It's an Inside Job

Never make anyone else responsible for your happiness. Iyanla Vanzant

 Happiness is an inside job. I have read that, I have heard that but I have never really felt that until now. The responsibility for my happiness lies with me.
When I depended on external events and people for happiness, I was left wanting. If they did not do the thing that "would make me happy" I would be sad.

 If my football team won I would be happy, if they lost I would be in such a foul mood.

If the weather was warm- happiness, if it was not- sourness!
So confusing to my system.
I was willing to make my happiness my own job, it took some practice but this is what I did:
1. I wrote down what make me happy that I could do for myself when sliding in the pool of sourness
2. I practised what was on the list - every day I did one thing that made me happy
3. I let go of the result, of wanting things my way when I have no control, things like the weather, the football game - nothing to do with me. The football took some practice though I must admit
Those 3 simple steps truly changed my outlook and of course my mood.
I think it was more than just me that benefited from the shift!
Peace
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