Lessons from Spending time in Stillness

 I know some of you are in the cocoon stage right now. You don’t want to do small talk. You’re craving time at home. And you might be thinking: “What’s wrong with me?” The answer is: nothing. You’re on the path to healing.  Dr Nicole LePera



I have been in a cocoon for a few months! So this is what it was. Dr LePera has described what I have been  feeling and experiencing. 

Being in this cocoon stage looks like spending time in stillness, it looks like meditating, journaling, like not being busy, like setting boundaries with no guilt, it looks like less mindless scrolling on social media, it looks like spending time on the beach, by rivers, in the forest. Its an uncomfortable time, it may involve losing some friends, upsetting family who cannot understand the choice to spend time in silence and stillness.

If you are constantly busy, on the move and get validation from externa sources being still, silent and spending time alone, this shift will feel different. What I have learnt is:

1. Resting is more than sleeping eight hours a night, it is a rejuvenation of the mind, body and spirit.

2. Sitting in stillness sharpens intuition- our guiding voice thrives in silence, it really is a still small voice.

3. There is nothing that you will be missing when you sit an event out - what is for you is for you.

4. Upon emergence from the time out, there will be new friends and old friends - be ready.

According to Dr LaPera " We don’t need to “earn” rest: think about the last time you rested. Did you call yourself lazy? Did you have those thoughts in your head of all the things you “should” be doing? Was there a list of things you told yourself you had to get done before you earned rest? Most people have this inner narrative that makes rest something to earn. In reality, rest is productive. It helps our body recover, soothes inflammation, and gives us a better ability to regulate our emotions."

Peace and Blessings

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