What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

  surrender is always an option in every moment of our lives. Daily OM Confessions on the journey - Surrendering and letting go of my way is a tough one for me. Surrender requires trust, faith, patience and courage. It requires an inner knowing that whatever happens I will be well equipped with the tools to handle it.   When I am uncertain, or cannot understand what is in presented to me, I look to find certainty, assert control and find understanding. This process looks sometimes like me stating my point numerous times, I push the limits - I press all buttons. It also looks like overthinking - I make stories up to help me understand. And the stories are usually of little or no help. After all, they are not real! I have been journaling, meditating and using affirmations.  My favorite affirmation and prayer has been "I surrender all"  Sums it up nicely - all of it! every single thought, story, message, and action - I surrender it all. I give up the need to ...

  You’re blooming, healing, and ascending. Be patient with this upgrade . Deion I have noticed a  pattern, I run yet I stay in te same place, all with the aim of getting to another versi on of myself. The version that gets the lesson minus any of the pain, challenges, discomfort of hard changes. I have been running fast towards the learning of the lessons, quickly and easily, exerting myself to get "there" Where exactly is "there?"  I am now learning that  "there" may not even exist. There is only here Here. Now. Right Now. This place. This life. This body. Here where I am - right now. The lesson, the version of me, the arrival to "there" minus the challenges, the discomfort, the wounds, where I can finally be "lesson learnt", comfortable, an ideal version of me relies on me trusting that I can meet myself where I am, that I can handle whatever it is that is in front of me, that I can live in the here, in the now minus the running, fix...

  Letting go is hard but holding on when you're losing yourself is harder . Alex Elle Over the past week I have been told my different people that I love my comfort zones, I stay too long in a situation and its time to do something new. Now why would I ignore these signs? I must be nuts to ignore the Universe sending me these nudges through so many different avenues. I looked at it differently - of course I did!  I am in total agreement, I am looking at it differently What have I learnt about Letting Go? 1. It's damm hard. Especially when I believe that I am losing control, losing and uncertain- all ego driven actions - Faith and Trust are the qualities that support me when it gets hard. 2. Letting go is not losing or failing - I like to think about it now as surrendering to the process, to the higher power - Acceptance of what is in front of me makes it easier. 3. Letting go is saying to the Universe I have done all that I can - over to you U! (Universe) 4.  Letting go i...

  Not only am I good enough. I am more than enough - Angela Bassett Recommitting to self, I seem to have forgotten! This is where I am making a declaration Ten Commitments I am making to Value Myself  Consistently eating healthy foods that nourish my body.  Saying no to things I don't want to especially if it dishonors me. Saying yes to things that I usually say no to out of fear of looking bad or upsetting others. Telling the truth even though it may piss people off. Living in that truth. Asking for what I want Resting and resting well Speaking to myself with love and kindness Setting boundaries and keeping them even when hard Not bargaining my own worth Paying attention and listening to my intuition - my divine guidance  Peace and Blessings I DeClare - Download your free guide Akosua's Books Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? Now What? The Flipside What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

  the work you do on yourself will show in the connections that stay and in the ones that fade away, the work you do on yourself will show in the energy you tolerate and in the vibrations you reject. the more inner work you do, the more shifts you start to see in your outer world. Billy Chapata   The work you do ON  yourself  - this is the line that drew me to the quote above by the wonderful poet Billy Chapata. What am I doing ON myself, FOR myself. Life has this way of doing whatever it must to get your attention. So even when ignore the work on ourselves, Life will reflect back to you wherever you are And usually the changes, the shifts, the motion starts inside - The most famous inside job. My habit has been at the end of a year to regroup, to set goals, objectives, a vision for the next year. I have been doing this for quite a number of years. This year was the first time I contemplated changing it, then life happened. So many changes happened on the last d...

  Change requires us to make a choice: Do we settle and stay the same, or do we press forward, get uncomfortable, and learn from what's in front of us? Alex Elle This morning as I was journaling, I asked myself what am I doing differently in situations I claim that I want change. What am I doing to make a change, to shift a habit, to honour the change that I so want in my life? What I have learnt is that doing the same thing, in the same way brings very little change. If any at all. I have also learnt that the comfort of knowing that sometimes that old way works, I would be relentless with my approach. I would continue to use it in the hope and prayer that this time it works. I f I read it somewhere, well even worse, I would stick with this approach and there would be no turning back. I now know that  making a change requires doing new things, feeling uncomfortable, leaving things and people behind and feeling all my feelings. It has not been the easiest thing that I have done...

 Humanity and Decency over Perfectio n - Elizabeth Gilbert Kemi Neckvapil's definition of Power in her book " A Woman's Guide to Leading and Leading without Apology" has gotten me so excited that I felt it my duty to share. It resonated to me in such a profound way, I love it and would also love to hear your thoughts POWER P: PRESENT  Be present to what is working in your life, to what is not working. Be present to ourselves and with ourselves so that we can be authentically present to other people. When we are present it has an impact on how we show up in the world. O - OWNERSHIP Take full ownership of our stories, those we have been told, those we have witnessed, those who have made up, those we have lived and those we have experienced. When we integrate all of those stories, the good, the bad, the ugly, allows us to feel powerful in the world instead of hiding. W-WISDOM We all have an incredible internal wisdom, yet it is trained out of us at a very early age. Tru...

  make more room for you. more space to make mistakes without attaching resentment to yourself, more patience with yourself in your regretful moments, more love to the beautiful parts of you that you’ve hidden out of shame, give yourself permission to create infinite possibilities . Billy Chapata Eleven things I am making room for: 1. New Adventures - making room for this will require me saying and having a strong YES when invited to do new things, go new places and come out of the familiarity zones that I have created for myself. 2. Making mistakes sans self judgement - stop beating up on self particularly if its a new adventure, new experience and new project 3. Consistent self care - consistently eating healthier foods that nourish me, consistently resting and taking time to renew and revive 4. Being grateful - for it all! 5. Surrender - letting go of the need to control, fix, make right, be liked. 6. Doing more things that I like - why wait for a special occasion or make excus...

  Willingness - You must be willing to do what you believe you cannot, and acknowledge what you've avoided. Yes, this can be painful, but when you are unwilling to see things—and people—as they are, you can't deal with the problem, and I can guarantee your situation will be prolonged . Iyanla Vanzant  Understanding the principle of  willingness was a turning point for me on my journey. When I finally got it, it changed the way I viewed challenges and so many other areas on my journey. I ask myself in the moment "Am I willing? Am I willing to see this differently? Am I willing to listen? Am I willing to pause? Am I willing to do something different? Am I willing to drop the righteous behavior's? Am I willing to be wrong? Am I willing to do a hard new thing? Am I willing to change the perception of myself? Am I willing to change what I do daily? Willingness is to consider just for a moment. Consider the thing. Just consider it. This is the first step. Rather than compl...

  Help me to see new ways of being as I release old ways of seeing ACIM A dream will stretch you, that thing you know you must do that you are not doing will stretch you. Until you Own and Claim It, there will be tension, there will be denial, there will be struggle, there will be procrastination. Until you own it and claim it Own it is to believe it, accept it, acknowledge it to YOURSELF Claim it - when you acknowledge it to others, when you are willing to be seen as "it" The truth about who you are Your talent Your big dream The lies you have told yourself Your divine calling Who you are What you want to do Own it & Claim it Peace I DeClare - Download your free guide Akosua's Books Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? Now What? The Flipside What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

  When you let go, you create space for something infinitely better to come into your life . Sue Morter My mind is sometimes like an untrained puppy! it runs around and around and around and will not stop until its tired or something stops it. In my case the something is meditation, prayer, sleep or speaking to a group of people preferably on a stage. I have noticed that the "untrained puppy" comes out when I have to surrender my way, when I have to let go, when I cannot fix or control anything. The puppy barks - makes up stories The puppy barks- wants attention The puppy barks - chases the tail until it gets exhausted Why? The difficulty of letting go, surrendering and fixing it to look like I want it to, the fear of "losing" I have had to affirm to myself over and over again that letting go is not loss, letting go is growth. Life goes on, there is nothing that anyone can do to stop life, so it really is up to us when we are in situation when we know we have to let...

  What are you still believing about yourself that is no longer true?  What are you leaving behind in 2022? I am leaving behind unhealthy relationships I am leaving behind self-doubt I am leaving behind judgement of self and others I am leaving behind toxic relationships I am leaving behind negative self talk I am leaving behind procrastination I am leaving behind people pleasing I am leaving behind not having boundaries I am leaving behind unhealthy eating habits  I am leaving behind excuses, reasons and rationale for bad behavior - mine and others  I am leaving behind defensiveness - being defensive when the truth is told and it is uncomfortable I am leaving behind attaching my worth to external validation, external trinkets, people, places and things. What are you leaving behind in 2022? Peace I DeClare - Download your free guide Akosua's Books Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? Now What? The Flipside What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Uncond...