Do you hold yourself Accountable?

 A person who is not accountable to anything is a danger to themselves and others - Iyanla Vanzant 




I was listening to a podcast last week with Iyanla Vanzant, she spoke about holding yourself accountable. What does that mean and how do you hold yourself accountable to anything or anyone?

What is that thing that says I have to raise my game, I have to show myself and others respect, I must be disciplined? Do you have anything that guides you to that place?

Some use religion and spirituality

Some use honoring their family

Some use their children

Iyanla in her conversation talked about how her grandmother swept floors, and cleaned toilets so that she and her brother could eat and go to school - she holds herself accountable to the memory of that and would not dishonor her grandmother by "wasting" her life.

Holding yourself accountable I have interpreted as doing your best in the moment, it means recognizing and remembering that there are Universal laws and principles that guide how we live and living up to them, for example, the law of cause and effect. For every action you take there is a reaction which comes back to you in some way/ Holding yourself accountable is taking responsibility for your actions, rather than blaming others or playing victim.

Holding yourself accountable means living with a level of integrity even when no one is looking, doing that you say you will do, first to yourself. Making agreements that you can keep and keeping agreements that you make - first to yourself.

Having compassion and exercising forgiveness - first to self.

Its a powerful thing.

How do you hold yourself accountable?


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