is only possible if you’ve prepared for it—if you’ve put yourself in luck’s way. Yes, you have to get up and leave where you are now, a place of waiting and hoping, to meet it. Try to move a little closer today. Keep moving. Maggie Smith When someone says "You have to make your own luck" I really take it seriously. Luck has to involve preparation, it has to involve being ready, it has to involve showing up. Luck just does not happen by chance. It is a meshing of factors that allows us to take full advantage of the situations and opportunities that are placed in front of us. A big part of luck is our mindset of taking risks and believing in ourselves and what we want to do and achieve. If this is missing, opportunities will come and we may be either fearful of them or wait for that proverbial "sign" So when someone tells me that I got lucky or I am lucky. I now say yes with a smile because I have been preparing, I have been putting in th...

what is yours cannot be denied to you. universal house rules. Joel Leon Your gift makes room for you. Your purpose makes room for you. They cannot be denied What do you love doing, creating, getting involved in? That is where you start It may or may not make you a million bucks but trust me it will make you happy, it will bring you joy. That happiness and joy will transfer onto other areas of your life making you an all-round nice person to be around for yourself and others. Fighting to have what some one else has, I have learnt is a complete waste of time. Your gifts are waiting for you, your blessings are waiting on you. It sits in trust until you are ready to do the work, to show up, to believe, to know that challenges will come, to rest when tired. Are you ready? Peace Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Lucia https://www.crcaconference.com/ Have you read any of Akosua's work? What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self...