Building Self through Practicing Honesty

 Part of building better, stronger relationships requires us to be more honest with ourselves and the people we care for. E.B Johnson


Living peacefully in this world requires us to have solid, compassionate and honest relationships - starting with self.

The first relationship we must have, work on, be comfortable with is with ourselves- this is where it all starts.

Fostering and caring for ourselves takes time, effort, commitment and discipline. Without these pillars, every other relationship that we have will continue to reflect the lessons and work still required with self.

Ask yourself:

1. Do you prioritize time with self? doing something you like, resting, getting to know what you like and don't like?

2. Do you show self compassion? How do you speak to yourself in challenging times, when in doubt and when you encounter uncertainty?

3. Do you question the beliefs and values that you were given? Are they serving you on your own journey? Or are they in your life because it was handed down to you? If they are not serving you, question why do you still follow and believe in them.

Being honest with ourselves can sometimes be tough, embracing our shadow side, embracing feelings that may be uncomfortable. It takes practice. I have learned that looking into the mirror and facing myself helps, It is so difficult to see me and make up a story.

The process is still uncomfortable at times but has gotten easier with time and practice.

I have also learned that being honest with myself makes it easier to be honest with others.

Peace



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