Forgiveness is BIG!!!!!!!
FORGIVENESS MEANS . . . accepting what is or what has been and becoming willing to see it differently. You cannot un-hear what you have heard or un-see what you have seen. What you can do is stop believing that what occurred has somehow left you broken, damaged and wounded. Forgiveness results in a shift in your perception and yourself and . . .everyone else. For this reason, forgiveness is an absolutely essential step toward your personal growth, healing and evolution. YOU MUST DO THE WORK! IyanlaAn excerpt from my recently published book "What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Love"
Forgiveness is huge! It was the transport needed to get me to the
destination of unconditional self love. I honestly believe that without
forgiving and forgiveness the journey takes longer and is definitely
bumpier. In fact if you haven’t packed forgiveness you might as well
stay at home! It’s really that huge! Forgiveness is not condoning the act
but it is clearing the slate clean for a new beginning, its getting rid of
dead weight and relieving you of unwanted burdens. One of the best
definitions of forgiveness I heard was from Oprah “Forgiveness is giving
up the wish that the past could be different” the past is gone, let yourself
off the hook, let the other person off the hook and move on. I started
the journey and left forgiveness at home, not for Jay but for everyone.
It was a challenge, let me tell you, I was so focused on winning, on
looking good, keeping up the fake funk I never even paid attention to
the anger that I had raging inside!
In my life up to then anger was a bad thing, growing up showing anger
well forget it, there would be a whipping no questions asked, then
getting with Jay thought that getting angry was ghetto, there would be
no anger scenes around him its either we discuss it rationally or not at
all! So anger was not a huge feature in my world, and so I had to find
other ways to express myself in the angry moment. This approach has
helped me somewhat in my life as reaction is not a huge feature in how
I approach situations on the f lip side though not expressing my feelings
took a toll on my psyche and confused the hell out of me. I would not
advise it for relationships though. Have the courage to express your
feelings, to say what you need and then make a choice based on the
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